The Character Romance thread (Official)

I hate that people don't feel welcome in the Jaal thread. Keep posting and F#%k everyone else. Block the douchebags. There's still good people there.

The reality is that it always comes down to reporting posts being the best way to deal with the kinds of comments that aren't supposed to be welcome here. I tend to lurk this thread a decent amount and while another set of eyes would help catch more stuff, things will still slip through the cracks and the times when this thread gets the worst is when a few inflammatory comments aren't immediately caught and it spirals out of control as people respond to them and feed the fire.

Responding with a well crafted constructive post is fine but it's always worth remembering: Somebody else breaking the rules doesn't give you a free pass to do the same. If you make a personal attack on somebody who made a homophobic remark, you still made a personal attack(I'll note I say you in a general sense, not you specifically).

If people are worried that a mod might have a bias, then all I can really say is that when you report a post it goes into a listing on the admin panel that all the mods have access to and any mod will comment on.

It's virtually unheard of that a reported post will be dealt with by a single mod without comments from another mod, regardless of who does the actual PMing.

Most of the time a mod acts without getting input from other mods is if the post is something we personally see and it demands immediate attention so things don't spiral into a flamewar.

Eh, I agree that the same phrasing is suspicious, but I sincerely doubt she's the only bigoted Jaal fan in the universe who thinks that making characters bi "ruins" them. I wish I had a great view of humanity, to the point where I think she's definitely that user because who else could it be but... It's very possibly someone else, too.

Yah, though I admit it makes me increasingly uncomfortable to be associated with it. I can try and make it open and accepting though. 

Except multiple people have talked about how reporting inflammatory content doesn't always get caught by mods. I've reported posts in the past that might not have even been glanced at by a mod because of just how many posts get reported due to the size of this forum. And, considering some of the things said in this thread today, I don't even know if I feel comfortable sending a PM to a mod about someone spouting bigoted rhetoric or making personal attacks on LGBT users. There's no trust there anymore, I guess.

I'm not saying this to be mean but to be honest, even if it comes off blunt.

Except multiple people have talked about how reporting inflammatory content doesn't always get caught by mods. I've reported posts in the past that might not have even been glanced at by a mod because of just how many posts get reported due to the size of this forum. And, considering some of the things said in this thread today, I don't even know if I feel comfortable sending a PM to a mod about someone spouting bigoted rhetoric or making personal attacks on LGBT users. There's no trust there anymore, I guess.

I'm not saying this to be mean but to be honest, even if it comes off blunt.

She is better as support, then switching out when it is safe or for mobility. You gotta protect your sexy battle milfs okay!?

I hated that also. She was way to good to be a male only player character romance option. I wanted to pair her with so many people... especially my female character.

Given the amount of neck holding in many of the kisses, I can't imagine that as anything but awkward looking.

I do have to say this, and I'm saying it openly and honestly without hyperbole:  This forum has had a history of very unfortunate tolerance of homophobia, both subtle and blatant.  I've seen the mods take action swiftly against the really blatant trolls.  But the blatant homophobia from the regulars?  Not so much.  The subtle homophobia almost always goes unchecked.  And there is a strong bias with some of the mods that many members of the LGBT community here feel very uncomfortable with.  I have personally reported posts and they have not been dealt with in any way that I can see.  Content still exists.  Posters still post.  And I know that this has been the case with others as well.  I don't think that the mods are openly and consciously being homophobic, but some of them are being homophobic by creating a forum where LGBT posters do not feel that they will be treated the same as straight posters.  I'm happy to talk about it in PM.  But it's not new.  You know I've pointed this out before.  And it's coming to a head now.  

Silas makes far more sense as the bi option than Zero. Like...he's childhood best friend that leaves everything behind to help you *and* he's on all 3 routes. Why isn't he bi?!?

Indeed, but not everyone might agree on what constitutes homophobia