Domakir
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Post by Domakir on Sept 10, 2016 11:15:48 GMT
Haven't been in a serious relationship so no break up story to share, I'm afraid. I can offer this though. (Though I'm told whiskey is better for these things. I'm bad at the comforting stuff...)
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Post by Beregond5 on Sept 10, 2016 11:23:42 GMT
Oh, fine. XD
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Post by Shepenwepet on Sept 10, 2016 12:16:01 GMT
Mostly amicable breakups here. If I ran into any of my exes on the street, I wouldn't feel uncomfortable. One of them looks pretty scary now, with his crazy tattoos, shaved head and those disgusting giant discs in his earlobes, I probably wouldn't even recognize him. And I'd give him a wide berth. One of my exes, I had long been convinced that he was 'the one that got away.' I'd tried to get transferred to his school, because we rarely had a chance to see each other otherwise. Classes were full. That was pretty much the end of it. Looking back now, though... I just might have dodged a bullet. Another ex became an ex because he would not leave me alone. For example, back in the wonderful days of dial-up internet, when someone would call the house and I was online, a window would pop up and inform me of this fact, and show who was calling. And it would slow everything the hell down. If I'm trying to do something and you call twenty times in as many minutes, you had better be in some serious trouble. And if you ARE in serious trouble, maybe consider calling someone else if there's no answer. When I was finally able to call him back, I had an apology ready, and was dreading to hear the reason for all the calls. Then he says "Just wondering what you were up to." Really. He'd called twenty times. Twenty. That was just the tip of the iceberg. When I'd finally had enough and told him so, it was over the summer so I didn't have to risk running into him every day. When school started again, I expected things to be a bit weird between us, but they weren't. We'd gone back to being friends, which is the way we should have stayed. Not the close friends we used to be, and we eventually lost touch, but I wasn't that torn up about it. For starters, people are often just encouraged to be in relationships, that's seen as good regardless if you are really wanting one. The fact is there is nothing wrong with being.. "single" Please explain this to... pretty much everyone I know. My grandmother once flat-out lied to someone, saying I had a boyfriend but that she "didn't think it was serious." She must have thought this was somehow doing me a favor. When she told me she'd said this, I asked her why, she just shrugged and said "I don't know." I know why. She obviously thinks that being single in your thirties is something to be ashamed of. The only thing she thinks is worse than being single? Finding love online. "Why can't they find someone where they are? There's gotta be something wrong with them." I'm tempted to ask her what's wrong with me, since I never found anyone where I am. I know she wouldn't give me a straight answer though.
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Post by House Targaryen on Sept 10, 2016 18:03:44 GMT
Been single too long. I've been a member of this club too long.
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Post by Nightman on Sept 10, 2016 18:09:32 GMT
Not so much a break up as it was something that I ended before it even started. On a 1st date, I took this girl to an italian restaurant and we decided to split a pizza...we ordered different toppings for each side of it..I went with plain cheese w some extra sauce....when the waiter asked her what she would like...her reply was pineapple. Nope. I'm out of here. I made an excuse, something like my house was on fire or I had to return some videotapes and left.
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Post by Solas on Sept 10, 2016 18:36:53 GMT
I never broke up, because I never had anyone close in my life. WOW i am deeply hurt and offended right now
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Post by GruntKitterhand on Sept 10, 2016 19:32:05 GMT
Well, there was that time my wife ran off with my best friend. I do find it hard to talk about sometimes because even after 16 years I really find myself missing him occasionally. I did actually meet him one dark night a couple of years later and had the chance to kick the living shit out of him, as I'd threatened to do if the opportunity presented itself - mostly egged on by other mates who thought he deserved it. I knew they'd split up too by that stage and when the time came I actually shook hands with him and told him "No hard feelings." Of all the things I've done in my life that's possibly the one I'm proudest of. I'd had enough time to breathe and had realised that my marriage was absolutely miserable, so he basically did me a favour. Betrayal is betrayal though, and I haven't seen him since. Still, fourteen difficult months was better than fourteen years. I know, I've since had ten happy years (ongoing) with someone immeasurably better suited to me. And as has been noted, Seinfeld usually has wisdom to help you through things like this.
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Post by opuspace on Sept 10, 2016 20:59:16 GMT
That's what I love about this place. You can share your story and find others to relate to.
My own experiences are just too head bangingly dumb to share. But I can say that sometimes it's much better to break up than carry on. I've been friends with a couple that seemed to have the closest, most loving relationship ever. Turned out, it was an extremely toxic affair with abusive elements and after a prolonged on again off again drama, a college equivalent of a restraining order had to be issued and they're now several hundred miles apart. Yeah...I know some people can feel like a break up seems like a failure, but sometimes it's the best thing to happen in order for lives to get better.
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Post by opuspace on Sept 10, 2016 21:03:31 GMT
Not so much a break up as it was something that I ended before it even started. On a 1st date, I took this girl to an italian restaurant and we decided to split a pizza...we ordered different toppings for each side of it..I went with plain cheese w some extra sauce....when the waiter asked her what she would like...her reply was pineapple. Nope. I'm out of here. I made an excuse, something like my house was on fire or I had to return some videotapes and left. Ew. Pineapple. I know people love it. Will never understand it.
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Post by Serza on Sept 10, 2016 22:41:46 GMT
You broke up with someone over PINEAPPLE?
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Post by Nimlowyn on Sept 10, 2016 22:47:11 GMT
Pineapple and mushroom pizza is my favorite. I finally found someone who likes it too. In fact, we just ordered one. XD
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Post by Serza on Sept 10, 2016 22:48:48 GMT
Off yer phone, then! Enjoy your ... date, I guess? P.S.: Hey, ladies... is it true that uniforms are often found attractive among you? I can't help but wonder if that whole thing isn't hurting my chances. You know, on top of all the other crazy.
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Post by nanotm on Sept 10, 2016 23:52:48 GMT
Off yer phone, then! Enjoy your ... date, I guess? P.S.: Hey, ladies... is it true that uniforms are often found attractive among you? I can't help but wonder if that whole thing isn't hurting my chances. You know, on top of all the other crazy. well having worn one for many years I can attest that you do garner a lot of notice from the fairer sex when out n about, although normally it was wrinkly noses if you'd just finished a 3 week exercise or particularly gruelling run or something but hey as you spend longer with someone you get sex less often, so you tend to end up doing long distance running more regularly, hell before I couldn't do it any more I used to do between 12 and 15 miles every lunchbreak (2 hour lunchbreaks ftw) but seriously though nobody I worked with had a problem getting a date, just most of them were ass holes so the people they dated didn't tend to hang around for long.....
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Sept 11, 2016 6:09:14 GMT
These stories make me feel better about myselfNa. Never had a break up. Single for eternity. I'm not willing to stoop to the low bar and I can't reach the high one. Eventually I'll do one or the other.
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Post by Beregond5 on Sept 11, 2016 7:17:43 GMT
For starters, people are often just encouraged to be in relationships, that's seen as good regardless if you are really wanting one. The fact is there is nothing wrong with being.. "single" Please explain this to... pretty much everyone I know. My grandmother once flat-out lied to someone, saying I had a boyfriend but that she "didn't think it was serious." She must have thought this was somehow doing me a favor. When she told me she'd said this, I asked her why, she just shrugged and said "I don't know." I know why. She obviously thinks that being single in your thirties is something to be ashamed of. The only thing she thinks is worse than being single? Finding love online. "Why can't they find someone where they are? There's gotta be something wrong with them." I'm tempted to ask her what's wrong with me, since I never found anyone where I am. I know she wouldn't give me a straight answer though. My family have been good sports about it, thankfully. I've explained, and they agree, that to me it's one of those things that you either click with somebody or you don't, you know? The most annoying thing when it comes to that kind of talk is hearing some person basically saying 'You're 36 you haven't had children yet. What have you been doing with your life?' Um, studying, working and being a productive member of society aren't good enough? *confused*
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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2016 9:21:57 GMT
Not so much a break up as it was something that I ended before it even started. On a 1st date, I took this girl to an italian restaurant and we decided to split a pizza...we ordered different toppings for each side of it..I went with plain cheese w some extra sauce....when the waiter asked her what she would like...her reply was pineapple. Nope. I'm out of here. I made an excuse, something like my house was on fire or I had to return some videotapes and left. > took someone on a first date for pizza. > broke up over pineapple. Bar is a bit high there mate. You broke up with someone over PINEAPPLE? I'm surprised she didn't break up with him for taking her to pizza on the first night.
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Post by Nightman on Sept 11, 2016 12:04:05 GMT
Not so much a break up as it was something that I ended before it even started. On a 1st date, I took this girl to an italian restaurant and we decided to split a pizza...we ordered different toppings for each side of it..I went with plain cheese w some extra sauce....when the waiter asked her what she would like...her reply was pineapple. Nope. I'm out of here. I made an excuse, something like my house was on fire or I had to return some videotapes and left. > took someone on a first date for pizza. > broke up over pineapple. Bar is a bit high there mate. You broke up with someone over PINEAPPLE? I'm surprised she didn't break up with him for taking her to pizza on the first night. What do you expect from 2 19 year olds going out on their 1st date? Lobster & wine? Caviar and champagne? I didnt take her to a pizza joint..I took her to one of my favorite italian restaurants that just happen to also serve ze peeza. Plus, you can't "break up" with someone on a 1st date.....a 1st date is merely an interview to see if the 2 of you would like to actually start dating...but half-way thru that interview, I made my decision. My exit from that date was my favorite part.. " I gotta go, I forgot to return some videotapes." ......
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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2016 13:24:05 GMT
Well, there was that time my wife ran off with my best friend. I do find it hard to talk about sometimes because even after 16 years I really find myself missing him occasionally. I did actually meet him one dark night a couple of years later and had the chance to kick the living shit out of him, as I'd threatened to do if the opportunity presented itself - mostly egged on by other mates who thought he deserved it. I knew they'd split up too by that stage and when the time came I actually shook hands with him and told him "No hard feelings." Of all the things I've done in my life that's possibly the one I'm proudest of. I'd had enough time to breathe and had realised that my marriage was absolutely miserable, so he basically did me a favour. Betrayal is betrayal though, and I haven't seen him since. Still, fourteen difficult months was better than fourteen years. I know, I've since had ten happy years (ongoing) with someone immeasurably better suited to me. And as has been noted, Seinfeld usually has wisdom to help you through things like this. Well I'm not proud of you for that. You shoulda kick his ass!
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Post by Arijon van Goyen on Sept 11, 2016 14:16:32 GMT
Please explain this to... pretty much everyone I know. My grandmother once flat-out lied to someone, saying I had a boyfriend but that she "didn't think it was serious." She must have thought this was somehow doing me a favor. When she told me she'd said this, I asked her why, she just shrugged and said "I don't know." I know why. She obviously thinks that being single in your thirties is something to be ashamed of. The only thing she thinks is worse than being single? Finding love online. "Why can't they find someone where they are? There's gotta be something wrong with them." I'm tempted to ask her what's wrong with me, since I never found anyone where I am. I know she wouldn't give me a straight answer though. My family have been good sports about it, thankfully. I've explained, and they agree, that to me it's one of those things that you either click with somebody or you don't, you know? The most annoying thing when it comes to that kind of talk is hearing some person basically saying 'You're 36 you haven't had children yet. What have you been doing with your life?' Um, studying, working and being a productive member of society aren't good enough? *confused* No. That's why your leaders let them in:
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Sept 11, 2016 14:59:33 GMT
Please explain this to... pretty much everyone I know. My grandmother once flat-out lied to someone, saying I had a boyfriend but that she "didn't think it was serious." She must have thought this was somehow doing me a favor. When she told me she'd said this, I asked her why, she just shrugged and said "I don't know." I know why. She obviously thinks that being single in your thirties is something to be ashamed of. The only thing she thinks is worse than being single? Finding love online. "Why can't they find someone where they are? There's gotta be something wrong with them." I'm tempted to ask her what's wrong with me, since I never found anyone where I am. I know she wouldn't give me a straight answer though. My family have been good sports about it, thankfully. I've explained, and they agree, that to me it's one of those things that you either click with somebody or you don't, you know? The most annoying thing when it comes to that kind of talk is hearing some person basically saying 'You're 36 you haven't had children yet. What have you been doing with your life?' Um, studying, working and being a productive member of society aren't good enough? *confused* They are disappointed with your multitasking. You're supposed to be able to do all that AND pump out children.
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Post by mybudgee on Sept 11, 2016 17:32:50 GMT
LoL nineteen year-olds
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Post by Nightman on Sept 11, 2016 17:57:25 GMT
Yeah, that was a story from when I was 19. Miss them days. I have more than several dozen 1st date horror stories..but I think those would need a thread of their own.
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Post by Trilobite Derby on Sept 11, 2016 18:06:56 GMT
This is the part where I confess I've never had a breakup.
I pretty much figured out right away that I wasn't interested in the whole song and dance. The only reason I'm in a relationship at all is that my best friend asked me out a year into college, and I went "Why the heck not" and now we're married.
That being said, back in high school, I was responsible for a heinous crime I still feel guilty about to this day. One of my gal pals helped me with the post mortem. Again, I'm pretty oblivious and non-fussed by the whole courtship song and dance. I was probably even worse at catching flirting when I was younger. But there was this guy who really liked me. Like, he changed his classes to be in the same class as me. But he was also incredibly shy, so I never noticed (turns in said gal pal was advising him). We're on the last day of wilderness survival class, before the big summer break. And we're playing soccer because the last day of school is a silly day. I happen to really like soccer, and be a bit competitive. I'm playing defense, he's forward. We're both chilling and waiting for the ball to move our way.
This poor young man, who's been trying to talk to me all quarter, finally decides to make a joke of it and gets up the nerve to say, "Hey, if my team wins, want to get coffee with me?" I don't notice that, because THE BALL IS COMING MY WAY YES GET OUT OF HERE BALL. So I blast the ball back to my offense, my team scores...
Then I realize that someone had been talking to me. "Huh? What'd you say?" That earned me a punch from the friend who had to deal with the guy's feelings and explain to me why I was a blockhead jerk later. Luckily, I spent the next year on student exchange and never had to make eye contact with the poor boy again.
And that's the magical story of how I got all the evil in my system out at once inadvertently. I still feel awful about that.
Edit: So anyway, my point is that dating and all that is actually terrifying and you should be glad to be free. Also, don't ask a jock girl out while you're playing soccer because there is a 95% chance she is not focusing on your talking because HEY WHERE IS THE BALL THERE IT IS KILL.
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Post by Serza on Sept 11, 2016 18:15:59 GMT
Fuck.
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Post by kizanare on Sept 12, 2016 6:56:28 GMT
Mostly amicable breakups here. If I ran into any of my exes on the street, I wouldn't feel uncomfortable. One of them looks pretty scary now, with his crazy tattoos, shaved head and those disgusting giant discs in his earlobes, I probably wouldn't even recognize him. And I'd give him a wide berth. One of my exes, I had long been convinced that he was 'the one that got away.' I'd tried to get transferred to his school, because we rarely had a chance to see each other otherwise. Classes were full. That was pretty much the end of it. Looking back now, though... I just might have dodged a bullet. Another ex became an ex because he would not leave me alone. For example, back in the wonderful days of dial-up internet, when someone would call the house and I was online, a window would pop up and inform me of this fact, and show who was calling. And it would slow everything the hell down. If I'm trying to do something and you call twenty times in as many minutes, you had better be in some serious trouble. And if you ARE in serious trouble, maybe consider calling someone else if there's no answer. When I was finally able to call him back, I had an apology ready, and was dreading to hear the reason for all the calls. Then he says "Just wondering what you were up to." Really. He'd called twenty times. Twenty. That was just the tip of the iceberg. When I'd finally had enough and told him so, it was over the summer so I didn't have to risk running into him every day. When school started again, I expected things to be a bit weird between us, but they weren't. We'd gone back to being friends, which is the way we should have stayed. Not the close friends we used to be, and we eventually lost touch, but I wasn't that torn up about it. For starters, people are often just encouraged to be in relationships, that's seen as good regardless if you are really wanting one. The fact is there is nothing wrong with being.. "single" Please explain this to... pretty much everyone I know. My grandmother once flat-out lied to someone, saying I had a boyfriend but that she "didn't think it was serious." She must have thought this was somehow doing me a favor. When she told me she'd said this, I asked her why, she just shrugged and said "I don't know." I know why. She obviously thinks that being single in your thirties is something to be ashamed of. The only thing she thinks is worse than being single? Finding love online. "Why can't they find someone where they are? There's gotta be something wrong with them." I'm tempted to ask her what's wrong with me, since I never found anyone where I am. I know she wouldn't give me a straight answer though. Sure! Just a phone number and
Anyway, people just don't understand that a person pretty much can't not be making the best decisions for themselves at any given time, and are usually just in the mood to cause a ruckus so they look for gaps in between conventional wisdom and certain realities as a source of sadistic pleasure.
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