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Post by Ianamus on Dec 20, 2016 1:38:49 GMT
I have fairly mixed opinions about having transgender characters in Mass Effect.
For starters, given advances in technology I'd imagine that transitioning would be much easier and more convincing than in real life. And if so... why would the character bring it up? In my experience people who are transgender don't really identity as transgender or want to talk about it, they only want to be acknowledged as the gender they present as.
For me it raises the question of how you would bring it up naturally? Particularly in a setting with such advanced technology. Even in other games like Inquisition where it comes up it feels a bit 'here's this thing I want to tell the player, even if it doesn't really make sense to bring it up now'.
I'd actually rather see it in one of the alien characters. Different cultures and physiological differences could make it a bit more interesting and unique than the way such characters are usually presented.
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Post by luzarius on Dec 20, 2016 4:02:01 GMT
For starters, given advances in technology I'd imagine that transitioning would be much easier and more convincing than in real life. And if so... why would the character bring it up? In my experience people who are transgender don't really identity as transgender or want to talk about it, they only want to be acknowledged as the gender they present as. You nailed it. Exactly! How can you bring it up in a natural way that would preserve immersion and not come off as some artificial thing forced into the game to pander to a niche crowd right? I would think a transgender could make the full transition and literally just be an incredibly beautiful, buxom babe who just happens to have a dick. Agreed 100%. This is a true Mass Effect fan. You care more about preserving immersion than shoe-horning something in that could feel out of place or politically motivated. That's how I interpret your thoughts.
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Post by Hanako Ikezawa on Dec 20, 2016 4:15:44 GMT
I would think a transgender could make the full transition and literally just be an incredibly beautiful, buxom babe who just happens to have a dick. If they were going to have a full transition from male to female, why would they keep the penis and not have it changed to a vagina?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2016 7:53:15 GMT
Genuine question... Why not be considerate to other people? Whats up with that???
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Post by cloud9 on Dec 20, 2016 9:58:28 GMT
I decided to get an outside opinion and asked my husband about this. He fits a lot of the Denis Leary song "Asshole." He likes football, porno, books about war. He's completely hetero as well. He owns a gun, ect. He drives a pickup, listens to heavy metal and has long hair. He's a gamer although he usually doesn't play many video game RPGs. We're D&D nerds. I have been trying to get him into ME though. When I asked over IM how he felt about more transgendered characters in video games, he simply sent me this gif in response: He's not opposed to it, he just doesn't care one way or the other. I'm wondering how many other posters feel like that. Goddamn.
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Post by mrjack on Dec 20, 2016 10:48:09 GMT
Why care about them, nobody will change their mind anyway. SO HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Thank you! I'm a little hungover but the I think the kebab I scoffed before bed saved me from a morning with my head down the loo. Happy birthday, mrjack! You've never looked so young and handsome! Oh you I would think a transgender could make the full transition and literally just be an incredibly beautiful, buxom babe who just happens to have a dick. You obviously don't know what "FULL transition" means. Here's some light reading.
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Post by Syv on Dec 20, 2016 14:03:43 GMT
Genuine question... Why not be considerate to other people? Whats up with that??? Believe it or not, but there are many folks who do not consider that staying true to their vision is not being considerate or mean. i've asked my friends, women and men yesterday, all different in their origins, social situations and beliefs, because I was curious. I asked them first if they would be willing to consider as a woman a guy who wants to be a gal, or the opposite, and their answers were clearly all negative. I after asked if they would consider saying " he " about a transman, to be courteous, a few said why not, but most, no. I finally asked if they would consider impolite saying "she " about a woman that wants to be a man. They all said no. Not a single one considered that you were being impolite. It was up to each to decide. So, that makes me laugh when some talk about alt-right. You should go out a bit more and spend less time on internet at home. You would understand that the society in its big majority is not what you think it is in your little bubble. All the folks I questioned were normal folks. Not the baaaaaad guys some would so love thinking in their stupid way of seeing things in black and white. You gotta wake up. The question is rather why don't you ignore them ? People look like fools to me when they spend several pages trying to force someone to say " he " about Krem and go in circle with the futile arguments for example. Why is it so difficult to let it go ? Why is it so difficult to move on ? The more you push, the more it sounds like a dogma to me.
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Post by Sifr on Dec 20, 2016 14:31:50 GMT
For starters, given advances in technology I'd imagine that transitioning would be much easier and more convincing than in real life. And if so... why would the character bring it up? In my experience people who are transgender don't really identity as transgender or want to talk about it, they only want to be acknowledged as the gender they present as. For me it raises the question of how you would bring it up naturally? Particularly in a setting with such advanced technology. Even in other games like Inquisition where it comes up it feels a bit 'here's this thing I want to tell the player, even if it doesn't really make sense to bring it up now'. Personally, I think that having a trans character as a romance option would satisfy those requirements, because it would provide the most naturalistic means for someone to want to disclose their trans status to our protagonist, prior to starting a possible relationship with them? Otherwise, would it even need to be discussed given that it's not pertinent information? While I can understand the argument to be made about possible implications about keeping a character's trans status hidden outside of a romance, on the other hand, wouldn't it give first-time players or those who didn't romance them, the chance to befriend and enjoy their character without letting any prejudices get in the way? When certain people have to say "Ignore the glowing praise I gave them yesterday!" about someone, doesn't that perfectly highlight the absurdity of transphobia in the first place? How would it make the character any different from the same one they might have enjoyed before, except now they happen to know was formally X gender? Another possible naturalistic way to go about it would be to have the trans character be a friend of the protagonists, so it's something that they already knew about, but we as the audience can only learn about later in the game? Maybe have it casually dropped in a similar scene to one in Trespasser, where Bull acted like an over-protective parent if Krem potentially started a relationship with Maryden... so our protagonist likewise can show concern towards our friends relationship, whether things are going okay and they need to step in and talk with anyone?
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Post by javeart on Dec 20, 2016 15:13:50 GMT
(...) You should go out a bit more and spend less time on internet at home. You would understand that the society in its big majority is not what you think it is in your little bubble. All the folks I questioned were normal folks. Not the baaaaaad guys some would so love thinking in their stupid way of seeing things in black and white. You gotta wake up. (...) oh please Over time I have become a big fan of ignoring some posts or even threads entirely and I'd normally would have done just that, but I felt a really big urge of simply rolling my eyes at this paragraph. It's kind of rude doing so, IMO, but the paragraph it's kind of rude too, so I doesn't really feel wrong. I have absoutely zero interest in arguing with you about any of this though, so I'll go on with my ignoring technique. Just going to say, more in general, that I'm so happy with my real world "little bubble" where not one of my ("normal" folks too) friends would even consider of denying a transgender person the treament according to their real gender (the one they say they are) and would make absolutely zero fuss about it... Just that reading some things reminds me how lucky I am
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Post by Syv on Dec 20, 2016 15:32:16 GMT
" Normal folks " = aka people who are not people who are necessarily extremists, who are not racists, or part of the " alt right " normal people aka people who are moderate. your little bubble = aka some pretending that people who want to stay true to their vision are baaaad and marginalized. Which is far away from the reality, with the society in its big majority. Also good to know that you are ignoring me, I was already ignoring you when i read one of your posts that implied that people who critized the writting about Krem and Dorian were apparently just having issues with lgbt characters. If there is something that I despise, it's that kind of easy judgments, an easy way to dismiss the argument of the opposite side. It can only have been well written or you are anti-lgbt characters as well. Meh, next. That's typically what I find dumb. Zero arguments. As for your last judgment, here a thing, I don't give a shit about you, I don't give a shit about an opinion like yours, from someone with such easy judgments, that doesn't interest me. it doesn't affect me in any way. The thing is I feel pretty lucky to have the friends I have too. And I don't really care about yours, and I certainly don't think they are better than mine ? Good for you, good for me in the end.
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Post by fialka on Dec 20, 2016 15:54:14 GMT
I critiqued Dorian's quest and Krem's Q&A session, and no one accused me of having issues with LGBT characters. That's not what this is about. Most people in this thread can see the distinction, and most of the debate has been the question of whether these presentations are too heavy-handed. Do they make sense? Do they feel contrived? If so, what would we like to see instead? If not, why do we feel it was an improvement? I don't see people being accused of being homo- or transphobia when that's the discussion. And obviously both sides agree it's one worth having, or this thread wouldn't be at 13 pages.
It's when real-life opinion gets thrown in the mix. When you (and note, I'm not quoting anyone in particular because this is a general 'you' and no one specific) critique the presentation of a trans character and then go on, in the same post, to explain why you think trans people are pretending, or don't deserve respect, that your critique rings hollow. It reminds me of people in real life, going 'I'm not homophobic but...' something about how they're just everywhere and can't they just shut up about it? Also, Gay Agenda (TM). Or, even, better, 'who cares?' - when it's clear from their ranting that they care a whole lot.
Also, to the person who said gay people being in ME3 broke their immersion because there weren't any in ME1: Dude, seriously?
You know what, the last place I worked, there were no openly LGBT people - which means they definitely didn't exist because, as we all know, being gay is all gay people talk about. But now, I work, with like, three gay people. They talk about it and everything. My human immersion has been destroyed OH GOD. /sarcasm
Of all the arguments I've heard against inclusion, that one just takes the cake.
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Post by Ianamus on Dec 20, 2016 16:23:20 GMT
For starters, given advances in technology I'd imagine that transitioning would be much easier and more convincing than in real life. And if so... why would the character bring it up? In my experience people who are transgender don't really identity as transgender or want to talk about it, they only want to be acknowledged as the gender they present as. For me it raises the question of how you would bring it up naturally? Particularly in a setting with such advanced technology. Even in other games like Inquisition where it comes up it feels a bit 'here's this thing I want to tell the player, even if it doesn't really make sense to bring it up now'. Personally, I think that having a trans character as a romance option would satisfy those requirements, because it would provide the most naturalistic means for someone to want to disclose their trans status to our protagonist, prior to starting a possible relationship with them? Otherwise, would it even need to be discussed given that it's not pertinent information? While I can understand the argument to be made about possible implications about keeping a character's trans status hidden outside of a romance, on the other hand, wouldn't it give first-time players or those who didn't romance them, the chance to befriend and enjoy their character without letting any prejudices get in the way? When certain people have to say "Ignore the glowing praise I gave them yesterday!" about someone, doesn't that perfectly highlight the absurdity of transphobia in the first place? How would it make the character any different from the same one they might have enjoyed before, except now they happen to know was formally X gender? Another possible naturalistic way to go about it would be to have the trans character be a friend of the protagonists, so it's something that they already knew about, but we as the audience can only learn about later in the game? Maybe have it casually dropped in a similar scene to one in Trespasser, where Bull acted like an over-protective parent if Krem potentially started a relationship with Maryden... so our protagonist likewise can show concern towards our friends relationship, whether things are going okay and they need to step in and talk with anyone? I agree that a romance option or close friend are the two instances where a conversation on the matter would make perfect sense and would feel natural. Though I'm not sure a trans LI is a good idea. I'm not necessarily opposed to it myself, although I have to admit that I'd much prefer an LI who wasn't trans for my own Ryder, but I do think it would invite a lot of transphobia into the conversation surrounding the game. I'm not sure I'd want to see the arguments that would arise as a result. It would also be a bit of a niche option in terms of overall appeal. I don't think Krem was handled particularly well, it still felt like it came sort of out of nowhere, like it was the writers who wanted to tell me rather than the characters. Having a squadmate or crew member who only tells you if you pursue their friendship arc and it naturally arises would work, and is probably the best way of including such a character if they choose to.
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Post by javeart on Dec 20, 2016 16:40:17 GMT
The thing is I feel pretty lucky to have the friends I have too. And I don't really care about yours, and I certainly don't think they are better than mine ? Good for you, good for me in the end. I'm going to answer this, and only this, because I'm aware that my english is awful, and sometimes I'm afraid I might not be explaining myself well and because I get you could be offended if you think I'm insulting in any way your friends, which is something I'd never do considering I know nothing about them. My reference to my real life friends was not to say they're better than yours, that would be terribly childish of me IMO and definitely not my intention. I brought them up only because of your reference to some internet little bubble and how apparently the majority of the society thinks what you think because that's what you're friends think. I was trying to say that my opinion of what the majority of society thinks based on what my friend think would be very different, and not because they're not normal in any way. Except I wouldn't pretend that what my friends think represent what the majority of any society thinks, so I admitted that it was my little bubble, where yes, I'm very happy, I wanted to say that, because yes, I feel lucky, and that has nothind to do with your friends, but wit what some of the people who is actually posting here (you among them, you, not your friends) says. Personally I think I could go much worse places than just saying that I'm happy that I don't have to deal with this kind of opinions and attitudes in my real life, I didn't think that part was particularly offensive. But in any case, I didn't mean to talk about your friends at all. I hope this is clear and we can go back to ignore each other
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Post by Syv on Dec 20, 2016 16:42:53 GMT
I critiqued Dorian's quest and Krem's Q&A session, and no one accused me of having issues with LGBT characters. That's not what this is about. Most people in this thread can see the distinction, and most of the debate has been the question of whether these presentations are too heavy-handed. Do they make sense? Do they feel contrived? If so, what would we like to see instead? If not, why do we feel it was an improvement? I don't see people being accused of being homo- or transphobia when that's the discussion. And obviously both sides agree it's one worth having, or this thread wouldn't be at 13 pages. It's when real-life opinion gets thrown in the mix. When you (and note, I'm not quoting anyone in particular because this is a general 'you' and no one specific) critique the presentation of a trans character and then go on, in the same post, to explain why you think trans people are pretending, or don't deserve respect, that your critique rings hollow. It reminds me of people in real life, going 'I'm not homophobic but...' something about how they're just everywhere and can't they just shut up about it? Also, Gay Agenda (TM). Or, even, better, 'who cares?' - when it's clear from their ranting that they care a whole lot. Also, to the person who said gay people being in ME3 broke their immersion because there weren't any in ME1: Dude, seriously? You know what, the last place I worked, there were no openly LGBT people - which means they definitely didn't exist because, as we all know, being gay is all gay people talk about. But now, I work, with like, three gay people. They talk about it and everything. My human immersion has been destroyed OH GOD. /sarcasm Of all the arguments I've heard against inclusion, that one just takes the cake. I understand what you are saying and I agree in part with what you are saying. I don't know if you were responding to me, but let me tell you where come from my angryness. At the beginning, i was agreeing with this thread which was mocking those who were against the presence of transgender characters. I didn't feel concerned. I was even relatively happy that Jen Garson could be a transgender. Because more diversity is always welcome. But after it went to those who didn't think that Krem was that well handled. There were definitely a few posts that annoyed me, pretending that if you complain about what was done with Krem and Dorian, you have issues with lgbt characters. Which is stupid and including all those who had nothing against lgbt characters, just an issue with the way Bioware handled a few things. Most of these people just want improvements next time. This is a dishonest and an easy process, done purposely to dismiss any legetimate argument, whether we agree or not. Could we able to discuss about this without being labelled and judged with nonsense ? Despite thousands of debates and many folks, different, involved, with very long posts explaining why some people felt disappointed with the personal quest of Dorian, or a bit confused with Krem / Iron Bull, the qunari and the lore in the past, you would think that people would not jump that quickly to that ridiculous argument today. You can disagree with the opinions as well, and it's okay, it's fine, but as long as you respect the opinion. I'm myself pro-lgbt characters, but I really find this impossibility to critize a lgbt character without being labelled annoying. I'm a free mind ! Try to label me for not agreeing about something and you will see me very hostile. It's okay to me to critizes the homophobes, as long as you target the folks that are concerned. Sometimes, when I read this thread, I feel like we can all only shut our mouth or say wow, it was well done. I'm not okay with that.
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Post by Treacherous J Slither on Dec 20, 2016 17:48:20 GMT
GeneralXIV: Finally i respond to your post Joker and Harley are psychotic killers that should be removed from society. Permanently. They are a poor analogy to people who suffer from gender identity disorder. A better analogy imo would be if Batman was of the belief that he was some kind of hybrid man-bat creature and he wanted to severely mutilate himself in order to better immerse himself in this monstrous identity. Would i support his decision or would i try to get him some psychological help? I would get him help. I would try to get him to see things as they truly are and not what his disorder tells him is true. I would try to stop him from hurting himself in a way that he can never come back from. But i wouldn't do it against his will. If he's dead set on it and everything I've said and done wasn't enough then so be it. Unfortunately his transformation will change our relationship. He won't be the same to me. I would only be able to look upon him with sadness, pity, and revulsion. I would have to remove him from my life. People can call themselves whatever they want. I just find it severely irritating for someone to insist incessantly that something that obviously isn't true is actually true and that i should go along with it. I refuse to participate in such things. Like religion. Ohhh! #shotsfired >
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Believe it or not, but there are many folks who do not consider that staying true to their vision is not being considerate or mean. i've asked my friends, women and men yesterday, all different in their origins, social situations and beliefs, because I was curious. I asked them first if they would be willing to consider as a woman a guy who wants to be a gal, or the opposite, and their answers were clearly all negative. I after asked if they would consider saying " he " about a transman, to be courteous, a few said why not, but most, no. I finally asked if they would consider impolite saying "she " about a woman that wants to be a man. They all said no. Not a single one considered that you were being impolite. It was up to each to decide. So, that makes me laugh when some talk about alt-right. You should go out a bit more and spend less time on internet at home. You would understand that the society in its big majority is not what you think it is in your little bubble. All the folks I questioned were normal folks. Not the baaaaaad guys some would so love thinking in their stupid way of seeing things in black and white. You gotta wake up. The question is rather why don't you ignore them ? People look like fools to me when they spend several pages trying to force someone to say " he " about Krem and go in circle with the futile arguments for example. Why is it so difficult to let it go ? Why is it so difficult to move on ? The more you push, the more it sounds like a dogma to me. I just have two thoughts on this: 1.) It is unsurprising that your friends have views that support your viewpoint. That's why they are your friends. I could do the exact same exercise with my friends and their responses would support my viewpoint. Basically, this is anecdotal evidence that simply demonstrates that there are people who support your viewpoint. But we already knew that, so what was the point? 2.) There was a time when the majority of people thought that women were inferior to men in all ways. It was widely accepted and people used "science" to support their argument. There was also a time, even more recent, when the majority of "society" thought that black people were inferior to white people, even going so far as to consider them not fully human. It was widely accepted and people used "science" to support their argument. From my perspective, this is another civil rights issue. And 100 years in the future, people will look back on those who think that transgender people were mentally ill and/or LGBT people didn't deserve full legal rights and wonder how it could possibly have been this way. I suspect that there will be a "wrong side" on this when history has it's way with it. But, again, that's my perspective.
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Post by Vall on Dec 20, 2016 18:50:43 GMT
... People can call themselves whatever they want. I just find it severely irritating for someone to insist incessantly that something that obviously isn't true is actually true and that i should go along with it. I refuse to participate in such things. Like religion. Ohhh! #shotsfired > But trans people who went through with operation and everything, aren't obviously different from other members of their declared gender. And this could go deeper, questions like "Are we just bags of flesh or is there something more" or "Do we have a soul" spring to mind, you know, philosophical questions like that. In the end, it's all about whether you decide to accept the person or not. If you really like who they are before they decide to change their physical appearance but who they are mentally doesn't change, does it really matter what they look like? Or, let's do purely hypothetical scenario. You get to know person who already changed and you don't recognize they were born as different gender. You become friends and the topic of transgender never comes up so they don't know your views on this. And let's say they one day they decide they trust you and they tell you they were born as different gender. What would you do? I'm asking purely out of curiosity.
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Post by Sifr on Dec 20, 2016 19:15:44 GMT
Or, let's do purely hypothetical scenario. You get to know person who already changed and you don't recognize they were born as different gender. You become friends and the topic of transgender never comes up so they don't know your views on this. And let's say they one day they decide they trust you and they tell you they were born as different gender. What would you do? I'm asking purely out of curiosity. If that question is open to everyone, my response would probably be; "And? I was born with an extra finger on each hand, which were later removed... would that bother you?"
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Post by hammerstorm on Dec 20, 2016 19:21:21 GMT
Or, let's do purely hypothetical scenario. You get to know person who already changed and you don't recognize they were born as different gender. You become friends and the topic of transgender never comes up so they don't know your views on this. And let's say they one day they decide they trust you and they tell you they were born as different gender. What would you do? I'm asking purely out of curiosity. If that question is open to everyone, my response would probably be; "And? I was born with an extra finger on each hand, which were later removed... would that bother you?" But why did you remove it? That sounds awesome. (Or I might just think it sounds awesome..)
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Post by Syv on Dec 20, 2016 19:34:17 GMT
Believe it or not, but there are many folks who do not consider that staying true to their vision is not being considerate or mean. i've asked my friends, women and men yesterday, all different in their origins, social situations and beliefs, because I was curious. I asked them first if they would be willing to consider as a woman a guy who wants to be a gal, or the opposite, and their answers were clearly all negative. I after asked if they would consider saying " he " about a transman, to be courteous, a few said why not, but most, no. I finally asked if they would consider impolite saying "she " about a woman that wants to be a man. They all said no. Not a single one considered that you were being impolite. It was up to each to decide. So, that makes me laugh when some talk about alt-right. You should go out a bit more and spend less time on internet at home. You would understand that the society in its big majority is not what you think it is in your little bubble. All the folks I questioned were normal folks. Not the baaaaaad guys some would so love thinking in their stupid way of seeing things in black and white. You gotta wake up. The question is rather why don't you ignore them ? People look like fools to me when they spend several pages trying to force someone to say " he " about Krem and go in circle with the futile arguments for example. Why is it so difficult to let it go ? Why is it so difficult to move on ? The more you push, the more it sounds like a dogma to me. I just have two thoughts on this: 1.) It is unsurprising that your friends have views that support your viewpoint. That's why they are your friends. I could do the exact same exercise with my friends and their responses would support my viewpoint. Basically, this is anecdotal evidence that simply demonstrates that there are people who support your viewpoint. But we already knew that, so what was the point? 2.) There was a time when the majority of people thought that women were inferior to men in all ways. It was widely accepted and people used "science" to support their argument. There was also a time, even more recent, when the majority of "society" thought that black people were inferior to white people, even going so far as to consider them not fully human. It was widely accepted and people used "science" to support their argument. From my perspective, this is another civil rights issue. And 100 years in the future, people will look back on those who think that transgender people were mentally ill and/or LGBT people didn't deserve full legal rights and wonder how it could possibly have been this way. I suspect that there will be a "wrong side" on this when history has it's way with it. But, again, that's my perspective. Why unsurprising ? They do not necessarily always share my point of view. You have no idea how many have different points of view over different matters between friends apparently. Especially when it's about politics. My girlfriend is ecologist and close to the socialists in my country for example, I'm not. We do not share exactly the same thoughts on everything. Though she suceeded to convince me about the need to be more ecologist. The point was talking about alt-right when it comes to the matter of transgender is dumb. It's not the alt right that is concerned, that is the whole society, most of the moderate folks concerned. There is simply a long road to improve things and it will require time in this matter in the whole society in every country. Believing the opposite is naive at best.
And your second point is the whole problem. Your analogies are bad. Not being willing to follow the ideas of a guy IS NOT being intolerant. Since when a fact is a negative biais ? People are seeing a guy, they are NOT forced to believe that it is a woman because he says so and they are NOT forced to treat him differently because he wants to. I don't have to submit myself to every single guy thinking he is this or that. It's up to people to decide, and you cannot do anything against that. Your moralistic iesson is bad because not founded on anything legetimate.
Not only i don't see the relationship with racism in this case, but I also reject this idea that because you stay true to the nature of the person, you are wrong. No, what is wrong is forcing people to believe something that is only based on an opinion and a few modifications by science. You are basically saying that people are intolerant because they are not willing to play a role. Call me when you will figure out how this is ridiculous.
I fail to understand your logic to be honest. There is a difference between saying those people don't deserve rights, and someone who is just politely just not being willing to play a role. I'm okay with transgenders, and yet I'm not sure i'm able to play a role just to please them. I'm not myself if I do that, i'm not at all authentic, because this isn't at all what I think. A guy who wants to be a woman is not a woman in my mind. That's it. Doesn't mean I have anything against him.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2016 19:52:03 GMT
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And your second point is the whole problem. Your analogies are bad. Not being willing to follow the ideas of a guy IS NOT being intolerant. Since when a fact is a negative biais ? People are seeing a guy, they are NOT forced to believe that it is a woman because he says so and they are NOT forced to treat him differently because he wants to. I don't have to submit myself to every single guy thinking he is this or that. It's up to people to decide, and you cannot do anything against that. Your moralistic iesson is bad because not founded on anything legetimate.
Not only i don't see the relationship with racism in this case, but I also reject this idea that because you stay true to the nature of the person, you are wrong. No, what is wrong is forcing people to believe something that is only based on an opinion and a few modifications by science. You are basically saying that people are intolerant because they are not willing to play a role. Call me when you will figure out how this is ridiculous.
I fail to understand your logic to be honest. There is a difference between saying those people don't deserve rights, and someone who is just politely just not being willing to play a role. I'm okay with transgenders, and yet I'm not sure i'm able to play a role just to please them. I'm not myself if I do that, i'm not at all authentic, because this isn't at all what I think. A guy who wants to be a woman is not a woman in my mind. That's it. Doesn't mean I have anything against him.
You claim that you are "staying true to the nature" of a person, yet there is hard scientific proof that there is a biological basis to transgenderism. It is their nature. You are cherry picking what science you want to use, yet then pretending that your decision is based solely on science. That's the issue with your stance. It's either misinformed (in which case you should probably recognize that and then become more informed before speaking as if you are an authority) or it's disingenuous (pretending to be based 'in science', yet knowing full well that there is scientific evidence that refutes your stance and ignoring it). It's why my analogy is absolutely spot on. Just like old-school racists used incomplete science to support their arguments back in the day, people today use incomplete science to support their arguments as to why transgender people don't need to be recognized by their gender. You frame it as being grounded in "fact", yet you choose to ignore the fact that supports their side of the story. Look, I'm not saying that you are transphobic and I'm not saying that you should have to use someone's preferred pronouns. I have no idea if you would support laws in favor of transgender rights. But there is a layer of disrespect underneath your stance. I know that you don't see it and I (and everyone else responding to you) am not going to change your mind on this. But know that your stance doesn't hold water. Too many holes.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2016 19:55:03 GMT
Genuine question... Why not be considerate to other people? Whats up with that??? Believe it or not, but there are many folks who do not consider that staying true to their vision is not being considerate or mean. i've asked my friends, women and men yesterday, all different in their origins, social situations and beliefs, because I was curious. I asked them first if they would be willing to consider as a woman a guy who wants to be a gal, or the opposite, and their answers were clearly all negative. I after asked if they would consider saying " he " about a transman, to be courteous, a few said why not, but most, no. I finally asked if they would consider impolite saying "she " about a woman that wants to be a man. They all said no. Not a single one considered that you were being impolite. It was up to each to decide. So, that makes me laugh when some talk about alt-right. You should go out a bit more and spend less time on internet at home. You would understand that the society in its big majority is not what you think it is in your little bubble. All the folks I questioned were normal folks. Not the baaaaaad guys some would so love thinking in their stupid way of seeing things in black and white. You gotta wake up. The question is rather why don't you ignore them ? People look like fools to me when they spend several pages trying to force someone to say " he " about Krem and go in circle with the futile arguments for example. Why is it so difficult to let it go ? Why is it so difficult to move on ? The more you push, the more it sounds like a dogma to me.
Welllllll... I was always taught to never judge a book by its cover
To me, if you call someone something... thats fine But if you are corrected and still refuse to do it... that isnt fair or nice
My girlfriend has a younger sister... shes like 16 and her name is Jaimie (I think its spelt Jaimie... I remember it being a pretty odd spelling) but when we first met she just said "call me Jai, Jaimie doesnt really fit me" ... why would I then say "No, ill call you Jaimie, because my opinions about what you should be called obviously take a higher priority over your opinions about what you want to be called"??? That IS inconsiderate
I dont really have a clue what the alt right is heard it mentioned, and I know its something vaguely political but thats about it
GeneralXIV : Finally i respond to your post Joker and Harley are psychotic killers that should be removed from society. Permanently. They are a poor analogy to people who suffer from gender identity disorder. A better analogy imo would be if Batman was of the belief that he was some kind of hybrid man-bat creature and he wanted to severely mutilate himself in order to better immerse himself in this monstrous identity. Would i support his decision or would i try to get him some psychological help? I would get him help. I would try to get him to see things as they truly are and not what his disorder tells him is true. I would try to stop him from hurting himself in a way that he can never come back from. But i wouldn't do it against his will. If he's dead set on it and everything I've said and done wasn't enough then so be it. Unfortunately his transformation will change our relationship. He won't be the same to me. I would only be able to look upon him with sadness, pity, and revulsion. I would have to remove him from my life. People can call themselves whatever they want. I just find it severely irritating for someone to insist incessantly that something that obviously isn't true is actually true and that i should go along with it. I refuse to participate in such things. Like religion. Ohhh! #shotsfired >
I wasnt using them as an analogy, was more testing if you were fine with other people with different mental illnesses being portrayed in video games and media or if you were just against the portrayal of transgender people sorry for the misunderstanding!
Hmmmm well I can think of a few problems with that analogy they arent changing species, and they arent monstrous
You would feel sad for Batman even though he would be happy??? Why???
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Post by Syv on Dec 20, 2016 20:05:08 GMT
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And your second point is the whole problem. Your analogies are bad. Not being willing to follow the ideas of a guy IS NOT being intolerant. Since when a fact is a negative biais ? People are seeing a guy, they are NOT forced to believe that it is a woman because he says so and they are NOT forced to treat him differently because he wants to. I don't have to submit myself to every single guy thinking he is this or that. It's up to people to decide, and you cannot do anything against that. Your moralistic iesson is bad because not founded on anything legetimate.
Not only i don't see the relationship with racism in this case, but I also reject this idea that because you stay true to the nature of the person, you are wrong. No, what is wrong is forcing people to believe something that is only based on an opinion and a few modifications by science. You are basically saying that people are intolerant because they are not willing to play a role. Call me when you will figure out how this is ridiculous.
I fail to understand your logic to be honest. There is a difference between saying those people don't deserve rights, and someone who is just politely just not being willing to play a role. I'm okay with transgenders, and yet I'm not sure i'm able to play a role just to please them. I'm not myself if I do that, i'm not at all authentic, because this isn't at all what I think. A guy who wants to be a woman is not a woman in my mind. That's it. Doesn't mean I have anything against him.
You claim that you are "staying true to the nature" of a person, yet there is hard scientific proof that there is a biological basis to transgenderism. It is their nature. You are cherry picking what science you want to use, yet then pretending that your decision is based solely on science. That's the issue with your stance. It's either misinformed (in which case you should probably recognize that and then become more informed before speaking as if you are an authority) or it's disingenuous (pretending to be based 'in science', yet knowing full well that there is scientific evidence that refutes your stance and ignoring it). Look, I'm not saying that you are transphobic and I'm not saying that you should have to use someone's preferred pronouns. But know that your stance doesn't hold water. Too many holes. Simple. If a guy has a penis, if he was born as such, if he was that way, I consider it as his nature. His initial natural state. If he however does not feel like a guy in his mind, then he can believe whatever the hell he wants. it doesn't bother me. Using a scientific process to change your body, meaning going against a natural and physical state, will not change my opinion. That's exactly what I'm saying. It's easy to understand.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2016 20:12:31 GMT
Simple. If a guy has a penis, if he was born as such, if he was that way, I consider it as his nature. His initial natural state. If he however does not feel like a guy in his mind, then he can believe whatever the hell he wants. it doesn't bother me. Using a scientific process to change your body, meaning going against a natural and physical state, will not change my opinion. That's exactly what I'm saying. It's easy to understand. Right, so in other words, absolutely no effort to recognize the science that refutes this very singular stance. Okay then. I'm done. Keep pretending that your view is objectively correct despite there being evidence otherwise. Just know that it's pretty clear that you actually aren't interested in being objective here.
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