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Post by Steel Dancer on Aug 31, 2016 18:05:19 GMT
Not BSN (but got some good friendships from there) but I did get an SO through, of all things, Diablo II.
It's an odd world when trusting someone with a few hundred thousand gold can end up leading you to a relationship...
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Post by OneWomanArmy on Aug 31, 2016 18:19:02 GMT
I used to go for a pretty face more than personality when I was younger but that has since changed. I think falling in love with someone's faults, wonders, their amazing being is far more deep and fulfilling than just the thrill of attraction alone. Of course there has to be attraction as well but I seek both, or I don't seek any, but what I mean is if one has the patience and trust then online love can be worth it, cause that way you get to fall in love with the person first and foremost and not the face or the body. you should just get it on with KingTony Already seeing someone else but thank you for the suggestion
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Post by Nayawk on Aug 31, 2016 21:21:16 GMT
I'm not sure I am as qualified to give relationship advice as my very stable 20yr relationship suggests, as I don't really understand other women (admit it, you're all weird) But for me, the friend part of girlfriend is the most important. Sooner or later the 5 times a day passion will dim and you better damn well have something to talk about when that happens. So: Don't be jealous...... Seriously, just don't. This goes both ways. Yes he/she is looking at that girls/guys arse, we all do it, get over it. ( In fact if you see a very nice arse you should point it out in case they have missed it, its only polite ) Shared hobby/common interest..... Sounds weird but its important. It is not really healthy if you do everything together, but there should be something that is yours together. Be honest..... This one should go without saying, but I don't just mean be honest that you eat the last cookie. I mean be honest about who you are and what you want. That includes if you want kids or not, if you like to dress up as a mouse and squeak, if you think Trump is awesome. Hiding who you really are will make no one happy. Lower your expectations.... Love is not a Disney movie. This shit is hard.
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Post by Arktinen on Aug 31, 2016 21:36:39 GMT
^ Have all my likes today. I fully agree with all of that.
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Post by mousestalker on Aug 31, 2016 21:50:37 GMT
^Could not agree more.
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Post by Dobby on Aug 31, 2016 21:51:20 GMT
^ I concur
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2016 22:40:13 GMT
you should just get it on with KingTony Already seeing someone else but thank you for the suggestion ah well, if it doesnt work out you have a backup plan, i mean seriously, the chemistry is there, im rooting for you guys
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 0:14:33 GMT
That's not clever or funny. And, before anyone gets on their "it's just a joke" high horse, I'm putting it out there that I have been drugged by a so-called friend. I think I've had enough of this site for today. Damn :/ She was cool :/
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 11:14:52 GMT
Without empathy and respect you won't find a decent person to be your partner regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, political and religious views, income, education, citizenship, psychological and/or physical trauma, race, favorite Avenger and so on. Not being a dick towards others is really like step 1 to find someone that falls in love with you. The post below is my own opinion, and isn't in any case against any answer made in this thread, isn't at all directed against someone. I just think a myth quite spread on internet about such topic, needs to be destroyed. It cannot do any wrong to be a bit more realistic thanks to life experience and half facts, and not just the theory or subjective biaised opinions. ------ Agreed. Though the advice " be a nice guy and you will easily find someone " has to be the biggest joke ever, the biggest myth invented by women nowadays ( mothers, friends, sisters ). ( i don't believe it's a lie, they can believe that themself, I just think that it follows too much logic, and do not take into account enough the need of powerful emotions quite independent from logic and theory ) It doesn't fit at all the reality. It's quite the opposite. if you are a nice shy guy, socially awkward, you'll let other confident men have the upper hand over you and you'll let them steal you the girl you like because you took too much time with her, struggled too much, or things might never happen because you didn't move enough with your friendly path, and the girl got tired of the endless circle of uncertainty and she finally is not interested anymore. It happened a lot. And believe me, there are also many of them who do not like men behaving as if they were cowards or being awkwardly hesitant. It can even be judged creepy. I've seen several guys rejeted by girls simply because of their fearful behavior before them while they were totally nice and friendly, to them or to everyone. These guys failed to make the feel comfortable, as such, zero chances to ever attract them. Could be seen as friends but not boyfriends, so friendzoned. The very pretty girls, those who are used to have a lot of boyfriends, who know that they are attractive to men, if someone thinks that because he is a decent, friendly nice guy who respects people, very attentive to the needs women, doing whatever the hell they'd like, he couldn't be more mistaken, not gonna happen unless he is lucky. He is mostly going to be judged as boring, bland and uninteresting. Unless he is super handsome. But since most men are physically average, let's forget this idea right now. By simply being nice and respectful to them, you are just going to be a good friend. Being simply nice and friendly has mostly no power to make her feel in another way, friendzoned. That's it, if we are talking about standards and if we avoid the special circonstances of personal cases. It can of course happen as well, but it's a very slow pace. It might takes months and months or years and years, unless another guy enters into the game and finally detracts her from you because you were friendly and nice with her, expecting that one day she would open her eyes about you and would fall in love. i've already lived such thing. No thanks, it has to be the weakest strategy ever. ( Unless again you are lucky ) I'm saying this from experience. From what I'm seeing everyday in my life, from what I've seen in high school and college. In nightclubs. I'm not saying this just like that. It's also not just my experience, but the experience of a lot of men. The so called " nice guy " so praised by women when you ask them, is often the last canard. The big category of men who never had any girlfriends are not the jerks but those who are absolutely nice, who respect them, shy and all, socially awkward etc, the jerk even if anoying is still judged more interesting than them and has still more chances and actually doesn't have often any difficulty to find a girlfriend. There are plenty of bad boys out there who attract women like flies. These guys are not good at keeping them, it's true, but that's another point, we are talking about finding someone. They have not any difficulty with such thing for a lot of them. Why ? Because the jerk is still bold and striking. Let's be clear, it's not a critic. It's about being realistic instead of being misleaded by idealism, and not just following the logic and the theory. It would be a mistake, because emotions are not logic and do not always follow the theory. In theory we all would like to end up with someone nice, lol. A jerk is in theory not liked and would have zero chances, but if he is interesting, if he is striking, if he is smart and funny, yup you can believe that the emotions of the girl could be still shaken. That guy is still able to shake their emotion in a positive way, even if there are other time where it's in another negative way. It might be an unpopular opinion, but believe me, that's the case. I'm certain of what I'm saying. It's not being nice that will get you something with the best results and in the most easiest and quickest way. it's being bold. There are a lot of guys who are absolutely ugly with pretty girls. Their appareance didn't help them at all. But they know how to talk to them, how to make them laugh, they are interesting, they are totally comfortable, they tease, they they totally make them comfortable and they always enjoy their presence, they are leaders, they do not fear to be rejected. And when they are rejected, they move on, they do not loose their time crying over one person. They know that half of the population are women. Being " nice " isn't really what got them to their success. If anyything, if they hoped that they would get some results by being friendly, nice to them, it would have never happened for them. Obviously, when a girl interests you, you have to be nice. It's only logic. She is expecting you to respect her, few are that stupid to date a man wh doesn't respect them first. But it's not what will determine your sucess in most cases. Being a nice guy is what will make you have a good relationship with someone, but it's not what will make you find easily someone. My post is more about a general case, as standard, taking into account a whole population with different tastes. Being confident, bold, not hesitating, is mostly the most successful to reach your goal, of that I'm certain, especially that I lived both as a shy guy in the past and as a guy who do not fear anything anymore today. Sorry for the long post. But on internet, I see always this advice, be a nice guy and you'll find someone. It's obvious that you have to be nice toward the person you like, but that's a given. That's not the best advice and the best priority to give in my opinion. Now to each its strategy and to each its opinion, I have mine and I do think it's the best for men. It's not arrogance, it's just a conviction.
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Post by kouzje on Sept 1, 2016 12:46:32 GMT
^I think you have to be nice of course but you have to be yourself too. I personally don't like being treated like a porcelain doll. A bit of teasing in a relationship is healthy and fun. I'm not saying it's easy but if you're relaxed and funny around the girl that's about all that's required. Boldness is good if you're the bold type. Some guys can end up being even more awkward because they're trying too hard to be someone they're not. Just be honest with your feelings. If you're interested, don't pretend you're not interested (I'm guilty of having done this in the past too). Confidence is attractive but don't fret if you're not the confident type. I believe there's someone for everyone. It's not a contest to get the prettiest and most popular girl in the school. If you're an awkward nerd, maybe there's a cute shy girl hiding somewhere who will find your vulnerability touching? Of course it requires you to question your own attractions too.
When had this thread become about sentimental advice? xD
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Post by razrblck ☯ on Sept 1, 2016 13:24:32 GMT
Honestly the "nice guy" is a very stupid concept in itself, often used by extremely selfish people to get (or try to) what they want, which is basically just sex. Being respectful, honest and having empathy doesn't mean you have to bend over or annihilate yourself for the good of the other person. It's just basic stuff that should really be there no matter what the situation or whom we have in front of us. Just because I respect people in the street and can feel sad for the ones that recently lost everything during the earthquake in Italy, doesn't mean I want to get with all of them. The world is not black and white, nor are relationships. As Kouz said, there's more to it and there's someone for everyone. Be honest, be respectful, be yourself. When had this thread become about sentimental advice? xD I couldn't resist since there were a few more negative replies, and things escalated quickly!
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Post by leighzard on Sept 1, 2016 18:52:30 GMT
Faint heart never won the prince. That's why I went after mine aggressively. I won. It's just how it is bro. All a woman needs to get male attention is to look good and just not be a bitch (though even good looking bitches can get men without too much effort). A man needs to do a lot more to get female attention because women want more than just a good looking partner. It's just human nature and nothing we can do about. It's just supply and demand. Women are more picky than men. Any slightly above average woman will have a huge supply of men she can choose from, but she only needs 1, so yeah, supply and demand. Only the prettiest and/or richest and/or funniest men among us will have a similar experience to the slightly above average woman. That's just how it is. Personally I have no issue with the dating game. I'm not swimming in pussy but I look good enough and I can be funny enough to find a fair maiden to my liking whenever I put a little effort into it (keyword: "a little", I honestly don't feel like jumping through hoops for a woman nor do I have to, just grooming myself and being funny is often good enough). See, but that's where dudes have an edge. If you're not attractive, you've got other things to fall back on, like money, humor, or intelligence. The worst thing you can say about a chick before a blind date is that "she's really funny." Instant boner-killer. Game over. That relationship was done before it started. So yeah, above average women got game, but I think it's waaaay harder for the below average segment to find a way out. I will say, however, that it's a lot easier to get laid as a girl, because all you have to do is be willing. You'll find totally find someone if you're looking, and can even be fairly picky about it.
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Post by Beerfish on Sept 1, 2016 18:56:15 GMT
if you like to dress up as a mouse and squeak, Wait now, at what point do I divulge this? Is a first date too early? Am I thinking out loud again?
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Post by Beerfish on Sept 1, 2016 19:03:26 GMT
Faint heart never won the prince. That's why I went after mine aggressively. I won. It's just how it is bro. All a woman needs to get male attention is to look good and just not be a bitch (though even good looking bitches can get men without too much effort). A man needs to do a lot more to get female attention because women want more than just a good looking partner. It's just human nature and nothing we can do about. It's just supply and demand. Women are more picky than men. Any slightly above average woman will have a huge supply of men she can choose from, but she only needs 1, so yeah, supply and demand. Only the prettiest and/or richest and/or funniest men among us will have a similar experience to the slightly above average woman. That's just how it is. Personally I have no issue with the dating game. I'm not swimming in pussy but I look good enough and I can be funny enough to find a fair maiden to my liking whenever I put a little effort into it (keyword: "a little", I honestly don't feel like jumping through hoops for a woman nor do I have to, just grooming myself and being funny is often good enough). See, but that's where dudes have an edge. If you're not attractive, you've got other things to fall back on, like money, humor, or intelligence. The worst thing you can say about a chick before a blind date is that "she's really funny." Instant boner-killer. Game over. That relationship was done before it started. So yeah, above average women got game, but I think it's waaaay harder for the below average segment to find a way out. I will say, however, that it's a lot easier to get laid as a girl, because all you have to do is be willing. You'll find totally find someone if you're looking, and can even be fairly picky about it. Humor and intelligence are not often not openly apparent traits unlike looks and in many cases money. Thus mnay cases it is impossible for the guy or girl to even get the chance to engage a person of interest. Also i applaud your respomnse to my post, things are moving in the right direction but you are still a total exception to the rule.
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Post by Arijon van Goyen on Sept 1, 2016 19:06:30 GMT
See, but that's where dudes have an edge. If you're not attractive, you've got other things to fall back on, like money, humor, or intelligence. I'm engulfed with intelligence and humor and I get nuffin. Lower your expectations.... Love is not a Disney movie. This shit is hard. OK. I'll go for 5'1" girls after this...
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Post by leighzard on Sept 1, 2016 19:23:37 GMT
Humor and intelligence are not often not openly apparent traits unlike looks and in many cases money. Thus mnay cases it is impossible for the guy or girl to even get the chance to engage a person of interest. If that's the case, you're looking in the wrong places. The bar scene is like the Pike Place Market in Seattle, and half the girls out there are only fishing for compliments. You can be funny or smart at house parties, at work, in any social/hobby setting, or any setting that fosters actual conversation. Avoid bars and movie dates and you're in business. He never even had a chance. Ha ha, sucker... Ladies, take note, I highly recommend this approach. Worst case scenario, you're no worse off than you were before, but more likely than not, it will impress the shit out of a guy and you'll be proverbially punching above your weight it no time. I'm engulfed with intelligence and humor and I get nuffin I know you're smart AF, but but I don't always get your jokes. Maybe it's the language barrier though. Aah hahaha! Well played, sir.
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Post by Beerfish on Sept 1, 2016 19:32:28 GMT
"If that's the case, you're looking in the wrong places. The bar scene is like the Pike Place Market in Seattle, and half the girls out there are only fishing for compliments. You can be funny or smart at house parties, at work, in any social/hobby setting, or any setting that fosters actual conversation. Avoid bars and movie dates and you're in business."
You may have misinterpreted my comment as a problem with my social life which is not the case at all. And location has zero to do with it.
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Post by leighzard on Sept 1, 2016 20:17:02 GMT
"If that's the case, you're looking in the wrong places. The bar scene is like the Pike Place Market in Seattle, and half the girls out there are only fishing for compliments. You can be funny or smart at house parties, at work, in any social/hobby setting, or any setting that fosters actual conversation. Avoid bars and movie dates and you're in business." You may have misinterpreted my comment as a problem with my social life which is not the case at all. And location has zero to do with it. Huh? No, I was just comparing the bar scene to a meat market, but with the fishing pun I changed it to a fish market, which happens to be in Seattle. Get it? (aside: I have a friend who thinks the best jokes are the ones you have to explain. I've been trying to tell him for years that that's not the case. The shame I feel right now is reel, I mean, real.) You made the point that a man might not have the opportunity to showcase his intelligence or humor, I'm just saying that there are perfectly good settings to make that happen on a first meeting. Dating is what it is. There are fun parts, but a lot of it sucks. I don't think it especially sucks more for men though.
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Post by Gaston on Sept 1, 2016 20:35:12 GMT
Faint heart never won the prince. That's why I went after mine aggressively. I won. It's just how it is bro. All a woman needs to get male attention is to look good and just not be a bitch (though even good looking bitches can get men without too much effort). A man needs to do a lot more to get female attention because women want more than just a good looking partner. It's just human nature and nothing we can do about. It's just supply and demand. Women are more picky than men. Any slightly above average woman will have a huge supply of men she can choose from, but she only needs 1, so yeah, supply and demand. Only the prettiest and/or richest and/or funniest men among us will have a similar experience to the slightly above average woman. That's just how it is. Personally I have no issue with the dating game. I'm not swimming in pussy but I look good enough and I can be funny enough to find a fair maiden to my liking whenever I put a little effort into it (keyword: "a little", I honestly don't feel like jumping through hoops for a woman nor do I have to, just grooming myself and being funny is often good enough). See, but that's where dudes have an edge. If you're not attractive, you've got other things to fall back on, like money, humor, or intelligence. The worst thing you can say about a chick before a blind date is that "she's really funny." Instant boner-killer. Game over. That relationship was done before it started. So yeah, above average women got game, but I think it's waaaay harder for the below average segment to find a way out. I will say, however, that it's a lot easier to get laid as a girl, because all you have to do is be willing. You'll find totally find someone if you're looking, and can even be fairly picky about it. You say that, but it's not that simple. It's not like a male troglodyte can still score fair maidens simply by being funny or having money. In that scenario, he'd need to be both really funny and have a lot of money in order to stand a chance in the dating game. The golden rule of thumb is that there are 3 things women look for in men: looks, humor/personality and money/financial stability. A man has to be well-rounded in all 3 categories to be successful at the dating game. If he lacks in one of these 3 categories, then he needs to really shine in the other 2 remaining categories to still stand a chance. Women do the choosing, the men do the work in the hope to get chosen. That said, pretty women choose first and have the most men available to choose from. A pretty woman can afford to be picky and choose a high-quality man, mediocre women less so, and ugly women usually have to settle for the lower quality men that are left after the other women are done choosing their partner. Obviously mediocre and ugly women can do things to move themselves up a bit on the ladder, such as having a nice personality, being willing and able to take good care of a man or being more proactive in the dating game. The dating market is like any other market, with buyers, sellers and commodities. Women are the buyers, men are the sellers and female beauty is the commodity. If we men want to sell ourselves for a high price (aka to a beautiful lady), us men have to be of high value ourselves, it's that simple. Nobody wants to pay a premium for a piece of junk, not in the car business, and not in the dating business either. That said, I'm not complaining. If anything, I think us men have the upper hand here. It's like you said, there are a lot of things us men can do to improve our value, to increase our chances of landing us a fair maiden. Women, not so much. If you're ugly and you're a woman, you're kinda screwed. There's only so much that make-up and proper grooming can do.
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Post by leighzard on Sept 1, 2016 20:48:56 GMT
This thread makes me glad I'm hitched.
And as far as online dating, I don't believe in long distance relationships in general, but I know it works out just fine for some people. And more power to them. I know that I started to tap out about halfway through the 3 month summer break in college though, so I don't think I'd last longer than 6 weeks.
Don't worry @turingcomplete, you still have my online heart.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 20:52:40 GMT
This thread makes me glad I'm hitched. And as far as online dating, I don't believe in long distance relationships in general, but I know it works out just fine for some people. And more power to them. I know that I started to tap out about halfway through the 3 month summer break in college though, so I don't think I'd last longer than 6 weeks. Don't worry @turingcomplete , you still have my online heart. Good I am the best internet husbando
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Post by Ravenous Bear on Sept 1, 2016 23:07:15 GMT
That's why I went after mine aggressively. I won. See, but that's where dudes have an edge. If you're not attractive, you've got other things to fall back on, like money, humor, or intelligence. The worst thing you can say about a chick before a blind date is that "she's really funny." Instant boner-killer. Game over. That relationship was done before it started. So yeah, above average women got game, but I think it's waaaay harder for the below average segment to find a way out. I will say, however, that it's a lot easier to get laid as a girl, because all you have to do is be willing. You'll find totally find someone if you're looking, and can even be fairly picky about it. You say that, but it's not that simple. It's not like a male troglodyte can still score fair maidens simply by being funny or having money. In that scenario, he'd need to be both really funny and have a lot of money in order to stand a chance in the dating game. The golden rule of thumb is that there are 3 things women look for in men: looks, humor/personality and money/financial stability. A man has to be well-rounded in all 3 categories to be successful at the dating game. If he lacks in one of these 3 categories, then he needs to really shine in the other 2 remaining categories to still stand a chance. Women do the choosing, the men do the work in the hope to get chosen. That said, pretty women choose first and have the most men available to choose from. A pretty woman can afford to be picky and choose a high-quality man, mediocre women less so, and ugly women usually have to settle for the lower quality men that are left after the other women are done choosing their partner. Obviously mediocre and ugly women can do things to move themselves up a bit on the ladder, such as having a nice personality, being willing and able to take good care of a man or being more proactive in the dating game. The dating market is like any other market, with buyers, sellers and commodities. Women are the buyers, men are the sellers and female beauty is the commodity. If we men want to sell ourselves for a high price (aka to a beautiful lady), us men have to be of high value ourselves, it's that simple. Nobody wants to pay a premium for a piece of junk, not in the car business, and not in the dating business either. That said, I'm not complaining. If anything, I think us men have the upper hand here. It's like you said, there are a lot of things us men can do to improve our value, to increase our chances of landing us a fair maiden. Women, not so much. If you're ugly and you're a woman, you're kinda screwed. There's only so much that make-up and proper grooming can do. And this is why I am not interested in dating. It dehumanizes people into "commodities" based on their attributes, status, and their acquired wealth. For myself I care a lot more about personality. A hot woman with a bad personality would turn me off instantly.
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Post by Gaston on Sept 2, 2016 0:30:49 GMT
You say that, but it's not that simple. It's not like a male troglodyte can still score fair maidens simply by being funny or having money. In that scenario, he'd need to be both really funny and have a lot of money in order to stand a chance in the dating game. The golden rule of thumb is that there are 3 things women look for in men: looks, humor/personality and money/financial stability. A man has to be well-rounded in all 3 categories to be successful at the dating game. If he lacks in one of these 3 categories, then he needs to really shine in the other 2 remaining categories to still stand a chance. Women do the choosing, the men do the work in the hope to get chosen. That said, pretty women choose first and have the most men available to choose from. A pretty woman can afford to be picky and choose a high-quality man, mediocre women less so, and ugly women usually have to settle for the lower quality men that are left after the other women are done choosing their partner. Obviously mediocre and ugly women can do things to move themselves up a bit on the ladder, such as having a nice personality, being willing and able to take good care of a man or being more proactive in the dating game. The dating market is like any other market, with buyers, sellers and commodities. Women are the buyers, men are the sellers and female beauty is the commodity. If we men want to sell ourselves for a high price (aka to a beautiful lady), us men have to be of high value ourselves, it's that simple. Nobody wants to pay a premium for a piece of junk, not in the car business, and not in the dating business either. That said, I'm not complaining. If anything, I think us men have the upper hand here. It's like you said, there are a lot of things us men can do to improve our value, to increase our chances of landing us a fair maiden. Women, not so much. If you're ugly and you're a woman, you're kinda screwed. There's only so much that make-up and proper grooming can do. And this is why I am not interested in dating. It dehumanizes people into "commodities" based on their attributes, status, and their acquired wealth. For myself I care a lot more about personality. A hot woman with a bad personality would turn me off instantly. I was obviously generalizing and talking about generalities and humanity as a whole. I'm not saying you should dehumanize men or treat women like commodities, for fucks sake. ;
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Post by Ravenous Bear on Sept 2, 2016 1:02:03 GMT
And this is why I am not interested in dating. It dehumanizes people into "commodities" based on their attributes, status, and their acquired wealth. For myself I care a lot more about personality. A hot woman with a bad personality would turn me off instantly. I was obviously generalizing and talking about generalities and humanity as a whole. I'm not saying you should dehumanize men or treat women like commodities, for fucks sake. ; I am not saying you were; sorry about that It is that a lot of people do treat others like that. And I think it is petty but that is just my 2 cents.
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Post by razrblck ☯ on Sept 2, 2016 6:24:09 GMT
I think you guys are going after the wrong people if all you can think of as basic human qualities are money, appearance and humor.
People are a lot more complicated than that, even when they tell you otherwise. If a woman or man is looking only for money and looks, then turn around and run away because they are just a narcissist, selfish assholes that will take everything they can from you and leave you empty inside (and in the bank).
As I said before, having interests and hobbies is great when you want to meet and get to know easily new people. The common interests shared in groups dedicated to one activity are great conversation starters, and just doing stuff together can be enough to show parts of yourself you are probably too shy to talk about.
You are out adventuring in the wild, someone in the group hurts themselves and you rush to help them and do all you can. People will notice this, they will remember what you did and it will bring some of them closer to you even if your social anxiety makes it so hard.
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