Ryder is definitely less stupid than Shepard

If you go back to ME1s original reviews and the likes you'll find many people weren't attatched to Shepard. Don't mistake your personal feelings as something everyone else shares as even with ME1 being my favorite, Shepard was far from relatable and could easily be viewed as boring. 

I also don't see why you mention the paragon renegade system if you were trying to go by ME1, as it never had that system, it had the better system with intimidation and charm. If you're going to let 3 games if Shepard influence you, don't let Ryder's one game be what defines them just yet, but it's fine to say they're underachieving at the moment.

fir the record Shepard was a good character, but a "video game legend"? Far from it, not even close to a link, Mario, chief, etc etc. if they were so then they'd be continuing their own story as they are the franchise just like I listed those other characters. Legendary character to a franchise to me is a character the devs don't get away from, something Shepard has already failed at.

You can refuse to recruit Garrus or Wrex, and leave Liara stranded until after Virmire. Viola, you are stuck with the survivor and Tali for Therum.

It's worth saving Therum until last at least once just to hear Liara's alternate dialogue, which is pretty comical if Therum is the last pre-Conduit planet.

As already stated "feminization agenda".  If you don't experience this you are enjoying the game for what it is which is good for you.

Those damn feminist! You know what he talking about don't play stupid. It's the god damn doing their pushing their feminist agenda about feminist things it's like Anita Sarkeesian made to teach us that looking at female booty is wrong. The game wants all of the straight males to feel about being straight and male. DUH!

The term "Feminization" is used for more than one thing. 

Here is the term feminization as by its sociological definition: "feminization is the shift in gender roles and sex roles in a society, group, or organization towards a focus upon the feminine."

Here is the term feminization as by two dictionaries' definition: "a process in which more and more women become involved in an activity where there are traditionally more men" and "to make or become feminine."

The search for the term "feminization agenda" commonly led to varying statements of the feminization of men agenda similar to the "gay agenda". According to some of the results, this is a conspiracy by corrupt leaders of American to feminize the male population to prevent uprising against them, breaking down gender differences, causing a decline in gender-specific labelled toy products and as causing a soft genocide of black men. Also, the Illuminati.

I think an elaborate and by which definition you use the term would better provide a picture of what you mean by it especially in regards to the game.

No, I don't see it nor experience it either. Please explain what it is and how Bioware are pushing it.

These 2 bolded definitions could describe the change in MEA in comparison to MET.

There certainly is more females, especially among aliens. There is also way more female leaders:

Initiative was started by Jien Garson. 

Nexus leaders- Kesh, Addison.

Kadara leader- Sloan

Krogan leader- Morda

Angara leaders- Moshae, "the governor"

Pathfinders- Salarian is female, I forgot her name (Raeka?). We probably shouldn't count the Asari...

I don't mind it that much, though I find it weird that Krogan are lead exclusively by females. Since bizantura mentioned "agenda" I'm guessing he might also include general idea of being nice to everybody who is not very very evil as feminine, maybe some other things, I don't know.

PS. you can also encounter female salarian dock worker. That's weird too.
 

Or perhaps they are combat vets with 20+ years military experience and just relate to Shepard better than to a callow little shit with no leadership skills or common sense.

Ok, I still don't get why people are still upset over the rachni. They were shown to be the most vulnerable race to the reapers indoctonation with their history of being easily indoctrinated and them being them most isolated race in the galexy.

Why would people think the reaper would not try and indoctrinate them?

Ryder couldn't even hold up Shepard's shadow. The kid is laughable. About the only thing he does better than Shepard is crack jokes.

Shepard is just a power fantasy (even the SPECTRE status is used in-universe to try and justify it). Ryder is clearly less of one, and people really don't seem to like it.