Romance types you haven't had, but would like to

I could be mistaken, but I think I remember David Gaider saying that the writers toyed with poly characters, but that the varying relationship flags and divergent dialogue would have been a nightmare to code. The only way they could see it working is if the player joined a previously established couple. Each would have their own challenges, like the aforementioned fetishizing of gay couples (dudebros for F/F and yoai fangirls for M/M)  or that the player would be "forced" to be bi with a M/F one. Not to mention that some people might like one of the pair, but hate the other. Lots of challenges, but I hope a good writer can meet them.

What if the hypothetical poly couple want equal footing, to "share and share alike?" indeed, what if the whole point of this sub plot is to romance, and be romanced by both of them?

Fair enough. I suppose I was simply looking for things that would make this particular relationship different from previous Bioware ones, in both a narrative and gameplay sense. Considering how freely non-romanced Companions discussed whatever relationship the player was in, a scenario where the PC is only involved with one of a couple didn't seem drastically different to me. Your main could romance one and the other on an alt where everyone talks about it, but not both at the same time. In my mind, one of the whole points of a threesome is that it wouldn't ever become a triangle, and a triangle sub-plot would be for other characters.  

It'll be hard to meet in Tevinter with someone who is completely neutral in politics, I suppose.

If you don't mind me asking: how does getting married to two men work? I imagine that it isn't recognized under the law?

^Thanks for the interesting off-topic! I've never given much thought to the practicalities of issue, but what you explained makes perfect sense

About the romances, I think I would like to see not just different types of characters but also different ways which the romances start and pan out. For example, it would be cool if some companions took the initiative and started pouncing on you and being assertive, without you being the one to initiate the affair with flirts etc. I'm tired of being responsible for the flirts and taking the lead! I just want someone to claim me as their own

Personally I would also enjoy romances which are more closely tied to the main plot. Like in the case of Anders, Solas and so on, but for (almost) every romanceable character. I think it makes the romances more involving if they are somehow significant also outside the purely personal and romantic context. To date, the majority of the more plot-relevant romances haven't really been my cup of tea (Anders, Solas, Morrigan, Alistair), and I'd really love for this to change in the future. Not that I'm looking for another tragedy or a dysfunctional relationship - it would be best if I could end up "happily ever after" with someone despite some ultimate effort made or ultimate price paid to get there. Maybe a bit like Hawke and Anders after the events of DA2 minus Justice which makes Anders go mad.

I wouldn't mind this, as long as the rejection isn't some horribly asshole remark, like the one to reject Anders. I game it to avoid the flirt altogether because it's so bad (this isn't about rivalry, either, as my alternate path still gets me rivalry). I thought the one with Zevran was fine.

I had an odd feeling that Gil & Jill was an attempt at a nuclear family with more than two starting partners. I was very uncomfortable with that set-up personally. But I was also really uncomfortable with both Reyes and Gil being my commited romances at the end of MEA, and me not having a way to break it off. I am worried about the DLC. It is not OOC for my Ryder to have both a husband and a lover, but I am uncomfortable with it, so it takes me out of the game mood.

it would be nice to have a gentle break up option always available at every stage of a relationship, not just something that comes up in the middle of a cool cutscene you want to see. I know, it is a convenience, but it is not unrealistic.

I don't think they intended it as an insult, but I think the idea of what it is they are shooting for was very, very complex and based on some sort of a too personal and traumatic experience. I was getting the same uncomfortable feeling I had in Awakening when you come across three quests about demanding women who drive men to suicides because they fall short of their expectations, that one of the lead writers was in personal troubles.  But maybe they just wanted to bring back a threesome like in Origins and just did not get far enough. (Shrug) who knows. But the result... not good.

They could explore compersion: The feeling of joy associated with seeing a loved one love another and be loved by another. And part of your romantic scene could be interrupting them cuddling or already kissing. Joining their cuddle couch. All three of you handling hands, just not in a circle.

Asking them out for spending  time could involve them "checking in" with their other partner to make sure that they don't already have plans. And then maybe they do have plans, but if you're open to a "group" date or "date threesome" you two can still spend time together, just not one on one.

Lots of subtle jokes about "communication" that poly folks would totally get.

Any discussions of children could involve a few ideas (for some reason, I'm imaging this character as a woman.) Anyhow, she could say she's decided against children for herself but will support you seeking that from someone else even as two of you remain a couple. Another option is that she's promised her legal husband/first partner a child first, so your desire for a bio child would have to wait until child #2

There could be candid conversations, respectful, not "hurdy hurdy" about how group sex is on the table, has been done in their past, but her husband/male partner isn't romantically interested in other men.

Which opens it up to female protaganists connecting to the husband of the duo on a first or second PT.

But yes, if Bioware treated each person of the couple as a single entity with only a single verbal recognition of the pre existing relationship to the new partner, it would very much feel like any other Bioware relationship with strings that could easily be head cannoned away.

I like to think it was not "intentional", but still uncomfortable the whole Jill–baby story. How they didn't see that, I'm very curious about it. So I do not want this kind of mlm romance anymore. Gil's sweet, I would like him, better, but this story spoil the enjoyment.