Questions you've always wanted to ask men or women

I understand wanting to celebrate things such as that, but I feel that if you're going to celebrate your relationship, there are plenty of other ways to do so besides defaulting to marriage (which pulls the government into your personal life even more, but that's a different discussion).  I say do something original with your SO that is meaningful to both of you.

But then, maybe my family dynamic is partially responsible for my views regarding this (my parents never got married and stopped being a 'couple' when my sister was young, yet both took care of us).  idk, I just don't put much stock in the act of marriage on its own, ignoring the intended meaning.

Losing the right to the TV remote?

I don't watch tv, so....

Basic birds and the bees here, children have the genes of both parents and combined with starting and raising a family, a couple leave more of a mark on the world as a sign of their union than with a ring.

You're right though, making a child doesn't prove anything about a relationship, neither does a wedding ring. It's the amount of effort the people put into the relationship that counts and it has to be something both parties work at and want to see flourish. A onesided relationship isn't a relationship at all. Neither is establishing it with a ring or bringing kids into it, if anything, either a ring or having kids with someone you're not suited to be with may complicate things instead of bringing the couple together. At most, having kids says the couple was together once, but it's no guarantee that the relationship worked out. 

Speaking as someone who was raised by a single divorced mother and who stayed in a relationship that had definite issues, I  agree with you. The raising of the kids can be done by two dedicated parents, even if those parents aren't together anymore. If a relationship is over, sometimes it's best to let it go. You can raise kids and be apart as long as you both are committed to the kid's welfare. Sometimes it may be better for the kids to have their parents living in separate homes, especially if the parents fight a lot, or if one or both are sacrificing pieces of themselves to stay with a partner who they don't get along with. TBH relationships can be tricky and they get more complex when kids are involved. Some people can manage to stay together because of the kids, and others can really suffer from it. I suppose it mainly depends on the people involved.

Marriage is more about legality than anything else. Financial security if worse comes to worst.

Honestly...I'm not sure I would need the right question to tell a story or maybe I would... I have a lot of stories, too many to focus on just one and I never know which one someone is looking for or interested in hearing. When faced in a situation with too many options, I tend to clam up because my brain does this thought ricochet thing and I can't focus on what I want to say. Too many words, too many ideas, it's too confusing. So unless a topic is established, or a specific question is asked, I find answering any broad question nearly impossible to answer. In other words, I find this question way too difficult to answer because it presents too many options...if that makes sense. 

It can (& often does) get SO MUCH worse than that

A failed marriage is usually a showcase for the absolute abyss of human depravity

It can become a person using what they know about another person from intimate & delicate exchanges to injure in the most vicious & emotionally devastating manner imaginable... it is horrific 

the ring I would gift would be a one made of candy.

In theory, no, but as someone just passing my mid twenties it’s become apparent that some girls are in a different place than me in their lives, wanting to start a family whereas I’m not quite read for that yet.

So that’s a factor.

I think there’s probably a fair few, everybody is different after all. I used to not want kids at all but I’m 29 now and seeing my sister have children has swiftly made me change my mind. Got a lot of maturing to do first though 

Understandable. In my case, I assume I'd have started feeling 'the call' by now, if it was meant to ever happen. For guys, I guess the window is open wider... 


Giant Ambush Beetle, I hear you on the crazy world we live in... I mean, it was always this way, but I can't imagine the emotional strain of having kids and trying to bring them up in a way that would keep them safe and sound and sane... seeing how that's actually impossible. You just gotta try and hope for the best, and I think that's beyond my emotional capabilities. Just one of the reasons I never wanted to do it.

Anyway, I know it's silly to ask anyone about what their whole gender feels, but that's kind of the theme of this thread, haha.