DA 4 Romances! New info for real this time!!! Zom-bangin'?

hm yes, like I said...my brother has had copying behavior since a very young age, sometimes it just depends on the people he hangs with (atm he has some good friends who keep him in line so here's hoping)

I myself struggled with my own sexuality for a while due to never having experienced a romantic relationship before, even wondered if maybe I might be a-sexual

my mother reassured me that if that is the case, she'd love me no matter what sexual orientation I might have

I imagined what if I have a child in the future who comes to me and says 'mom...I'm bi/gay etc.' then I wish to support that child in whatever way I can

It is definitely a hornet's nest for a lot of reasons. My personal feelings on the question have actual evolved over the years. They used to be pretty cut and dry. I thought it was a bad idea, and that it would be better to focus on what comes net, rather than retro-active representative (not in the sense that I could or should forbid people their freedom, but simply in they way I emotionally reacted). I no longer think it's quite so simple. 

I've been playing Swtor a lot lately. I'll use that as an example. Most of the romances in that game are pretty strictly geared toward heterosexual content. I could list a lot of different instances, but I'll try to limit myself to the male bounty hunter class story for now. Here's a waifish tech-savvy girl who's on your team. If you are a male, and you develop high approval with her? Romance happens. Your character will probably grab her and kiss her at some point if you play anything close to a nice character, and possibly even if you don't (wanting vengeance for her murdered mentor nets approval with her). Wanted to play a character who isn't straight or even particularly romantic? Too bad, you're in a romance. Now few cases in the game do this to you, and it doesn't directly address your question, but what I'm driving at is that presumption regarding romantic interest is freaking everywhere in fiction, even in games that tend to offer slightly more options. A lot of existing romanceable characters have been written with these assumptions in mind, rather than a thoughtful and reflective approach toward the character's possible interests. There's another character in a different class story, Jaesa, that the writer's changed to bisexual in a later patch. I don't even think it was something there was a big push for, like with Jaal. It was just something they felt better about later on. Writing is often an imprecise art. It's totally possible for a writer to realize something about a character well after initially writing them. 

I know I'm rambling. The reason for that is mostly because I know longer think there is a perfect, cut and dry answer for this issue. I think we're mostly better judging on a case by case basis, if we feel the need to judge at all. 

But just...consider this. Imagine being a gay man, who has spent most of his life encountering the presumption that he must like women, seek after women, cherish attention from women. If he plays games, even these mostly repeatedly assume that any male character he plays engages with women in a very particular way. When, he finds one of these harmless fantasy outlets that at least is willing to recognize he might have interests elsewhere, there's still these coincidental moments that demonstrate a clear bias toward assuming feelings and attraction in his character that are actually foreign to him. We're not talking about just isolated incidents, we're talking about a whole environment littered with these false assumptions based on very little other than it's what most of the mainstream mindset expects. 

I mean, really, how much estimation do we expect this person to have toward the sanctity of the stories that continuously do this? Or respect for the idea that meddling with fictional characters is some kind of sin, after all they've been treated to so little respect toward their interests in the same situation when you know, they themselves aren't fictional concepts but real people? 

I don't know, perhaps I'm putting it clumsily, and perhaps I'm not even the best person to speak to this. For the record, I'm bisexual, and compared to the example I mentioned I've only rarely had issues with rpg games foisting feelings on my character that kind of insult me. I've just thought about it a lot, and as a result I have a lot of reflection to ramble on about.