Are romances 100% open to both genders? [answered]

There must be an emotional bond to the other person to feel sexual attraction. Like I said I'm completely ignorant in the subject, because labeling sexuality is always difficult. Demisexuality may be one of the most complicate sexualities to define because its meaning may vary for every person.

Totally feel you, I consider myself a complete ignorant about how many sexualities exist, but I'm still waiting a prominent character who is demisexual or asexual, I think Josephine fits in the asexual spectrum, and watching how Kaidan has only eyes for MShepard I think he fits perfectly in a demisexual spectrum, but this maybe only me. Not to mention for a prominent transgender character, Krem was awesome in DAI but he was a minor character after all.

Why not?   I agree that labeling every little nuance to every little thing can get a bit silly at times... but I see it as a way for people who feel a bit left out from the general population for whatever reason to have something to belong to. And a way to find others to whom they can relate. I don't think that's a bad thing.

My understanding of demisexuality is this: A person isn't necessarily uninterested in sex (as an asexual person might be - though even that has variation among individuals), they just won't feel any sort of sexual attraction to another person unless there's an emotional connection first. And it goes beyond just 'I want to wait.' I kind of lean that way myself. I find the idea of sleeping with someone I don't know well kind of icky, no matter how hot they might be. I need to have some sort of connection (for me it doesn't necessarily have to be a deep one: a casual friendship with a person I respect will do) with that individual. It's not a moral thing - I absolutely do not judge people for enjoying casual sex or one night stands - I just find the idea of it really unappealing.

It's kind of like how a straight person might view having sex with someone of the same gender (or a gay person toward the opposite). It's just not something they'd want to do. Doesn't mean their homophobic (or straight-phobic), it's just their orientation. I can appreciate a hot guy, as I might appreciate a beautiful woman despite being straight, but I'll have little interest in sex with him until there's some kind of relationship there.

Hope that clears thing up a bit!

Why not?   I agree that labeling every little nuance to every little thing can get a bit silly at times... but I see it as a way for people who feel a bit left out from the general population for whatever reason to have something to belong to. And a way to find others to whom they can relate. I don't think that's a bad thing.

My understanding of demisexuality is this: A person isn't necessarily uninterested in sex (as an asexual person might be - though even that has variation among individuals), they just won't feel any sort of sexual attraction to another person unless there's an emotional connection first. And it goes beyond just 'I want to wait.' I kind of lean that way myself. I find the idea of sleeping with someone I don't know well kind of icky, no matter how hot they might be. I need to have some sort of connection (for me it doesn't necessarily have to be a deep one: a casual friendship with a person I respect will do) with that individual. It's not a moral thing - I absolutely do not judge people for enjoying casual sex or one night stands - I just find the idea of it really unappealing.

It's kind of like how a straight person might view having sex with someone of the same gender (or a gay person toward the opposite). It's just not something they'd want to do. Doesn't mean their homophobic (or straight-phobic), it's just their orientation. I can appreciate a hot guy, as I might appreciate a beautiful woman despite being straight, but I'll have little interest in sex with him until there's some kind of relationship there.

Hope that clears thing up a bit!

Yes, this is clear, but the label unnecessarily in this case. I think nobody needs to explain, why don't want to sex with anyone, who not in love with him/her. And if they in love, as I see, the demisexuality's not problem. So: the label only a reason for some debate.

But based on this definition lots of people would be demisexual. I wouldn't bed a stranger or a person I don't know very well or who I don't have a connection with either.

And if there is a label, the people will understand?
There are alot of people, who like you, don't want sex with everyone, even if they are very attractive.
I understand this, even without label.

This is a scale: hypersexual<------>asexual (<---> = people).

Is that merely a preference, though, or a need? Have you never met a person, and had an instantaneous 'wow, this person is really attractive. I love how they look/smell/carry themselves/talk.' Perhaps that really hot guy who just served your coffee, or that beautiful girl that smiled at you in the checkout line. Maybe you wouldn't seriously consider sleeping with them right away... but perhaps the thought would cross you mind. Or you've just met someone at a party, and after a couple hours of great conversation you realize you're attracted to them. That doesn't mean you actually would sleep with them that night. There's many reasons you might want to wait to actually be in a relationship, but that attraction's still there before you've made a deep emotional connection. Before you truly care about or love that person.

From what I understand, this isn't something that would happen for a demisexual person. They would have to know someone for a long enough time to say "I care about you deeply" and mean it before they would even consider the possibility of sex. Even enough to fantasize about it. Again, I don't consider myself demisexual, but I couldn't conceive feeling any desire to sleep with someone I've only known a day or a week or in passing. I'd at least have to consider that person a friend, or go on a few dates, before that happens. Else I find it physically... gross, for lack of a better term. I can see someone as 'aesthetically pleasing' before that, but that's not the same. To go back to my straight person analogy, I can think the same about a beautiful woman. But I could never feel sexual attraction toward one.

Now, this doesn't mean I can't enjoy an in-game romance with a promiscuous person, or, hell, a real-life romance with one... *side-eyes boyfriend of five years*.  But it's nice to see characters in a game that I could at least interpret in that way. Or even just ones who prefer to wait, regardless of what's going in with their biology in the meantime.  Ultimately I don't care about it all that much (though I do care about being able to roleplay a character like that - please no more autoflirts like with Jacob, Bioware) but I don't see the harm in including a character like that as a romance. I understand why an explicitly asexual character would be a hard sell to most players (including me: I just imagine my character making sad grabby hands at a really hot human male LI who is...), a demisexual one will want to bang you in the end, so why not?

Based on your explanation, the pansexual is a demisexual bisexual. A bisexual person, who need some personal contact for making sex. In my explanation: pansexual is a picky bisexual...