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Post by ArcadiaGrey on Mar 3, 2019 18:37:51 GMT
Just make friends and see if it can go from there. Then you get to know them much better before there's a chance of being hurt. Man, you could've just answered with a ''no''. ?
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Post by ArcadiaGrey on Mar 3, 2019 18:40:04 GMT
Given the effort and my super sensitive skin, I look forward to the day when the natural look is in fashion Though I'll probably hate the feeling and go shave my legs anyway. There's a saying that there's no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one. You best not give into sloth. Sloth? No Lavo, I find it an effort due to ill health and my skin sometimes reacts badly and comes up in a rash. So yeah, there are times when I wish it wasn't necessary.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 3, 2019 18:42:38 GMT
Man, you could've just answered with a ''no''. ? But muh sarcasm!
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Post by ArcadiaGrey on Mar 3, 2019 18:47:16 GMT
But muh sarcasm! Nope, missed that entirely.
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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 3, 2019 18:59:49 GMT
There's a saying that there's no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one. You best not give into sloth. Sloth? No Lavo, I find it an effort due to ill health and my skin sometimes reacts badly and comes up in a rash. So yeah, there are times when I wish it wasn't necessary. Sacrifices have to be made for beauty.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 3, 2019 19:07:22 GMT
Sloth? No Lavo, I find it an effort due to ill health and my skin sometimes reacts badly and comes up in a rash. So yeah, there are times when I wish it wasn't necessary. Sacrifices have to be made for beauty. Also there is no sense of achievement without some form of sacrifice.
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Post by Andraste_Reborn on Mar 4, 2019 1:36:37 GMT
Given the effort and my super sensitive skin, I look forward to the day when the natural look is in fashion Though I'll probably hate the feeling and go shave my legs anyway. There's a saying that there's no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one. You best not give into sloth. I mean, on the other hand, sloth is an amazing time and energy saver. All that effort I could be putting into shaving my legs, counting calories, dying the grey out of my hair and putting on make-up is instead expended on things that matter to me. Writing, swimming, playing video games, napping, eating icecream, watching Netflix ... well, I could go on.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2019 2:24:37 GMT
Is it even worth it? I am never sure.... Just make friends and see if it can go from there. Then you get to know them much better before there's a chance of being hurt. Even if you are friends at one point, you may end up seeing a different side of them when your in a relationship with them that may not be appealing or tolerable. People can change once you get a relationship upgrade with them and if you break up with them then your friendship is also shattered as well. You just get double hurt.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 4, 2019 2:35:27 GMT
There's a saying that there's no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one. You best not give into sloth. I mean, on the other hand, sloth is an amazing time and energy saver. All that effort I could be putting into shaving my legs, counting calories, dying the grey out of my hair and putting on make-up is instead expended on things that matter to me. Writing, swimming, playing video games, napping, eating icecream, watching Netflix ... well, I could go on. Well, to the best of my knowledge you have only one life - do you you really want to spend the only time you'll ever have being ugly, fat or looking/feeling shabby? Heck, if I looked like a hobo I'd feel so uncomfortable that I would not enjoy ice cream, or any other of the short lived hedonistic ''pleasures''. My personal opinion is that the only meaning of life is trying your absolute best to become the best version you can possibly be, and my opinion is that for nearly all people that is what will make them feel the best as well, whether they admit it or not.
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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 4, 2019 2:44:41 GMT
There's a saying that there's no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one. You best not give into sloth. I mean, on the other hand, sloth is an amazing time and energy saver. All that effort I could be putting into shaving my legs, counting calories, dying the grey out of my hair and putting on make-up is instead expended on things that matter to me. Writing, swimming, playing video games, napping, eating icecream, watching Netflix ... well, I could go on. i.postimg.cc/YSGcddzm/giphy.gif
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2019 3:04:19 GMT
I mean, on the other hand, sloth is an amazing time and energy saver. All that effort I could be putting into shaving my legs, counting calories, dying the grey out of my hair and putting on make-up is instead expended on things that matter to me. Writing, swimming, playing video games, napping, eating icecream, watching Netflix ... well, I could go on. Well, to the best of my knowledge you have only one life - do you you really want to spend the only time you'll ever have being ugly, fat or looking/feeling shabby? Heck, if I looked like a hobo I'd feel so uncomfortable that I would not enjoy ice cream, or any other of the short lived hedonistic ''pleasures''. My personal opinion is that the only meaning of life is trying your absolute best to become the best version you can possibly be, and my opinion is that for nearly all people that is what will make them feel the best as well, whether they admit it or not. Maybe for you and Lavo Beetle, but not all people. I actually find looking like a hobo, in my sweats and t-shirts, rather comfortable. I never shave my legs in the winter, because somedays I might need the extra insulation and honestly, it's difficult to contort my body into the positions I need to get into because of my back. I already have a fancy limp, so trying to put all that effort into living up to somebody else's standards won't matter, because somebody THAT critical of someone else's appearance will be judgemental of that flaw too, so I dress to suit myself, not someone else. Some days I will put in an effort if I feel like it, if I'm going to hang out with a friend or if I'm having some alone time with a romantic interest, but on the whole, I like being frumpy.
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Mar 4, 2019 3:32:18 GMT
Is it even worth it? I am never sure.... Just make friends and see if it can go from there. Then you get to know them much better before there's a chance of being hurt. This theory is misguided as heck.
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Mar 4, 2019 3:52:16 GMT
Just make friends and see if it can go from there. Then you get to know them much better before there's a chance of being hurt. Even if you are friends at one point, you may end up seeing a different side of them when your in a relationship with them that may not be appealing or tolerable. People can change once you get a relationship upgrade with them and if you break up with them then your friendship is also shattered as well. You just get double hurt. Double hurt? Not necessarily. I think it's more like 1.25 hurt. With someone you know, you're more likely to catch the BS early, and it's easy to let them go when you know they aren't any good to you.
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Post by Andraste_Reborn on Mar 4, 2019 5:34:46 GMT
My personal opinion is that the only meaning of life is trying your absolute best to become the best version you can possibly be, and my opinion is that for nearly all people that is what will make them feel the best as well, whether they admit it or not. I completely agree with you there! Life is far too short to spend it doing shit you don't care about.
At various points in my life I have shaved my legs, worn make-up, dyed my hair and even been a socially acceptable weight. I didn't enjoy any of those things, so I don't bother with them any more. For me, at this randomly selected point in time, being my best self means swimming further than I did last week, playing with my baby niece, getting my daily words written and finally finishing The Temple of Elemental Evil. If other people don't think I'm acceptably decorative while I do those things, that really seems like a them problem, not a me problem.
Everyone has to work out what their own best self looks like and feels like. For some people that's losing weight, or having a different shade of lipstick for every day of the month, or finally trying sky-diving. That doesn't mean I have to care about any of that stuff, any more than it means other people need to care about the things I want to achieve.
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Post by Bronztrooper on Mar 4, 2019 7:32:24 GMT
So, I guess continuing along the topic of relationships, I want to ask this: If you were dating someone and after a couple dates they told you they were asexual, would you immediately break things off, or wait and see how things progress?
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Post by Lavochkin on Mar 4, 2019 8:28:58 GMT
Well, to the best of my knowledge you have only one life - do you you really want to spend the only time you'll ever have being ugly, fat or looking/feeling shabby? Heck, if I looked like a hobo I'd feel so uncomfortable that I would not enjoy ice cream, or any other of the short lived hedonistic ''pleasures''. My personal opinion is that the only meaning of life is trying your absolute best to become the best version you can possibly be, and my opinion is that for nearly all people that is what will make them feel the best as well, whether they admit it or not. Maybe for you and Lavo Beetle, but not all people. I actually find looking like a hobo, in my sweats and t-shirts, rather comfortable. I never shave my legs in the winter, because somedays I might need the extra insulation and honestly, it's difficult to contort my body into the positions I need to get into because of my back. I already have a fancy limp, so trying to put all that effort into living up to somebody else's standards won't matter, because somebody THAT critical of someone else's appearance will be judgemental of that flaw too, so I dress to suit myself, not someone else. Some days I will put in an effort if I feel like it, if I'm going to hang out with a friend or if I'm having some alone time with a romantic interest, but on the whole, I like being frumpy. Putting effort into oneself for one's own benefit/taste or for someone else's (their "standards") aren't mutually exclusive concepts.
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Post by ArcadiaGrey on Mar 4, 2019 9:40:39 GMT
Just make friends and see if it can go from there. Then you get to know them much better before there's a chance of being hurt. Even if you are friends at one point, you may end up seeing a different side of them when your in a relationship with them that may not be appealing or tolerable. People can change once you get a relationship upgrade with them and if you break up with them then your friendship is also shattered as well. You just get double hurt. True, but it's far less of a crap shoot than dating, with much less anxiety and nervousness.
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Post by DomeWing333 on Mar 4, 2019 10:00:13 GMT
So, I guess continuing along the topic of relationships, I want to ask this: If you were dating someone and after a couple dates they told you they were asexual, would you immediately break things off, or wait and see how things progress? Depends if they're more the "gets nauseous at the mention of sex and doesn't want anything to do with it" type or the "doesn't really feel sexual attraction, but can still enjoy the intimacy aspect of sex" type. The former is a deal-breaker, but the latter I can work with.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2019 16:39:18 GMT
Maybe for you and Lavo Beetle, but not all people. I actually find looking like a hobo, in my sweats and t-shirts, rather comfortable. I never shave my legs in the winter, because somedays I might need the extra insulation and honestly, it's difficult to contort my body into the positions I need to get into because of my back. I already have a fancy limp, so trying to put all that effort into living up to somebody else's standards won't matter, because somebody THAT critical of someone else's appearance will be judgemental of that flaw too, so I dress to suit myself, not someone else. Some days I will put in an effort if I feel like it, if I'm going to hang out with a friend or if I'm having some alone time with a romantic interest, but on the whole, I like being frumpy. Putting effort into oneself for one's own benefit/taste or for someone else's (their "standards") aren't mutually exclusive concepts. Well, I find I have days where I will put in the effort to primp myself up, but usually my efforts are more likely put into being able to climb up and down a set of stairs without jarring my hip or back too much, lifting my leg over the bathtub edge to get into the shower without slipping, or just standing in one place without having my back cramp up on me. For me, constantly worrying about my appearance seems frivolous and being concerned whether others find my appearance acceptable is so low on my priority list, that it's basically non-existent, for the most part. I have other concerns and interests that take up my time and energy. I admit, sometimes I look in the mirror and think "blah", but for the most part, I don't dwell on that kind of thing.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2019 17:03:02 GMT
So, I guess continuing along the topic of relationships, I want to ask this: If you were dating someone and after a couple dates they told you they were asexual, would you immediately break things off, or wait and see how things progress? Honestly? If I liked them as a person and thought they were worth getting to know, then why? I'd consider moving the relationship into a different type of category (more of a friend than a romantic partner), discuss with that person what their expectations were of the relationship and then decide from there as to whether I'm willing to accept or refuse his intended relationship goals. There would be a lot of determining factors in how I would proceed in that situation, there really is no way to answer that question, except that there's a good chance I wouldn't immediately call it off, no.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 4, 2019 17:17:14 GMT
My personal opinion is that the only meaning of life is trying your absolute best to become the best version you can possibly be, and my opinion is that for nearly all people that is what will make them feel the best as well, whether they admit it or not. For me, at this randomly selected point in time, being my best self means swimming further than I did last week, playing with my baby niece, getting my daily words written and finally finishing The Temple of Elemental Evil. If other people don't think I'm acceptably decorative while I do those things, that really seems like a them problem, not a me problem.
Everyone has to work out what their own best self looks like and feels like. For some people that's losing weight, or having a different shade of lipstick for every day of the month, or finally trying sky-diving. That doesn't mean I have to care about any of that stuff, any more than it means other people need to care about the things I want to achieve.
True, but besides your special interests there are some greater general goals for all of us, for example staying healthy, career plans / monetary factors, your physical appearance, education, partners etc. I do think my best version of myself includes lots of special stuff, stuff like being good at target shooting, powerlifting or learning as much as possible about topics that interest me, but they only compliment the big general general goals. I find people that do deny the relevance of said bigger goals to be a little delusional or in denial because they are afraid of the work they'd need to put in to get good at it. Nearly everybody wants to look good, wants to be very healthy and wants to have an awesome partner. Well, unless you are either mentally deranged or a monk (but in my personal opinion they are the absolute hardliners among the delusional so... )
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Post by mybudgee on Mar 4, 2019 18:07:44 GMT
Given the effort and my super sensitive skin, I look forward to the day when the natural look is in fashion Though I'll probably hate the feeling and go shave my legs anyway. There's a saying that there's no such thing as an unattractive woman, only a lazy one. You best not give into sloth. Hard work DOES NOT always pay off
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Post by BamBam the Destroyer on Mar 4, 2019 18:28:07 GMT
So, I guess continuing along the topic of relationships, I want to ask this: If you were dating someone and after a couple dates they told you they were asexual, would you immediately break things off, or wait and see how things progress? If a woman that I am in a relationship with makes me live in sexual depravity, regardless of her orientation, she doesn't love me or value the relationship very much. Just sayin'. Strait, bi, asexual, whatever, no sex is the physical way of saying "I do not care about this relationship" or "I take this relationship for granted" or maybe even "I am a manipulative bitch who uses my sexuality to force my will on whoever is unfortunate enough to be in a relationship with me" I'd give her a chance to prove her case, but she'd be on the short list to be kicked to the curb.
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Post by Giant Ambush Beetle on Mar 4, 2019 19:14:12 GMT
So, I guess continuing along the topic of relationships, I want to ask this: If you were dating someone and after a couple dates they told you they were asexual, would you immediately break things off, or wait and see how things progress? I'll take this as a purely theoretical question since no woman can stay asexual in my glorious manly presence. At least not for long. Joke aside, for me a proper relationship also contains the physical version of love, I would not want a purely platonic relationship. Stopping this whole thing or continuing would largely depend on the reason why she's asexual in the first place, and the chemistry. If we really liked each other and the chemistry was right and I saw a slim chance to make her reconsider- or - depending on the circumstances, make her give this ''physical love thing'' a fair chance and see where it goes instead of simply saying no never! to it right away, yes, then I'd continue dating her and even start a relationship. But otherwise I would have to accept that we expect different things from this potential relationship and that we are incompatible and have to move on.
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Post by ahglock on Mar 4, 2019 19:55:05 GMT
So, I guess continuing along the topic of relationships, I want to ask this: If you were dating someone and after a couple dates they told you they were asexual, would you immediately break things off, or wait and see how things progress? Wait and see. Relationships require compromise. If they are completely unwilling to do things to make their partner happy they donβt really care for them. Similarly is their partner is unwilling to be in a relationship without doing something to make the partner happy they donβt really care. Iβd be willing to wait and see if itβs a person I could care about enough to not. But honestly I probably would make a decision early. Itβs a do I see a chance this could be a long term relationship decision. If I think the odds are low I wouldnβt keep a relationship going.
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