Iron Bull romance thread

You mean besides the fact that he's a person, not an animal?

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Chiming in to say I genuinely though this was one of the sweetest romances in the game. It's a real shame it seems to get overlooked so often. It's definitely not for everyone, but if you play it seriously instead of only taking the funny, friends with benefits style replies, it gets surprisingly emotional. I like that for once the LI is the one supporting the protagonist through their trials and tribulations, with a minimum of drama on his end (as long as he's tal vashoth, yikes), and he's one of the only companions who treats the Inquisitor as just a person like him or anyone else, not all hung up on them being the Herald. The way they basically act like an old married couple in Trespasser pretty much sealed it for me.

To be honest I went into it thinking it would be a joke romance for a goofy one-off character I made, and it ended up being my canon, so joke's on me I guess

I think that's what makes Bull so wonderful: he's flexible and self assured enough to accommodate any partners who want to get involved as seriously or as casually as they're comfortable with. He's a very versatile lover with several very touching moments.

I haven't romanced the Iron Bull. After my first play through of DA:I and I saw how he and Dorian interact, I can't bring myself to get between their love. Haven't romanced Dorian either. They are just too cute together.

it's so interesting to me how perspectives can differ, because I read this occasionally from fans and I had completely had the opposite reaction? Iron Bull seems so content and settled by the end of the romance with the Inquisitor, I actually feel a little bad if I don't romance him, lol. To me it felt like a Tal-Vashoth romanced Bull was almost his "best" ending (I've seen all of them and/or heard about them from friends with different world states), it seemed like the one with the greatest chance at long-term happiness to me? I'm not saying it absolutely totally is, no ifs ands or buts about it, obviously! I just mean from my personal perspective when I was playing the game. It's just interesting to me how different people's reactions to his possible relationships are. Different strokes and all that, I guess

That's like saying,to play a dwarf inquisitor is someone indulging in pedophile fantasies. Either way it's a bit of a stretch and a tad offensive, but I suppose that was your point.

My Inquisitors?! Heck I get jealous! Haha, I romanced him on my very first playthrough when the game first came out, so I have a soft spot for Bull. Even when I don't romance him with the inquisitor I currently play, I cannot bear to have him and Dorian in the party together or hear his comments about having sex with the kitchen staff at Skyhold...yeah...just no. Do I have issues? Yes, yes I do

I think it's confirmed that Hawke and Isabela have an open relationship in DAI I think?? I never imported my Hawkebela relationship for this reason /cry 

Anyway, I am doing my "canon" playthrough at the moment and I've settled on Iron Bull. I tried to do Dorian but just found my Lavellan being pulled towards Bull again and again Bull is... well, he's honestly a massive sweetheart. He's also fucking brilliant. Personally, I don't care for the bondage aspect, or the humor aspect (the "funny" scene where all the advisors walk in on you), but everything else is just lovely. He freaking really and truly cares about his love. He's quick to say he isn't sleeping with anyone else when you ask him. When he gets wasted he tells you you have a great ass lol You can give him a gift that's kind of the equivalent of a qunari wedding ring. He points out that qunari don't sleep with the people they love, but guess what? He's doing both with you: loving you and sleeping with you. This is a novelty for him, and that's really quite adorable. He's your guy. He's got your back and he's one of the few romances I can truly picture growing old with their love. 

So yes, I was turned off the first time I played it, irritated and frustrated with my choices, so that I was really overly critical of the romance. But now I'm really really happy with it, and happy to make it my canon

That is SUCH a great way to put it. I actually teach a lot of students like that -- older people who come back to school after being out for 10, 20, 30 years. It's inspiring. And that explains Bull to a "T". He's having to restart his life once he become Tal-Vashoth and there's a lot of new ground for him to tread. He's nervous at first. But that's what makes being his partner in life so special. You can be there for him. For once you're the strong one. It's really sweet.

Nope. If you can't roleplay a character who's into being topped - or at least willing to go along with it - then it's not a good romance choice. I can absolutely see how that would be a dealbreaker, but Bull is up-front about what he wants.

I've another question. From what I can tell from the epilogue slides after Trespasser, Bull goes off with his Chargers and the Inquisitor is left doing what? It makes sense if they keep the Inquisition going as the Divine's peace keeping force but what if they disband it? What then? Surely they could just join the Chargers or at least be given the option? Or have I got that wrong and they do in fact join the Chargers? I know they are meant to be hunting for Solas but that isn't going to take up a whole lot of their time, so they could just touch base occasionally to see if anyone has come up with useful leads. What are your Inquisitor's doing if they disband?