What I ultimately want out of Andromeda

And you know this? 

There is nothing that would suggest otherwise, bioware was never good with meaningful choices, that is not the reason people play their games. 

If they're going to have more choices that affect the outcome of the story I'd like to see more neutral ground on that.

In Mass Effect 2 there was plenty of things you could do to affect how the final mission played out, but there was one clear best set of choices that resulted in everybody being alive at the end. I don't consider it a great choice if I one of the choices is better in every way.

Legion's loyalty mission was an example of a good choice, where the options are to either rewrite(and effectively brainwash) the heretics or to simply wipe them out. Neither is an inherently better choice for the player. Of course it ultimately didn't matter much in the end in ME3, but the choice itself wasn't where the flaw in this one was.

Tali's mission on the other hand was a good choice ruined by the inclusion of the "I win this conversation" button. What should have been a choice between keeping Tali part of the fleet and ruining her father or getting her exiled to protect her father was entirely negated by just being able to yell your way out of the choice.

If choices are going to matter, I'd like it if the choices didn't have an obviously superior outcome attached to one of the choices for the most part.

Maybe.. perhaps I am spoiled by the likes of Divinity Original Sin, Pillars of Eternity, Tides of Numenera when it comes to choices. 

this does remind me of why i love inquisitions choices so much. Morally gray choices who aren't good or evil but whose value depends on the player.

Well yeah? Because those games are Isometric RPGs that don't share the same character across 3 titles. Its easy to give the player huge choices that heavily impact the game when you dont need to worry about the next game in the series. You can't really compare titles like that with something like Mass Effect or Dragon Age where your save data carries over into the next title.

If Bioware was to give us huge choices we could make at the end of each game then their work would almost certainly triple. They would have to essentially change huge portions of each game to accounts for what people chose.

Honestly Im fine with how Bioware does it. They give you plenty of choices to make that add flavour to the game, giving the player the feeling of control even when it isn't giving you so much control that it's groundbreaking.

Yes but its only one game. A fairly short game compared to Pillars, for example. The REASON its shorter than Pillars is because of the fact that the game can be so different depending on your initial choices. 

Do you want to go Vampire or Werewolf? Werewolves are more powerful.