I cannot defend BioWare regarding SJW stuff anymore. That's it.

Sten was perfectly clear, yes. But since Krem is a man, there's no contradiction.

I think you have it backwards....Krem is physically female but lives as a male. Thus, is a he, not a she.

If her being female wasn't a matter of choice to the Qunari, then her gender would be considered female from birth. The Qun, according to Iron Bull's words (not what our society considers) believes the matter of gender assigned at birth "born one gender". In our society this isn't the case, because some consider gender and sex to be two different things.

If the Qun believe you were born one way and you live in another completely different to how you were born, yes that is choice.

The assumption isn't an assumption at all, it comes from Iron Bull's exact words. Iron Bull explicitly states that Krem was "born one gender yet lives like another", that Krem's gender at birth is female. 

The tamassrans interjection doesn't fit in with Sten's analysis that people are born who they are. That they can't diagnose these things at birth and they need to wait till later is yet another example that Sten's world has been changed from Origins. A person's brain doesn't develop until later, and Sten's insistence that people are born who they are should tell you all you need to know about Sten's attitude toward brain trumps body.

I liked it better when the Qunari were emotionless, unbending savages

Assigning a role for people who are transgender goes against a culture that determines your role at birth (which is what Sten was talking about in Origins). For the simple reason that gender doesn't appear until well after birth. That Inquisition attempted to place this into Qunari culture is incompatible with Sten's beliefs. Inquisition may have stated that your role was assigned later, that was not the case in Origins. This is what people mean by retcon and inconsistencies

Or, he could have simply been trying to simplify things for the Warden so he didn't have to get into all the gritty details about how Qun society operates. It's not like he was all that forthcoming with information.

From Sten’s dialogues I always assumed that Qun raised children separately from families and determined their vocation over the course of their education, not at birth. Knowing what a child is going to be at birth sounds really far fetched. I never thought it was strange for Qun to put Krem to work on what he is good at. To me Qun was always about placing people in the position that fits them. The only problem I have with it, is that most people do not really have strongly defined talents.

FFS... Anita is toxic as fuck. I don't want her anywhere near Bioware or their characters/storylines. All i ever see her doing is lying and insulting people, that is not something you want in a studio.

Yup. That was part of the alien horror of the Qun. That every aspect of your identity is something assigned to you by someone else. You have no say in the matter. It was terrible, yet fascinating.

DAI really did to much to try to humanize the Qun. Make them just big horned (or not) humans.