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Without counting ny modded Alistair experience (y.y)  I would say Jaal as man and Isabela as woman, I think they are my absolute favs. Bull/Kaidan being third and Anders/Fenris being in forth place

I would fucking DIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE for a male Isabela. Where is my gay sassy pirate? Do I love melting-a cold-heart narratives 😭

And Jaal is the closest to a BatB romance I ever get in a game or elsewhere really, but no curse, no sweet angst, but a lot of fluffiness to make it up for also SPACE CAT-SQUID-MAN FROM OUTER SPACE, my furry ass was delighted

You mean an unleashed Saarebas? 

I really didn't like Jaal's romance. I struggled to finish it, and if Reyes had had an honorable duel instead of bringing a sniper, I would have dropped Jaal easily and gone for Reyes with no regrets. (sigh, still salty that he's such an honorless rogue. I love honorable rogues.)

And I like Fluffy romances, I liked Alistair and Cullen a lot. Jaal was a giant cringe fest. There is a line between sharing your feelings and talking about feelings that made it feel way too much like I was having a conversation with a Camp Counselor instead of a lover.

For female romances, I'm so evenly split between my wish for a more calculating, intense regal mage option and a valiant lady knight.

I imagine the mage as some kind of fusion between Morrigan and Vivienne. She'd be icy on the surface, with fiery passion once she opens up. That romance would have more spice to it, and sharper edges. Political intrigue, concerns about loyalty, secrets. 

For the knight, self-sacrificing and utterly just, kind without being a pushover. Fiercely protective. Solidly professional in public and tender in private.

Sigh. The only problem would be trying to choose in game.


edit: Oh, I wouldn't just want two options though. Three or four of each gender is my preference. 

I think it's pretty clear that Cathleen Rootsaert is a hero for her work with Kaidan and Jaal.  Bless her soul! I hope she survives whatever Anthem does for her (or to her more likely). 

That whole scene was dumb. I didn't like the Tyrant Lady at all. (oh ya, sloan wasn't it?)  I had no inclination to want to be her back up at such a meeting and I thought it was an odd request on her part. I only agreed to go because Content but also because that storyline and Kadara in general won't be completed unless you do it.  So I go with her. WE enter a cave. And Reyes didn't even have to alert her to his presence. He could have sniped her then and there. and it wouldn't have even been a big issue to me. This isn't the Godfather, there are no honorable criminals who meet up just to talk. 

But he announces himself to the Cave room like an idiot, we get the big reveal secret of how he's lied about his identity.  And then presents a Duel Idea (while the sniping literally could have happened even in this conversation)

But once you start a duel, you finish a duel. And he could have won it easily enough, it's not like Sloan was touted as the best Gunslinger around. 

In games where previously romanced characters can lie and betray you for a variety of reasons, primarily based on their idealogy, this man just showed me that he could lie on several different levels. And then he just watches Sloane suffer for pure pyschopathic enjoyment, which is another huge red flag to me.  I don't know how they're going to carry that romance come MEA2, but I just don't trust him to not decide something against my favor, regardless of where I've let him put his dick.  If a guy treats the waitress badly, he'll treat me badly, kinda thing.

This is why we're both huge Anders fans. 

I feel like most people identify most with certain types of characters and lean out on the opposite side. There's traditionalists (Cullen, Cassandra, Sten), reformists (Dorian, Lelianna, Wynne, Iron Bull), revolutionaries (Anders, Reyes, Calpernia, Solas) and then the "got mine bitches" types, like Isabella and Zevran that people either see as refreshing or annoying. lol

I lean hard towards revolutionaries and have a soft spot for the "got mine" types, but tend to side eye reformists and think traditionalists are the worst. I even sometimes find myself rationalizing for Solas lmao. "Maybe he was speaking figuratively when he said he was going to kill everyone.. I mean, those elf gods did sound like jerks, how bad could he be." 

I vacillate between my three faves...

Kaidan and male Shepard for me, too. Their story has an epic feel to it... the way they start out together, then become separated, then years later reunite. The scene on Horizon is one of my favorites, when Kaidan is so upset with Shepard, and Shepard's so bewildered. Then later TIM seems to suss out his feelings and pointedly asks Shepard about Kaidan, only for Shepard to shout "None of your damn business!" I love the fact that Shepard is probably realizing he has feelings for Kaidan at that point, and I wonder if Kaidan had them for Shepard but never said anything (of course I have to headcanon here because we know his romance was simply removed in ME1). I like the mod that adds it back in, but even canonical mShenko is really beautiful to me. I also really love my Shepard and enjoy playing him because (and I sort of just realized this) we are the same age (he was 32 when ME3 came out, right?? So I was). Anyway, a love that spans years, has its ups and downs, but concludes happily? (assuming Kaidan comes back and finds Shepard). yes, please.

Reyes and male Ryder. I really really love Ryder; he's just such a sweet cinnamon roll and I love playing as him. He's so excited and curious about the world. Reyes is this sort of jaded guy who I guess is probably a little bit older? He has this mysterious past that he doesn't want to talk about. But what I loved about the romance is how he flirted with Ryder first (!!), the shoulder nudge, the wink... aieeee, I love. Everything from there is just perfect. Ryder's friends teasing him about his crush. Ryder learning from Keema that Reyes is crazy about him. The kiss in the storeroom, the rooftop chat and kiss, the sweet dance... it's so perfect.

Isabela and female Hawke. I don't normally like to play as a woman, but I learned to enjoy female Hawke... I gave her short hair, no make-up, and used the aggressive dialogue options, so she was a bad bitch and I loved her. She really fell for Isabela. Isabela is sexy, confident, and has her own thing going on; she's no damsel in distress. She is also jaded, and I know Hawke's heart was broken when she found that letter from Isabela and thought her gone for good. (Of course she expressed it through anger, but her friends knew she was upset). Then when Isabela shows up at the end of Act 2... ahh, it's such a great moment; it would've been great to experience that on my first playthrough, but of course I had played male Hawke before that several times, so I already knew it was going to happen. I DO NOT like that BioWare has MY Hawke say that she and Isabela don't believe in being tied down in DAI. That really pissed me off. I hate when they FORCE my character into relationship agreements that I didn't make, or that I don't want to make but if I don't I lose the romance (i.e. Iron Bull). So that's one thing I hated about Isabela.

This is long and no one cares, oh well xD

I mean but that's the beauty of video games, and there's no shame in enjoy very much what they have to offer. I have no interest in romance irl but in video games, I get to inhabit another body, live another life, and it's awesome. I really really love romance in literature, media, etc. so it's probably the most important thing to me in a game. I mean I've played a shit ton of games in my life, so I'm kind of over everything else xD 

For me these games mean a lot, I know I was in a dark place when I played DAO for first time and that's why Alistair means a lot to me. And I have read a lot about how these games have meant a lot for other people for similar or different reasons than mine and that is a wonderful thing. Maybe it because of that I'm so visceral sometimes when it comes the kind of rep I would love to have in this way of escapism.

edit. Also I'm a monster trash and love me some monster love, that too lol

I loooove Fenris. He's a kitty cat. It's so hard to choose a favorite