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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 19, 2019 23:19:27 GMT
Spiders are good people that protect us from all sorts of nasty critters, I wouldn't want to eat one.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2019 23:28:09 GMT
Spiders are good people that protect us from all sorts of nasty critters, I wouldn't want to eat one. I agree. I like spiders...I like bats too...and pretty well most animals...except wasps...those things are assholes...and I hate mosquitoes too.
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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 19, 2019 23:32:18 GMT
Spiders are good people that protect us from all sorts of nasty critters, I wouldn't want to eat one. I agree. I like spiders...I like bats too...and pretty well most animals...except wasps...those things are assholes...and I hate mosquitoes too. Bats are good people too.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2019 23:32:41 GMT
Spiders are good people that protect us from all sorts of nasty critters, I wouldn't want to eat one. I agree. I like spiders...I like bats too...and pretty well most animals...except wasps...those things are assholes...and I hate mosquitoes too. And roaches. Fuck them
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Post by B. Hieronymus Da on Mar 19, 2019 23:38:57 GMT
Spiders are good people that protect us from all sorts of nasty critters, I wouldn't want to eat one. Yep. I housed one as a pet for a couple of years. We got along real fine.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2019 1:58:17 GMT
I agree. I like spiders...I like bats too...and pretty well most animals...except wasps...those things are assholes...and I hate mosquitoes too. Bats are good people too. Right? They are so cute. And snakes...we can't forget snakes. There are some really neat ones too. I really don't understand why people are afraid of them. I agree. I like spiders...I like bats too...and pretty well most animals...except wasps...those things are assholes...and I hate mosquitoes too. And roaches. Fuck them Roaches are annoying and are unsanitary to have around, plus they multiply quickly. I don't mind em one at a time, but when there's a whole lot of them scuurying around, they're kinda gross. Spiders are good people that protect us from all sorts of nasty critters, I wouldn't want to eat one. Yep. I housed one as a pet for a couple of years. We got along real fine. We had these big spiders in our old basement...my youngest called them her "Spider minions" and named the biggest one George.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 20, 2019 2:13:34 GMT
I suddenly feel the need to post a reminder here. Yeah bats are cute, I like them too but NEVER EVER FUCKING TOUCH A FUCKING BAT!!!!!!!!. Unless you are a wearing a hazmat suit.
From all the disease carriers in the wilds the bat is the worst by far, it even beats the squirrel and the rat/mouse. And with that I'm saying that most bats carry rabies and leprosy by default. Not too long a go a little girl got infected with rabies from touching a bat, she got ever so slightly scratched, it didn't even draw blood. A couple weeks later she showed first symptoms. And for those who do not know, rabies kills you if it isn't treated inside 48 hours after the contraction.
In fact, don't ever touch any wild animals to begin with, and be veeeery careful with helping random stray animals. Those videos were people pick up cute little wild animals in the woods or people adopt stray animals just like that make me really really mad. Its such a wonderful ''what could possibly go wrong'' stupid idea. Even if you want to help a trapped animal and/or an injured animal, wear gloves and be super careful. Ideally call a vet.- And if you adopt a stray animal, bring it to the vet first.
Helping animals is super cool, but doing that in a ways you risk a seriously life changing infection is not.
Also be extremely cautious with strangely tame, friendly wild animals. There is a lesser known variant of rabies that makes animals super friendly and cuddly and seeking company instead of making them aggressive. And this version is deadly too.
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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 20, 2019 14:32:34 GMT
I suddenly feel the need to post a reminder here. Yeah bats are cute, I like them too but NEVER EVER FUCKING TOUCH A FUCKING BAT!!!!!!!!. Unless you are a wearing a hazmat suit. From all the disease carriers in the wilds the bat is the worst by far, it even beats the squirrel and the rat/mouse. And with that I'm saying that most bats carry rabies and leprosy by default. Not too long a go a little girl got infected with rabies from touching a bat, she got ever so slightly scratched, it didn't even draw blood. A couple weeks later she showed first symptoms. And for those who do not know, rabies kills you if it isn't treated inside 48 hours after the contraction. In fact, don't ever touch any wild animals to begin with, and be veeeery careful with helping random stray animals. Those videos were people pick up cute little wild animals in the woods or people adopt stray animals just like that make me really really mad. Its such a wonderful ''what could possibly go wrong'' stupid idea. Even if you want to help a trapped animal and/or an injured animal, wear gloves and be super careful. Ideally call a vet.- And if you adopt a stray animal, bring it to the vet first. Helping animals is super cool, but doing that in a ways you risk a seriously life changing infection is not. Also be extremely cautious with strangely tame, friendly wild animals. There is a lesser known variant of rabies that makes animals super friendly and cuddly and seeking company instead of making them aggressive. And this version is deadly too. Someone's upset and jelly that people want to pet a bat over him.
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Post by theratpack55 on Mar 22, 2019 18:44:06 GMT
Anyone who's watching 'Love death robots' on netflix... opinions? I quit after the first minute or so for reasons, but I may be totally wrong. Help?
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Post by mybudgee on Mar 23, 2019 1:21:28 GMT
Why are boundaries so difficult? She keeps assuming that I want to assimilate my ideas about my ex-wife with her ideas This would mean compromising my time with my sons, which is not an option Any insight BSN???
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Post by mattig89ch on Mar 23, 2019 11:47:00 GMT
Why are boundaries so difficult? She keeps assuming that I want to assimilate my ideas about my ex-wife with her ideas This would mean compromising my time with my sons, which is not an option Any insight BSN??? Can I ask who 'she' is?
Outside of that, I feel like I'm missing some context here. What ideas are you trying to use/avoid? Why would they interfere with your quality time with your kids? What boundries do you want to enforce?
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Post by mybudgee on Mar 23, 2019 16:41:51 GMT
"She" is a woman that I'm attempting to date... for some reason
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Post by Bronztrooper on Mar 23, 2019 19:11:28 GMT
Why are boundaries so difficult? She keeps assuming that I want to assimilate my ideas about my ex-wife with her ideas This would mean compromising my time with my sons, which is not an option Any insight BSN??? All I can say is that my dad has been in a very similar situation and it ended with breaking things off with his then-gf. Aside from that, idk what to tell you
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2019 19:26:40 GMT
Why are boundaries so difficult? She keeps assuming that I want to assimilate my ideas about my ex-wife with her ideas This would mean compromising my time with my sons, which is not an option Any insight BSN??? Best to tell her where you stand on the issue, they're your kids, they come first. If she has a problem with it, move on and meet someone else. I don't know what you mean by " assimilate", but you do, and you know where your boundaries are, stick to them.
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Post by mybudgee on Mar 23, 2019 19:30:18 GMT
Ah...ok. Also, I think in the one I'm thinking of, not only did they remove the hairs of the spider, they also removed the fangs, before they ate it. And they made a banana leaf, spider and bird egg omelette and added some kind of leeks or other form of jungle greenery on the fire too. It almost looked...tasty..? Yea, I was thinking about the fangs.. the hairs are apparently dangerous because they penetrate your intestines and wander about inside you Paranoid nonsense
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Post by mattig89ch on Mar 24, 2019 0:07:40 GMT
OK, so I have a question regarding relationships. There's a woman I speak to, on a discord server. I have a crush on the persona she puts on the discord server. We've never met IRL, so idk if thats her real self or not. But it does seem to be. Anywho, she's in an abusive relationship. Based on what we've talked about today, she seems genuinely afraid for her safety. I've suggested she see a counselor, but he gets mad at the idea. I've suggested she tell him whats bothering her about the relationship, she says he gets mad, shouts, and throws things (though never at her).
To me, this screams abuse. But 1.) I've never been in a relationship, 2.) She lives across the country and in another country from me, 3.) She can't enter my country cause of medical issues and needs, 4.) while she is someone I consider an internet friend, we aren't in a relationship. So, if I'm correct, and this is abuse, is there something more I can do other than just being here to talk if/when she needs to? And suggesting she get help somehow, ofc.
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Post by DomeWing333 on Mar 24, 2019 0:35:48 GMT
OK, so I have a question regarding relationships. There's a woman I speak to, on a discord server. I have a crush on the persona she puts on the discord server. We've never met IRL, so idk if thats her real self or not. But it does seem to be. Anywho, she's in an abusive relationship. Based on what we've talked about today, she seems genuinely afraid for her safety. I've suggested she see a counselor, but he gets mad at the idea. I've suggested she tell him whats bothering her about the relationship, she says he gets mad, shouts, and throws things (though never at her). To me, this screams abuse. But 1.) I've never been in a relationship, 2.) She lives across the country and in another country from me, 3.) She can't enter my country cause of medical issues and needs, 4.) while she is someone I consider an internet friend, we aren't in a relationship. So, if I'm correct, and this is abuse, is there something more I can do other than just being here to talk if/when she needs to? And suggesting she get help somehow, ofc. Does she recognize the situation as abuse? Ask her what she would think if she had a friend who told her that they were living with someone who behaved this way. If she was planning to have children, ask her if she would feel safe bringing a child into the environment she's in. Then you can help her figure out if she's able to leave. If this is indeed a situation that she needs to get away from, does she have someone who lives close to her who she can reach out to? Family, friends, coworkers, etc? Is she living with the guy? Is she dependent on him in some other way and, if so, how can that dependency be ameliorated? If there isn't a clear path of escape for her, she will be more likely to try to convince herself that she has to live with it.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 24, 2019 0:36:07 GMT
OK, so I have a question regarding relationships. There's a woman I speak to, on a discord server. I have a crush on the persona she puts on the discord server. We've never met IRL, so idk if thats her real self or not. But it does seem to be. Anywho, she's in an abusive relationship. Based on what we've talked about today, she seems genuinely afraid for her safety. I've suggested she see a counselor, but he gets mad at the idea. I've suggested she tell him whats bothering her about the relationship, she says he gets mad, shouts, and throws things (though never at her). To me, this screams abuse. But 1.) I've never been in a relationship, 2.) She lives across the country and in another country from me, 3.) She can't enter my country cause of medical issues and needs, 4.) while she is someone I consider an internet friend, we aren't in a relationship. So, if I'm correct, and this is abuse, is there something more I can do other than just being here to talk if/when she needs to? And suggesting she get help somehow, ofc. You've done everything you could, you gave her good advice and tried to open her eyes, thats as far as you should go in this situation, which you cannot even assess correctly with that few information you gathered over some internet chat. You can't force you help onto strangers. Yeah, you're a good person. Now never speak to her again, never contact her again. Do not fall into that popular stereotype of that good guy who has never had a relationship yet burdens himself with other peoples relationship problems, or always seeks out people with severe mental troubles. Maybe even for potential relationship material because your self esteem is so low you feel yourself automatically drawn to those ''damaged'' people simply because you think you're going ti have an improved success rate with those. I know a surprising amount of people who are just like this, and let me tell you all that this is gonna do for you is lead you straight onto the highway of unhappiness. Trust me, I've seen it happen several times. Don't burden yourself with other peoples problems. Go out and talk to to people who aren't complete messes and don't have a shitload of crazy personal problem baggage you really really should not get involved with. All they're gonna do is make you feel miserable and trap you in their net woven of miserableness and self-induced problems. Thats just my humble opinion based on my experience of observing friends stumbling into this kind of shit.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2019 0:47:48 GMT
You mean aside from showing up on her doorstep? (don't do that...it isn't a good idea without some kind of back-up system.) ...do you have any mutual friends? Ones that are in her area? You could attempt contacting a social service in her area and see if you could get some info...I don't know how good that would be though, I think them or the police would need her to make that call...and there could always be extenuating circumstances you're unaware of. Also, there could always be the issue of finances...she may not be able to leave the situation because she has nowhere to go. Situations like this are tough when you're in the same city, let alone having a friend in another country going through it. Try talking to her again and see if she feels she needs to get out of her situation and try to help her along. Maybe you guys can come up with a solution together? That's about all you can do.
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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 24, 2019 0:53:39 GMT
I'd say clear of battered house wife cases if I were you, usually these kind of women are just as broken as their men and would sooner side with them in the event someone were to try to "help" them. Some of them even crave the emotional rollercoaster of these kinds of relationships to the point that they go from one abusive relationship to the other.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2019 0:59:59 GMT
OK, so I have a question regarding relationships. There's a woman I speak to, on a discord server. I have a crush on the persona she puts on the discord server. We've never met IRL, so idk if thats her real self or not. But it does seem to be. Anywho, she's in an abusive relationship. Based on what we've talked about today, she seems genuinely afraid for her safety. I've suggested she see a counselor, but he gets mad at the idea. I've suggested she tell him whats bothering her about the relationship, she says he gets mad, shouts, and throws things (though never at her). To me, this screams abuse. But 1.) I've never been in a relationship, 2.) She lives across the country and in another country from me, 3.) She can't enter my country cause of medical issues and needs, 4.) while she is someone I consider an internet friend, we aren't in a relationship. So, if I'm correct, and this is abuse, is there something more I can do other than just being here to talk if/when she needs to? And suggesting she get help somehow, ofc. You've done everything you could, you gave her good advice and tried to open her eyes, thats as far as you should go in this situation, which you cannot even assess correctly with that few information you gathered over some internet chat. You can't force you help onto strangers. Yeah, you're a good person. Now never speak to her again, never contact her again. Do not fall into that popular stereotype of that good guy who has never had a relationship yet burdens himself with other peoples relationship problems, or always seeks out people with severe mental troubles. Maybe even for potential relationship material because your self esteem is so low you feel yourself automatically drawn to those ''damaged'' people simply because you think you're going ti have an improved success rate with those. I know a surprising amount of people who are just like this, and let me tell you all that this is gonna do for you is lead you straight onto the highway of unhappiness. Trust me, I've seen it happen several times. Don't burden yourself with other peoples problems. Go out and talk to to people who aren't complete messes and don't have a shitload of crazy personal problem baggage you really really should not get involved with. All they're gonna do is make you feel miserable and trap you in their net woven of miserableness and self-induced problems. Thats just my humble opinion based on my experience of observing friends stumbling into this kind of shit. I get where your coming from, for some people Beetle I've seen situations like this unfold in a lot of different ways. I've been the one who helps out and I've been the one who needed help. Either side is full of tough choices. There have been people I wish I never lifted a finger for them and others who I wish I could've done more for. It's a situation you have to play it by ear, but you shouldn't always expect the worst either... or get your hopes up too high about. These situations are always a mess though.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2019 1:05:29 GMT
I'd say clear of battered house wife cases if I were you, usually these kind of women are just as broken as their men and would sooner side with them in the event someone were to try to "help" them. Some of them even crave the emotional rollercoaster of these kinds of relationships to the point that they go from one abusive relationship to the other. I've heard of that happening too. A guy steps in, after witnessing some abuse and ends up getting jumped by both of them. These are always tricky situations.
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Mar 24, 2019 2:13:54 GMT
OK, so I have a question regarding relationships. There's a woman I speak to, on a discord server. I have a crush on the persona she puts on the discord server. We've never met IRL, so idk if thats her real self or not. But it does seem to be. Anywho, she's in an abusive relationship. Based on what we've talked about today, she seems genuinely afraid for her safety. I've suggested she see a counselor, but he gets mad at the idea. I've suggested she tell him whats bothering her about the relationship, she says he gets mad, shouts, and throws things (though never at her). To me, this screams abuse. But 1.) I've never been in a relationship, 2.) She lives across the country and in another country from me, 3.) She can't enter my country cause of medical issues and needs, 4.) while she is someone I consider an internet friend, we aren't in a relationship. So, if I'm correct, and this is abuse, is there something more I can do other than just being here to talk if/when she needs to? And suggesting she get help somehow, ofc. She's probably a dude? I say calmly fade out of existence.. State your discontent with the server, leave the server, and then cut friend ties. Prepare your exit strategy ASAP.
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Post by mattig89ch on Mar 24, 2019 20:18:11 GMT
OK, so I have a question regarding relationships. There's a woman I speak to, on a discord server. I have a crush on the persona she puts on the discord server. We've never met IRL, so idk if thats her real self or not. But it does seem to be. Anywho, she's in an abusive relationship. Based on what we've talked about today, she seems genuinely afraid for her safety. I've suggested she see a counselor, but he gets mad at the idea. I've suggested she tell him whats bothering her about the relationship, she says he gets mad, shouts, and throws things (though never at her). To me, this screams abuse. But 1.) I've never been in a relationship, 2.) She lives across the country and in another country from me, 3.) She can't enter my country cause of medical issues and needs, 4.) while she is someone I consider an internet friend, we aren't in a relationship. So, if I'm correct, and this is abuse, is there something more I can do other than just being here to talk if/when she needs to? And suggesting she get help somehow, ofc. She's probably a dude? I say calmly fade out of existence.. State your discontent with the server, leave the server, and then cut friend ties. Prepare your exit strategy ASAP. Why am I cutting ties?
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Mar 25, 2019 0:40:15 GMT
She's probably a dude? I say calmly fade out of existence.. State your discontent with the server, leave the server, and then cut friend ties. Prepare your exit strategy ASAP. Why am I cutting ties? There are two types of people in this world: The ones you are better off having around, and the ones you are better off avoiding. This woman, from what you've said so far, is the latter. You cannot bring her up in any capacity, as she seems to be unwilling to rise up on her own accord (this is key!). However, she can only drag you down in a variety of ways. Some of these have already been stated by my fellow BSNer's. Dumping a bunch of time into getting to know a woman and finding out getting to know her was a frivolous waste of time is disappointing. It's very disappointing. But do not be a victim of the sunk cost fallacy. You effectively lose nothing by cutting ties. Both of you essentially risked nothing in talking to one another. However, moving forward is a serious risk, and you would like to move forward, 'cause you're a dude. And she is not worth your time and frustration. Sorry, she's not. She sounds like a coward who is obsessed with bitching, and has you playing the idiot. So, you can continue to waste more time on someone who could potentially drag you down and do nothing good, or you could cut ties and free up a position for someone who is a bit more... qualified. You are a finite resource, after all. Everyone is. To add some nuance to my statements (hopefully), there were several instances where I 'tried to get to know' a woman online. Listened to her thoughts, her feelings, and her desires. And many of them thanked me gratuitously for being as patient and thoughtful as I was. While I do not regret doing so-I actually feel it provided valuable insight on how women think and feel-none of that crap went anywhere. In many cases, I ultimately got the boot, and in others, I gave the boot. Either way, it was for the best. -One called me a stalker. Mind you, I made no attempt to get any personal information-no names, no addresses, no numbers, nothing. Purely anonymous-its better in things like these. I think I sent a message about once per week. After that accusation, I never bothered again. -One remained unhealthily obsessed with a boyfriend of hers who she bitched about INCESSANTLY. She was a relatively attractive woman, she wouldn't of had to try hard in the dating pool to get new prospects, but she remained obsessed. I eventually got tired of her drama and told her to either do something about it or shut the heck up. (I was tired of hearing the same story over and over.) She later dropped her online presence entirely. I suspect she offed herself. She did talk about that on more than a few occasions. -One I suspect was a full blown compulsive liar. She had more skeletons in the closet than a serial killer that I kept finding out about, and kept throwing herself at these random idiots. She would then RAGE (seriously rage!) at said random idiots for months at a time. She supposedly has finally gotten out of that life, and I wish her the best, but regardless, the road was rocky. -One royally freaked the hell out when I said she looked attractive. I did not use any provocative language, mind you, but I just said that she looked great. Total freak out. That was a genuinely confusing experience. -One hated everyone else, and aggressively demanded that I do the same. Then she would freak out if I expressed any opinions that did not align with hers. -One would only talk to me between her very short term relationships (LOL!), though she would never admit that was the reason, and I eventually gave up on trying to stay in contact. I was in semi-regular contact with this girl literally for years, but I recognized it was time to cut ties. -One got suckered by some online con artist and and tried to make like 300 alt accounts to get around him... P.S. NEVER SHARE YOUR ****ING PASSWORDS! -One was only interested in using me for help with community college math work. She was good natured and friendly, if a bit sensitive, but.. not particularly bright. This woman would take like 2 hours on 5-10 y = mx +b level math problems. Just.. it hurts. -One turned out to be into all sorts of kink stuff, which I didn't really hold against her-everyone has some indulgences, and she had no pretensions about anything-but she was just so eerily defensive about some things. I was never able to really figure out what her deal was. You could take about anything, except for some random 'sacred cow' subjects that she would get all upset about and clam up... I mean, she was smart, accomplished, hardworking, endured a few tragedies, in many aspects a damn near perfect woman, but it.. just didn't click. I don't know. (No, I will not identify any of these characters.) Do you see where I am going with this? I mean, I do not hate any of these women, there are some that I respect greatly. There were some that I even wanted for myself. However, I can, in retrospec, say that being in a relationship with any of them most likely would have been a disaster. Both because of their nature and mine. Why? Well what do they all have in common? I could not bring them up (and in many cases I truly wanted to!), but they could all drag me down through disappointment, defamation, dishonesty, or any number of factors. And, I'm not gonna lie, many of them thought I could drag them down, and they may have been right. AND THEY ARE ALMOST ALL BETTER THAN THE WOMAN YOU ARE DESCRIBING! At the end of the day, everyone has issues, but there is issues and then there is being a burning train wreck of nuclear waste and toxic chemicals. You know all you need to know to make a smart and informed decision. Do yourself a favor, and bail.
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