The biggest problem with roleplaying (at least for me)

Whether it's Mass Effect, Dragon Age, or any other roleplaying game, I've always noticed this general problem that I think effects most casual players. I mean, what's the idea behind role-playing, you're pretending to be someone in a fantasy world right? Well, often times the first character you make in a game is modeled after you, similar look, same gender, and often times when prompted to make a choice its based on what you were thinking at the time. Then you decide to try the ultimate form of roleplaying, where you pretend to be an entirely different character, and when you do that...it doesn't feel right does it?

Regardless of which game I play, I can never make my character be completely evil (some nasty things okay, like punching someone that makes me mad, but never anything super evil), and when romance is involved, it's hard to romance someone else and feel you're making a pure bond, partly because there's something missing that your first romance option had.

For example in Mass Effect, even though I'm trying to play as a female shepard, I keep feeling it's not proper because I first played as a male (because I was a male). Similarily, I'm trying different romances out, but for some reason, I'm just not into them. The first time I've played the whole trilogy, I was always for Liara in all three games.

Sometimes it gets stranger. Whenever I play Dragon Age Inquisition, I'm always picking a female human, heck, my first time playing was with a female human. And I don't even know why? Maybe it's because I've seen too many male fantasy heroes and want to give a female one a go?

The point is, roleplaying games can be tough if the only role you feel comfortable with is yourself. I'm pretty sure you guys had similar experiences right?