DA 4 Romances! New info for real this time!!! Zom-bangin'?

So true! Also, please someone tell BioWare that gay men hold hands when they walk together when they are in a romantic situation. the whole bisexual split where straight couples hold hands, but the m/m version is like keeping a safe distance is horse shit. Specially annoying in a fantasy world where no one gives two shits about sexual politics. let us be romantic and proud! 

Yeah, that's about right.

It does seem to hit bisexual women more often and maybe that has to do with also being written for men, I'm not sure. But if that's the case you'd think there'd be more bisexual Morrigans and Viconias, aka the less traditionally "sweet" LIs.


I was thinking that when I wrote it. I'm just so sick of that trope LOL. I like sweetness - all my favorite LIs have their moments of sweetness! - I just want more drama and conflict and sexuality and less bashful doki doki.

And I want pretty much the opposite in terms of a gay or bisexual male romance, Vertigomez. Pretty much due to the fact that we haven't had a shy, bashful M/M option yet. Fenris came close, but he's also angry and broody.

I would love a M/M companion who is fearless and confident in battle, but dorky and shy when it comes to romance.

Yeah, I'd love that. A big, strong, and serious warrior, who's cautious and gentle with a romanced protagonist is such a great contrast. And another trope I like - Gentle Giant^TM

Oh, I know - Alistair is very popular for a reason! Believe me, if I could give him to ya I would. 😉 Or at least someone reminiscent of him lol.

Yeah, it drives me crazy.

DA team has always been better than the ME team in terms of non-straight character representation, but even still, the DA devs were saying the 'has to make sense for the character' line during the lead up to Inquisition.   I forget who exactly said it, but they were describing the process of creating companions.   But it was around the time that Dorian and Sera were revealed, and when we didn't yet know the official sexualities of Cassandra, Blackwall, and Cullen.  

They have also said in the past that they design the character's personality first, and write their story, and then lastly they decide the details of the romance (which I assume is when the sexuality is decided).  Dorian was obviously an exception since his story is very tied up in his sexuality.    But this just makes it seem that the writers can't imagine (or don't want to imagine) gay, lesbian, or bisexual characters that don't conform to those same old tropes.   

I want all the stereotypes shattered in this next game!!!!!

I TOLD everyone on OGBSN that that line was a huge red flag, but nobody listened to me!

I don't know if avoiding stereotypes altogether is the way to go, it limits character designing and writing a lot if you are trying to avoid traits and behavior because x character happens to be y. Characters shouldn't be based on stereotypes, that much is true, but trying to avoid stereotypical things like a plague isn't that much better either.

I think bioware already limits themselves in some ways due to this. They rarely make feminine men at all, but the more masculine leaning women are never lesbians and generally not even bi. They shouldn't avoid things just because they're stereotypes. They should be aware if they're leaning into specific stereotypes often, but avoiding them at a certain point just does more damage than good and questionably starts sending the message that it's bad to be those things at all.

This could all be resolved by simply having a variety of openly gay men and women in the game, romanceable and not. But BioWare insists on hanging all their hopes on a single character, and then boohoo-ing when not every single homo falls in love with him.

How about a party where everyone is promiscuous EXCEPT the byseckshual?

Oh man, I don’t understand why bisexuality and pansexuality break people’s brains so much.

It’s like the only reason someone could go for another gender is because they ran out of fuckbuddies in the first one. And in order to keep their sexuality intact, every bi must fuck exactly 50% women and 50% men simultaneously. Every encounter is at least a threesome, and lord only knows how the pan folks manage.