Races and romance poll

arvaarad I don't think some people will be satisfied with a person's transition, even if they somehow managed to change their chromosomes.

My particular quirk is that lust is easy, attraction is hard. The latter implies the former but not the other way around. It is so rare for me to be into someone that for a while there I thought I was aromantic. I am less picky when it comes to video game romances, because as Melbella has pointed out there's no need to take them so seriously. Still picky, though!


There's a spirit called Command? Kinky.

You're no fun at all.

Hey, trees are very corporeal!

No, it's not, and that's not the way Anders explains the merger with Justice. There's even an optional remark about it in the romance scene.

Since spirits embody human aspects it only seems logical that there are Spirits of Love.

Loving someone is so much more, though, than a simple emotion, however pure. I just don't think spirits are complex enough to love as people do.

True, there’s definitely a mismatch in their fundamental instincts. Spirits survive by completely different means than mortals do; not with food and shelter but by promoting specific concepts. So some of their complexity is on a dimension that isn’t relevant to mortals, just as some of mortals’ complexity is on an axis that isn’t relevant to spirits.

One way that’s likely to manifest is that spirits are probably way more invested in the mortal’s emotional state than another mortal would be. And not necessarily in a “I care about this person” way, but in a “if you’re happy I literally grow stronger” way. On the other hand, I think there’s some space there to explore feelings of social anxiety, just like Cole is in some ways an exploration of the limits of charity (i.e. the kind of help that makes someone feel helpful is not necessarily the same as what’s most helpful). I can definitely resonate with that feeling of being overly entangled with someone else’s emotional state — it’s not necessarily healthy, and a spirit with similar feelings would have room for growth, but it’s real.

Well, not exactly what I was saying.
But as far as I have noted, and sure I assume, but it seems straight people are being called bigoted for not wanting to romance trans people



Very true.
Trans people are in a very special position in regards to the dating world.
Lesbians usually don't want to date a trans woman.
Gays usually don't want to date a trans man.
Straight men usually don't want to date a trans woman.
Straight women usually don't want to date a trans man.

Of course, I suppose it also depends entirely on how many romances bioware decide on.

In Inquisiton, lesbians had two options, Sera and Josephine, gays had two, Dorian and Iron Bull, straight men had two, Cassandra and Josephine, straight women had four, Cullen, Iron Bull, Blackwall, Solas (If playing elf).

Maevaris could potentially be a t hird romance option for straight men, giving straight men a total of three options, perhaps she is even only into humans

So perhaps I should retract my statement and put forth a new one.

Adding a trans love interest should not take away a option, it should be an added option.

People are still going to complain about 'wokeness'

But that is more fair than: "Alright, a trans woman for straight male romance, and then they have a bisexual woman too"

This bit I agree with. Would theoretically total 5 characters interested in men.  Two straight women, two gay men, and Mae(possibly race-restricted, though probably not, given the trans aspect is already unique enough).

Just found this poll and put my answers in. I'm female myself and I tend to play female characters. That being said I have a world-state for every Origin in DAO and two from those Wardens are male. As there are two male Inquisitors. No male Hawkes though. I tried to do Hawke as a male but it just wouldn't work out for me. However my main, canon world state always has a human female character and it will be in DA4 too.

Basically I'd go for any male romance option that isn't a Dwarf. I find Dwarfs quite unappealing in their body proportions.

That being said, its probably inevitable I would create a Dwarf character eventually on one of my final word states and its then I regret the lack of a Dwarven romance option.

But no overall I'll always want a healthy, fertile, romancable straight human male. Preferably with nothing against mages or elves. (The Warden has an interesting one. Knowing she was infertile due to the taint on one of my later playthroughs I had her romance Leliana just because Leliana was a pleasant person in DAO.) If not a nice human male, then an elf male. Qunari are... a little oddly proportioned for a romance with a human female player so mostly I'd want just a human or elf male for my canon world state.

Which human cultures would you be most interested in seeing in the LI mix?