A Trail of Hope for me what it felt like arriving at Skyhold. I turned the corner.

Actually, for most of the newer BW games (definitely everything after DA: Origin) I never felt as if the player character is completely "my character". They are too cinematic for that. I feel more like a hybrid of a movie screen writer and director. This was already the case with Shepard, Hawke, the Inquisitor and now Ryder. While I can shape their personalities to a degree, they are definitely separate characters from me.

That's not a complaint btw, I am completely fine with this. In fact, that's what RPG means for me. I don't want to play "my character", I want to play "a character" that is not me but has different traits. (That's also why I can enjoy e.g. the Witcher games, I just have to get into the mindset of playing that character and I'm good. I do the same in Skyrim, I don't imagine the character to be me or like me, I imagine a cool archetype that I want to play - be it a rough northman or a noble paladin - and then I make the character accordingly with little regard of how close it would be me in real life)

Thing is, what I do have is a pretty clear vision of what I want this character to be like. One problem I had while playing Andromeda (more than with playing DA or the MET) was that the dialogue quite often didn't allow me to shape the character into the vision I had developed for it. That's not good but he problem was definitely not in identification with the character but rather that I couldn't quite develop that Protagonist into the direction that I wanted. But ok, since I am resigned to the fact that I do play some other character, as long as it's one that I more or less like, I can work with that, also in ME:A.

Oh, I didn't even mean to suggest that I wanted aliens in the CC. I am fine with playing a human, when I was talking about options to shape the character, I was more thinking about what my character can say in dialogues and stuff.

I mean, having the ability to play aliens would be nice in general principle but I can see a lot of technical difficulties that would come with that, so I do understand why they shied away from it so far.

I chose to do it after journey to meridian, but before the journey home. Kallo was cracking me up with his gallbladder, then it cut this this- Jaal with his arm around thin fucking air

A common bug for a romancing character, yeah. From what I know, femRyder goes full stealth while maleRyder glitches over the "whatever is the character sitting in the middle". In my case, Liam was holding the sofa.

After Aya, I had some real problems how first contact was made. It's too casual, but... I became invested. I'm not struggling to adapt to male Ryder anymore. After Aya, I was able to claim ownership of Ryder. I wonder where all of you made that leap, where your Ryder became your Ryder. It took me a while to become the Inquisitor, but once I was holding that sword, I was the Inquisitor (Cue NWA's Straight Outta Compton). 

From what I understand, this glitch is femRyder specific. 

Geebus...that's a pisser of a glitch. Borking the romance of half it's player base must have led to some awfully interesting Tweets to the BioWare account.