How *unappealing* do you predict straight male romance options will be in DA4?

Well, people do tend to play characters about their own age unless the narrative establishes otherwise.

How old is the Inquisitor supposed to be, anyway?

It was stated in some interview that their age is supposed to be vague - 20-40 years old. I guess older protagonist works only for non-Dalish-mage and non-nonmage-Trevelyan, though.

I always played my Inks as 20 somethings, the females and the one male was in his forties like myself. 

This current game is the first time I had an Ink romance Blackwall, who is in his 40-50s? And my Ink is 20ish. Daughter and father relationship. I'm not a big believer in large age gaps between romantic partners. 

As you have rightly pointed out, Solas' specific brand of racism discriminates against everyone else including Dalish vs his superior race of the Elves-that-Were, as evidenced both by the same dialogue in the vein of "you are all lesser beings but you are sort of cool cat, Inquisitor, and it's too bad I will have to off you" he delivers to any Inquisitor that befriended him & his multiple "pfft, I am not one of them" about the modern Elves.

In other words, Solas is a racist man with a touch of a taste for women of lesser race - as presented in the game. Should they have been technically able to extend it to all the "lesser" races, or plug in a scenario of Love Conquers All it would not have been any less believable. When you seek the Justification for the One True Vision you can find it.

I mean, you are unable to even imagine that over the course of a few years Dorian might be taken by an idea of going unshaven for some urban design stubble. Or that after three years in the South, he'd decide to shave off his moustache. (Shrug).

There is a huge difference for me between not liking anything on offer and being restricted from something you really, really want. That No, Absolutely Not, Never-ever is what makes gates so undesirable to me.

For me the world change, the things change, the characters change, and the players have as much say in how their story unfolds as those guys who created the framework. So, yes, it is easier for me to see the possibilities beyond the limited scope of the content that we ended up with. I place extremely high value on flexibility of a game vs the static narrative of a movie or a novel. I derive the maximum enjoyment when the story and characters are malleable, rather than when it makes me try to sacrifice what makes sense to me vs what makes sense to someone else. Even if something that I totally love seems to be jank to the rest of the universe, for me it is better than anything else, 'cause it's mine & is custom-made for me personally, not for an "average player" or the majority.

As far as I am concerned, I purchased a framework, not a masterpiece I shall only look upon. I wish they sold more lego sets of videogames too like NWN2, but they don't any more.

I hail the mods and modders. Even if I personally don't like the mod. It's still someone's story and as long as it meets the test of the freedom of one ends where the freedom of another begins and does not impede revenues... I am good.

So basically, Skyrim. Except you can’t kill kids without a mod ... details, details.

I dunno, do they?  I'm not really sure I did.  I learnt a few life lessons the hard way and I'm still learning, but I'm basically the same person I was in my teens.  Maybe I'm just weird.  Well okay, I am weird but I mean in that way as well.

As for our own characters, I usually imagine mine is a thirtysomething unless told otherwise, which is young enough to be still able to do anything (in spite of the fact that personally speaking I'm fitter now than I was in my 30s) but old enough to have learnt a few of those gnarly life lessons and to hopefully no longer have acne.

I think Sera is the only one that's much less than that - she's really the baby of the group, probably no more than twenty when the game starts. (Given that she was just a kid during the Blight.) It makes sense, since everyone else is established in their various roles and several of them hold important positions.

I'd say my Inquisitors range from 18 to 26. (I was 29 when I started playing DAI) Not including the years from Trespasser.

My Inquisitors range from 19 to 32. The youngest so far being Ewen the Elven Warrior, and the oldest Nikolai a Human Warrior.

As best I recall, it goes like this:
Younger LIs(<30): Dorian, Josephine, Sera
Older LIs(>30): Cassandra, Cullen, Solas, The Iron Bull, Thom