Lucanis Dellamorte - Official Companion Thread [Spoilers]

https://www.reddit.com/r/dragonage/comments/1fbzz2f/tidbits_about_lucanis_spoilers_all/
So Zorro likes coffee, wyvern (?), knives,book club, paella, and revenge. I do love me some coffee, books, paella and revenge.
But alas he's traumatised through the eyeballs, something I don't find sexy. I don't like the trope of I can fix him, even Astarion as funny and cute as he was , was bothering me with his trauma. Fix yourself, I have a world to save.

The very strange thing is Emmrich face is putting me off, (and posture, bracelet etc...) Lucanis pile of issues aren't it, Davrin might end up being the griffon dad dude, with griffon having the most personality of the duo (also man I don't wanna compete with a bloody griffon)
So for once the ladies looks way better to me. Weird.

You forgot the bit about Emmrich being daddy to a skeleton! He's trying to teach him the ways of the world. Will that include letting him watch during sex? Or overhearing the pair of them discussing the activity between Emmrich and Rook, like we had to endure Cole suddenly blurting stuff out that he had read in other people's minds?

I don't think you have to worry about competing with a griffon. After all, the ladies didn't seem to find that a problem with Garahel and were falling over themselves wanting to sleep with him. It is funny that even back in DAO, Morrigan knew of his reputation. Hmm, I wonder if that was because Flemeth tried to get him to sleep with one of her daughters (or her) and it didn't work? (Obviously Last Flight somewhat got in the way of this possibility but Isseya didn't know everything about her brother's encounters). I agree, though, that Assan has probably way more personality than Davrin.

As I've mentioned before, frequently, it was having it brought home to me about what being possessed really meant with Anders, that ultimately made me give up on his romance. I was happy to try and help him as a friend, which he didn't appreciate enough or he wouldn't have used me like he did, but Justice being on board was a definite romance killer.

Also, the idea you can fix the bad guy can end very badly. My cousin started a relationship with a dodgy guy who had criminal connections. Everyone who knew his background kept warning her against him but she thought she could change him. Sadly she couldn't and she ended up dead. The police said it was suicide but her father was convinced he murdered her. Either way her family were devastated.

I thought Lucanis was a possibility because he didn't want to be First Talon and he clearly was bothered by what Fortex was doing. However, whilst the purple wings look cool, I'm really worried about the direction they might take it. So, I'm certainly not going to rush into a relationship with him until I know a bit more about what is going on there. I think it is far more likely it will be another case of trying to help him as a friend, provided that doesn't require me to approve of the Crows as an organisation, even if it is expedient to work with them against the gods.

Incidentally, I'm increasingly worried about where the whole specialism/faction thing might be going. Whether playing as a mage or a rogue the specialism I am most interested in is linked to the Crows. What implications is that going to have for me? Also, what sort of jobs will we be doing that allow Lucanis to fulfill his quota as a Contract Killer? I'm getting really bad vibes about this.

Yes, Astarion's story was satisfying to resolve, but I really could not bring myself to romance him, or any of the others (romanced Gale, but broke it off). I actually love helping my companions with their problems, but the way I see, I can be their therapist, or I can be their lover. I don't want to be both.

Nah I'm tired of nannying dudes and playing shrink, I can do this easy IRL and done this enough.

I can kind of see both sides of this argument to some extent, but I guess to me (1) what I might enjoy in a fictional romance isn't necessarily what I'll go for irl; (2) being able to help characters actually change for the better is part of the power fantasy; and (3) whether I find a traumatized character's romance appealing depends on a lot of factors, like whether it makes sense for my character to be attracted to them and, most importantly, whether my character's support is reciprocated by the love interest. It's nice when a LI mutually tries to help your character too.

As for Lucanis, I could be wrong, but from his TN story I don't think his personality will be quite as angsty as Anders or Fenris, and I don't think his trauma will be as over the top horrible as Astarion's. He seems pretty stoic and while he's been abused by his grandmother, I expect he has also been somewhat protected by his status in the Crow hierarchy. So he probably didn't have to go through quite the same thing as say, Zevran, who was a slave.

Gervaise isn’t one of them, but it's a little funny how people are complaining about Veilguard lacking darkness, but having the assassin raised from birth to be an assassin and doing, y’know, assassinations, seems to perturb people. Heh.

I know in romance community HEA and how toxic a relationship truly is, is often big deal, but personally I’m not bothered by messy romances or platonic relationships. I want to see different shades of character’s personalities and flaws and how they mitigate or amplify each other—my MC included. They don’t need to be morality plays. Tolstoy said it best: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”

It is what it is.
I've dealt with enough men who refused to see a professional, or try a healthier lifestyle but keep on trauma dumping on me.
I've been threatened by different men of suicide/self harm when I tried to put on healthy boundaries.

It doesn't matter in a video game. IRL you gotta tread carefully.

Yeah, this is a fantasy game, let’s keep it light and fluffy. Lucanis may have his demons (oooh, see what I did there ) but I’m not seeing any signs of a potentially toxic or abusive relationship. It could be fun, it could be riveting. Or it could be like, this is too angst and emo for me (or even triggering, for some) I’ll help you as a friend (like you might help every DA and ME under the sun), but as far as pursuing a romantic relationship, not my cup of tea. And that’s perfectly fine and varies from person to person.

IRL though, you see a red flag, honey, run for the hills. There’s being a good human and being supportive of someone going through a rough patch, and there’s ignoring all kinds of bad signs and putting yourself in harm’s way, because you think you can “fix” people. Sure, people can change and evolve and all of these things, if they’re willing to and do the work themselves. But you don’t fix nobody, and you’re not responsible for it either. Get them a good therapist’s number and wish them luck on their journey.

Now: let’s get back to Lucanis manifesting purple wings and cawing like a crow when boning. xD

I'm still curious about what the companion progression screens reveal about the possible development of his character:   (Do not read if you are totally avoiding spoilers)

I'm not a fan of the beard either but I was expecting it since Lucanis said himself he'll grow one in TN. I agree, he looks a lot like Blackwall, hence my favorite hashtag #blackwallhotcousin.

I wonder who at Bioware decided that's what straight women (or players who play female characters and romance dudes) enjoy? Blackwall and Iron Bull were the only romances in DA:I after all, before Cullen and Solas were added due to extended dev time. Actually, I eventually romanced everyone available to a female character but never did these two romances. 

There's Lucanis and Illario fanart based on The Wigmaker Job, and yes, they look way too pretty here, but there's no harm in that :

I like the beard, personally.