The Character Romance thread (Official)

Honestly, I think it would help to have another LGBT mod.

Another mod said it in this thread: The mods can't always catch everything. So having another LGBT mod would not only add another mod to delete homophobic comments, but it's a little easier to notice whether a comment is homophobic or not if, well, you're LGBT. Since, well, to be frank, if you're LGBT and out of the closet, you've likely had to deal with bigoted comments about your sexual and/or gender orientation before.
(Hell, I dunno an LGBT person who hasn't had to deal with anything like that ever, whether it's online or in person, so it's easier to scout out due to personal experiences)

And if the mods are worried about a bias if they're LGBT, then well, at least it'll balance out some of the other mods' possible biases? Anyways, everybody's got biases when it comes to stuff, so as long as there's checks and balances in moderating (good communication between mods, checking with eachother when it comes to thread wank), it shouldn't be a problem, right?

If they are someone from the Jaal thread, I hope you figure out who so you can take out your trash. It's one thing to love Jaal, it's another thing for this person to be a dick about men wanting Jaal's romance (or something similar) too.

I hope you'll take a message back to the Jaal thread that it isn't cool to post like this Porter person is posting. Call them out and tell them to knock it off, please. I know it's just trolling and baiting us, but it gets old.

I asked in a PM but got no answer. Not yet at least. We had so many in that private chat months ago, it could be anyone.

I'm 33 lol

We had Natashina but she's MIA at the moment. I miss her.

The Silk Fox romance was really meaningful to me because it was one of the first times I felt represented in a game or in media in general. I have always had a soft spot for Bioware because of this. I have bought every game since, dlc, some merchandise and pre-ordered everything because of this representation.  It isn't the only reason I play these games but it is why I felt so loyal to Bioware. It is pretty hard explaining that feeling to someone who grew up constantly seeing characters like them and romances like theirs in almost every piece of media they watch/play/listen to. Bioware was one of the first that did this in a game, they are still one of the only companies that do this in gaming so that is why it irritates me when people pretend it isn't important or say romances aren't worth it.

ME:A is the first time I have felt very conflicted about their choices. Sure they have made mistakes before but I was hoping they would be getting progressively better. Bioware makes ROLE PLAYING GAMES. Having more varied romance options and the ability to choose to play as different sex/orientation is a good thing. Choice in a RPG is a good thing. They should focus on story, combat, giving the player more choices and stop with the trendy shit that is taking away from that like open world, and poorly paywalled mp.

Do you have a name for me? PM me if you want.

Honestly, I think the takeaway from that post is that the comments received "many likes." Sure, you can get rid of a troublesome poster, but if there is an undercurrent of people who support those comments, then it's not a welcoming environment.

Eh, I agree that the same phrasing is suspicious, but I sincerely doubt she's the only bigoted Jaal fan in the universe who thinks that making characters bi "ruins" them. I wish I had a great view of humanity, to the point where I think she's definitely that user because who else could it be but... It's very possibly someone else, too.

I hate that people don't feel welcome in the Jaal thread. Keep posting and F#%k everyone else. Block the douchebags. There's still good people there.

The reality is that it always comes down to reporting posts being the best way to deal with the kinds of comments that aren't supposed to be welcome here. I tend to lurk this thread a decent amount and while another set of eyes would help catch more stuff, things will still slip through the cracks and the times when this thread gets the worst is when a few inflammatory comments aren't immediately caught and it spirals out of control as people respond to them and feed the fire.

Responding with a well crafted constructive post is fine but it's always worth remembering: Somebody else breaking the rules doesn't give you a free pass to do the same. If you make a personal attack on somebody who made a homophobic remark, you still made a personal attack(I'll note I say you in a general sense, not you specifically).

If people are worried that a mod might have a bias, then all I can really say is that when you report a post it goes into a listing on the admin panel that all the mods have access to and any mod will comment on.

It's virtually unheard of that a reported post will be dealt with by a single mod without comments from another mod, regardless of who does the actual PMing.

Most of the time a mod acts without getting input from other mods is if the post is something we personally see and it demands immediate attention so things don't spiral into a flamewar.