Contains Spoilers- Need emotional support from like minded individuals

This.

Well said, sir.

I never knew Garrus wanted a happy ending. All these years I thought he simply wanted to play Batman in Space.

Actually EDI is shown in Shepard's thoughts as a remembrance of the Dead.

I admit that I have NEVER romanced Garrus, so clearly my view is going to be one sided here. Also though, I've never romanced any Alien. Not even Liara. My Shepard just doesn't feel like he swings that way to me.

It is now in your power to destroy us. But be warned, others will be destroyed as well. The crucible will not discriminate. All synthetics will be targeted. Even you are partly synthetic.


From the codex:


Biotics manipulate mass effect fields using dozens of element zero nodules within their nervous system that react to electric stimuli from the brain. Amplifiers allow biotics to synchronize the nodules so they can form fields large and strong enough for practical use. Amplifiers can improve a specific discipline or talent.
An implant is surgically-embedded interface port into which amps are "plugged in". On humans, the implant is usually placed at the base of the skull for convenient access, though the user must be careful to keep it free of contaminants.

In ME1 Kaidan mentioned that he would need risky brain surgery to upgrade his L2 implants.

And that is enough?

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I'm definitely with you on the Garrus romance, but I wouldn't worry. If you got the breath scene you can headcanon whatever you like. There are still people on Earth who can find Shepard, and the Normandy is shown leaving the planet, so Garrus and Shepard will be reunited eventually. After ME2, I'm pretty sure Garrus isn't going to give up on Shepard until he sees a dead body, and possibly not even then. In the memorial scene it looks as though he doesn't put her name up because he "knows" she's alive.

As for the endings, most people around here are with you on Destroy and your husband would probably get a lot of grief for liking Synthesis. Personally, I find all of the endings distasteful. I think if the devs really wanted to gimp Destroy they should have had it permanently disable the relay system (and possibly destroy all systems with relays in them ala Arrival), but that would not have gone over well. (Understatement).

I took it from where he tells Shepard that he just needed something to go right in his life and the fact he truly loves Shepard. It is why my husband says I’m a hopeless romantic, meanwhile he always picks Tali hehe, any normal non gamers would probably think we were all nuts but that’s ok by me!

Ah, but you see by choosing Destroy you are against diversity and are forcing change in others. You are against diversity because you deem only organic life as worthy of living, and you are forcing change on all synthetics by having them cease to exist. To use your left handed example, sure you didn’t force the left handed kids to become right handed, instead you just killed all the left handed kids.

I so want to reply truthfully and fully to your post, but the OP wants positivity so will have to refrain. Simply put:
War is no excuse for those kinds of casualties, and people who think otherwise tend to be viewed unkindly by history. Your avatar certainly agrees with me.
You prevented nothing since the Reapers in some new form could come back especially since you proved the Reapers right and some future synthetic race will reach that conclusion if not a worse one.
The Synthesis ending still shows people having kids (like the krogan slides for example) so no idea where you got that idea or some of these others from. Also in Destroy you are still forcing your will in people who have no say.
I’d say all the endings have hope in them. Almost too much so according to some.

Personally, I think the best ending is Synthesis.
1. It has the least deaths. Refuse kills everyone so it is a nonstarter, Destroys commits genocide on all synthetics (and my personal favorite race), and even Control technically kills two beings since both Shepard and Catalyst die to be replaced with Shepalyst. Meanwhile Synthesis just has one death: Shepard. And yea it sucks that they can’t live happily ever after with their LI (Kelly in my case), but considering how my Shepard was all about bringing everyone together and how Kelly hoped that everyone could understand each other, my Shepard would die doing what they dreamed and Kelly I feel would mourn but also love Shepard for their sacrifice. I’m sure many others like Garrus would feel the same.
2. It is the ending the stops the Reaper threat the most. While Destroy ends them now, as I said it proved their point and at some time in the future a similar situation will rise again and reach the same if not worse solution. And Control leaves the possibility of them going back to their old ways. Meanwhile Synthesis defeats them by removing the reason for what they were created to do, so they will never go back to harvesting.
3. The galaxy is at its best point. I know all the negatives people try to bring up, but the game explicitly shows those arguments are invalid. People still have the soul of who they are. And as we see in the slideshow the galactic races reach a new level of peace and prosperity. Things like the Morgan rebuilding, the Geth and Quarians (who are unmasked in this ending) living together in peace, etc. Even some small things are good, like Kasumi being reunited with Keiji thanks to the change. Even all the past cycles are now alive in the sense the Reapers allow access to their culture, history, etc. It was such a good ending for everyone that people used that as an argument for why it shouldn’t be canon, since “future games would have no conflict”. Speaking of future games, Andromeda also shows it is not the horror show some people try to say it is as we see with Ryder and SAM.

There are more and I could go into far more detail, but I think that’s good to start with.

My Shepard isn't against diversity. He simply accepts the Geth and Edi as collateral damage in order to destroy the Reapers.  Besides Synthetics will exist again in a post destroy ending so diversity will be intact. AIs will be built again, even the Catalyst says it so. 

And by this logic, Synthesis is also against diversity. It removes both pure Synthetics and Organics from the galaxy by creating a new type of life. Only cyborgs exist. It's far more against diversity than Destroy.