The Two Year Gap in the Solas Mance

One of the many reasons why Trespasser was so wonderful. 

First time I played it I honestly thought the anchor would kill her and she just wanted to see Solas for one last time... 

I always play Descend and Jaws of Hakkon before the final battle with Corypheus, mostly because I want to have Solas in my party for as long as possible. 

I was pretty certain my Lavellan and Solas were about to have a sweet, tingly makeout/more scene in the grass by the lake.  Nope.

When Solas broke up with Lavellan after taking her vallaslin, I thought it was a Fenris-y thing and he would come back.  Nope!

At the end of the game with the party in the Great Hall Leliana tells you, "He could come back at any moment," and I honestly thought it was leading up to Solas meeting Lavellan in secret on the balcony one last time to say goodbye... NOPE.
JUST A FUCKING LONELY, SAD-AS-SHIT SUNSET ON THE EMPTIEST BALCONY IN ALL OF THEDAS WTF.


It wasn't until that moment that it sank in that it was really over; even if she waited for Solas, Solas wasn't waiting for her. Apparently Einian Lavellan was a hopeful and naive child, but being blind-sided again and again hardened that part of her. She eventually moved on to boinking people who caught her fancy (like that one dude with the hot accent who's obsessed with buckles in JoH) but relied on her friends for other comforts. THANK THE MAKER for Sera and Dorian (who... also broke her heart later, that jerk).


After having so much time to examine Solas from an outside perspective instead of being swept up in him and blinded, Lavellan thought seeing Solas would feel cold and clinical. Reality punched her in the face with the feelings that sprang up again like no time had passed and the extreme sadness from knowing those emotions couldn't change anything. I'll admit, that "I'll run away with you forever!" kind of option was really appealing for a moment but... any feelings she had for Solas could never convince her to betray her friends. Maybe I'm a terrible person but imagining Sera, Dorian, and Cass reacting to Lavellan choosing to run away with Solas was probably the biggest deciding factor for me

Same D:  But also... she sort of refuses to let him wash his hands of her.  If she's going to die because of him, she won't go quietly and he'll have to witness the consequences of his actions firsthand.

I really appreciate the responses. I was hoping to be able to RP a Briala type character, but the game doesn't allow for that IMO. I hit a couple snags with my attempted Solasmance a while back.

1. I still wasn't over Cullen from my first PT and it may have bled over... but I was roleplaying a First that was a true leader. And how Cullen led the army for her was impressive and made her admire him greatly. She wanted to have elven children, long term, however, and prioritized her people not dying out. Kinda hurt her own feelings, "Flights of passion are overrated";she stamped out her emotions for Cullen, and walked into a Fade dream with Solas.
2. it seemed like Solas disapproved of all her decisions, but somehow she still scraped up enough approval to keep the relationship going. Which made me feel like the relationship was dysfunctional.
3. I had high hopes when she found him sexy at the Winter Palace.
4. But as we all know, there are not many scenes to go on, so there was nothing to follow up that sexiness until the scene he breaks it off with her.
5. Considering her "My people are more important than romance", she was sad they broke up.....But then I realized she would absolutely not pine after him for two years.

And since the whole point of my Solasmance is to use it as my worldstate for my first PT in DA4, her being over him come Trespasser left me dead in the water. so, I deleted her before I even played the DLCs.

So, I've been crafting a character slowly that could do the romance in a way I could totally get behind. But I've been hung up on that two year gap. How to explain that bis natch without making my strong Lavellan pathetic.

Lol, yeah, that was a BW facepalm moment for me, since Cass is my Lavellan's BFF