The Blanketfort (crying and throwing up) - The Official Solas Thread [Spoilers]

That stops the romance. The Inquisitor says "You're a good friend, Solas. I appreciate that." 
So the only way to romance him is to have the Inquisitor grind against him like a horndog.

Picture or it didn't happen? 

He's definitely lighter on romantic content than most of the other romances, yeah. And he really is passive in the romance, at least in the beginning.

I remember talking about this a few weeks ago, how weird it is to compare Solas romance with Alistair's. Because Alistair's sort of insecure and wilting and submissive, but (at least if you get his approval up high enough) he's the one who really moves the relationship along. Whereas Solas is pretty confident and comfortable and secure, but he doesn't make a move unless you do, first. The only point in the relationship where he acts first is... when he breaks up with you. Wah wah. 

I think that's mostly because, in the beginning he simply can't conceive of you (Or any mortal) being capable of capturing his interest. I think it's around the Fade scene where he begins to question that. But from then, he holds back because, well, that whole "Gonna destroy your world" thing.

But I think his reluctance is mostly circumstantial - in a situation where he didn't have the whole Fen'Harel thing hanging over his head, I imagine he'd be pretty bold in courtship. Compare to a character like Alistair, whose reluctance is an innate character feature, rather than situational. 

I just can't really imagine it otherwise, given how... inspired, let's say, some of the things he says and does, especially in the romance. How confident he is with flirting, the references to when he was young and cocky, his enjoyment at Halamshiral. Yeah, Solas takes a bit to come out of his shell, but by God does he ever make an impression when does. That's something I like quite a bit about his character. He's so carefully stoic, but shows flashes of incredible passion. A quiet but complete confidence.

...Granted, that also seems to be a major flaw of his, so (shrug).

 to be fair, that is FLY CAM. It's very very likely the quiz is not actually grinding their crotch on his leg it's just they didn't bother making sure the bottom half was appropriate to the scene when they don't even show the bottom half during the scene. They made the top half what they wanted to be, and ignored the lower halves of the characters clipping into each other.

 to be fair, that is FLY CAM. It's very very likely the quiz is not actually grinding their crotch on his leg it's just they didn't bother making sure the bottom half was appropriate to the scene when they don't even show the bottom half during the scene. They made the top half what they wanted to be, and ignored the lower halves of the characters clipping into each other.

Well... I mean, I'm into sexy things happening too, but I'd actually think a guy was a total creep if he manipulated my body into humping his leg on a 1st/2nd kiss.

So, I like the fan speculation but I kinda hope not. If that makes sense.

Heh, no... it's possible it was just a happy coincidence of placement working out, but when you watch the clip it all moves carefully and seamlessly together. It's definitely what it looks like.

Always felt someone took a page from DA2 where Hawke slips their thigh between Fenris' legs.

Honestly? I kinda feel like Weekes just-so-happened to avoid being explicit about Solas and the Inquisitor having sex, and just decided to roll with it when people said that the romance is asexual-friendly. I can understand saying they didn't have sex, period. That would make the romance technically asexual, but I think there's too many references and suggestions in game to seriously claim that Solas himself is.

I guess you could make the claim that he intentionally avoided being explicit, to avoid upsetting players who'd see it as a breach of consent. But even then, that doesn't make Solas actually asexual, just not-sex-having. Which is a word now. Don't question me.

I'm one of the ace-spectrum people who had assumed without any input from anyone that there had not been any sexual relations between Solas and Lavellan. It's actually the other Solavellan fans who burst that little bubble for me, not Patrick Weekes. But I did get the sense that Solas was probably a sexual character, and that he chose not to have sex because of Reasons. In my head, those reasons were not merely his own but were also respectful of my Lavellan's wishes. Soon after finishing the game but before coming back to the forum in force, I had been very pleased with the maturity and respectfulness of the romance between Lavellan and Solas. And then in Trespasser, you find out he has lied by omission about who he actually is throughout it all, but it made sense to my (and my Lavellan's) pragmatism, so I don't hold a grudge against him for it (and neither does my Lavellan, although you can bet that she angrily yelled at him for not trusting her - she has a temper but it passes quickly). I still feel that what they had was indeed real, and that my Lavellan was never treated disrespectfully by Solas in a personal sense.

I must admit that I had mixed feelings about that first kiss with Solas because it did seem to be making my Lavellan, who I played as somewhat shy, suddenly become altogether too pushy. In fact I never really got why she would be so forward at that point. Then afterwards when she went to speak with him there was the conversation about fade tongues and I was really wondering at the speed at which the romance seemed to be progressing. Then on the balcony he is saying it would be kinder not to pursue it, so when he did break up with me I felt like the writers were trying to imply it was my fault if I got my heart broken because I had been the one insisting on keeping it going. Finally in Trespasser you get the line about how he would never have done anything I didn't want him to and I really felt bad for my girl because once again it seemed to be putting responsibility for her broken heart onto her. Nevertheless, having come that far with the relationship, I decided that she was obviously hopelessly devoted to him, so instead of being angry with him over the comment, he still has her undying love. (Definitely a case of role playing her character rather than how I felt myself).

I think Solas is a bit like Marmite (I don't know if anyone outside of the UK will get that joke) and you either love him or hate him. Back in the early days, I recall I was raving about how great he was and my daughter's response was she found him "a bit creepy". Her boyfriend on the other hand thought he was a great person but then again he wasn't romancing him. On the whole I think I prefer him as a friend simply because there is something about the romance that seems somewhat manipulative, particularly if you are playing a more "innocent" Inquisitor.