The Character Romance thread (Official)

Eh, given how thirsty Ryder is, I didn't mind Jaal making comments about other women. It's his first time seeing the species, after all, so I would probably like "oh these are really attractive," too tbh.

I guess it's open to interpretation, but I had several friends who were put off by him for this exact reason. The whole Rainier thing (and the barn, lol) was skeevy in their opinions. I never romanced the guy, though I like him a lot, but I can see where they're coming from. I also know a couple folks who couldn't romance Iron Bull after Trespasser, even on the Tal-Vashoth route. Just knowing that he was capable of that kind of malicious deceit (the Qunari/TV romance is nearly identical in Trespasser, down to the marriage proposal, which marks a major shift from the "we both know this isn't going to last" tone of the base game's Qunari path - he never says he loves you, iirc - and that bothered a lot of people), plus the whole boss/bas thing really ruined the romance for them. It just got a little too nasty to remain a fun, silly game fantasy.

I think Solas gets a pass because he's a god, like yeah, he lied and left you but you also got to sleep with Fen'Harel, so it kind of evens out in the end, lol.

Bioware writers do seem convinced that the height of romance for straight women is being repeatedly lied to, it's a little weird. 

As for women claiming that making Jaal bi would 'ruin' his character? I don't know... is a general 'fuck you and your biphobia' considered a 'personal attack'?

Funny how you've banned and warned people for saying that...

Source?

Personal experience, I called out another user in a certain thread with their quotes and you sent me a warning for personal attacks,. So you have considered more polite versions of "fuck your homophobia/biphobia" personal attacks. Unless you're saying you want to reform otherwise I just can't believe you're on our side.

You mean followed a user in another thread with the sole intent of harassment and turning other people against them. That is against the rules, and so proper action was taken. It's one thing to express disagreement or even distaste for an opinion in the context of an ongoing relevant discussion. It's quite another to hound people from thread to thread metaphorically bashing their words over their heads.

I will 100% support you saying "fuck your biphobia/homophobia" to someone you're having an argument with that happens to drop examples of either, because that's fully within the rules and your rights and I happen to agree with you. But if you go chasing after them days after the fact to pick a fight in an otherwise unrelated context, then we have a problem.

The overall situation has been put to rest. The parties involved have agreed to keep to themselves, and we want to make sure that happens so no more issues arise. We're not on "sides". We just want to keep the peace.

You mean followed a user in another thread with the sole intent of harassment and turning other people against them. That is against the rules, and so proper action was taken. It's one thing to express disagreement or even distaste for an opinion in the context of an ongoing relevant discussion. It's quite another to hound people from thread to thread metaphorically bashing their words over their heads.

I will 100% support you saying "fuck your biphobia/homophobia" to someone you're having an argument with that happens to drop examples of either, because that's fully within the rules and your rights and I happen to agree with you. But if you go chasing after them days after the fact to pick a fight in an otherwise unrelated context, then we have a problem.

The overall situation has been put to rest. The parties involved have agreed to keep to themselves, and we want to make sure that happens so no more issues arise. We're not on "sides". We just want to keep the peace.

So if I'm lurking in a thread and see something homophobic, I can't jump in to point it out? I have to wait for someone I'm arguing with for different reasons to happen to drop a homophobic comment in that particular argument? Am I understanding you correctly?

In an unrelated thread, out of the blue? I wouldn't call that posting in good faith, no. Would you like some shit you said however long ago suddenly brought up against you, in a completely different topic and setting? Does that seem like a welcoming, "safe" environment to you?

I'm wondering what your distinction is between "lurking a thread" and "following someone else to a thread."