Ryder too soft

No quandary at all.

It's about choice.

Example - Geralt the Witcher - is what he is. If you don't like him - don't play the game. I did - even read the books.

Shepard - multiple conversation options moulded the character to suit your play-style. You could play the game once and strictly follow orders etc. You could play the game a second time, and do whatever it takes to get the job done - including summary executions and genocide. You could play the game a third time, and be somewhere in between. You could play the character as yourself - as the person you wish you could be - or as your evil psychopathic twin. Every play-through led to a different character. Giving the series excellent replay value.

Ryder is more like Geralt - minus the charisma. Strictly vanilla. You no longer have the CHOICE. So you have a sci-fi exploration game. But it's not a RPG.

Yes as the moment start the mission . It's stated again later on at 6:00

The dialogue is "no place to land". It does not say "the ship is too big to get close  to the area" as you posted

Ryder is given the role of pathfinder. He/she had no say. Upon learning they're the new pathfinder, he/she should realize what that role means. Being a leader. That doesn't mean letting everyone walk all over you. You have to show some toughness. Willing to put your foot down when its called for.

When the asari knocks over Ryder, what happens? Nothing. Why does it take over 20 seconds to push her off? How many people would have laid there doing nothing for that long? Once the asari is pushed away, she acts like its a joke and that it's ok to knock someone on the ground. Why couldn't Ryder confront her about doing that? Ryder just accepts it like its an everyday occurrence. It also shows to the squadmates that you lack any backbone to stand up for yourself and just let anyone get away with anything. Its the same when she uses the escape pod. She endangers Ryder and the other squadmate without giving any thought of what the consequences might be. I'm not asking for Ryder to add another hole in the asari's head, just have Ryder show that she/he is the boss and won't tolerate crap like that. Just doing that, I would have my Ryder kick her off the ship and squad. Me personally, I would leave her on the planet. My Shepard would throw her in the lava.

With regards to Liam. The fact he gave information to the angaran is enough for me to kick him off the ship and report him to Nexus security.

There are characters in the game that say **** you and whatever else to Ryder. Fine. Why can't Ryder reply with **** you too you piece of sh*t?

At the end of the day Shepard was a war hero and N7 to begin with. No growth, just that. Whether you play him as a paragon or renegade the character rarely changes. Yet, that is not to say that I don't love the Shepard story. I do.

Yet I don't want to play Shepard again. For me his story is done. Ryder does have options in his dialog. Quite a few, as matter of fact. He can turn down assignments and make choices that impact the game. He isn't supposed to be Shepard, that's the point of the story of the Pathfinder. Whether or not he/she is considered "vanilla" is simply opinion. To me the character(s) have quite a bit of depth to them.

...people are getting way too worked up over one instance of softness. Meanwhile Ryder can drop people off ledges and shoot multiple people in the back. Yet they are soft for not being able to kick someone off the ship. Right.

Like someone said, Shepard couldn't kick anyone out.

As true as that is, Shepard at least had the option to recruit squadmates whereas Ryder doesn't have that option

Wait a sec. I had 6 shepards and they are all different and their own points of growth. Their just needs a point of a story that they can be individualizes. like my second Shepard who found her limit of being a renegade back in me1 with the I remember me quest, or my 3rd shepard who's a paragon finally getting jaded and gaining a mean strake after the council abandoned her and kaiden broke up with her or my most renegade shepard finding out Okeer's point about being ignored being the biggest insult at the start of me3 and  finding that he and his guns were pointless on their own in stopping the reapers.

While everyone is getting steamed up - perhaps a better example:

In ME2 (I believe), here was a Quarian wrongly being accused of theft by a Volus. After sorting the matter out, both the Volus and the attendant C-sec officer, still gave the Quarian shit, instead of apologising.

Shepard had the option of letting it pass. Or ripping in to them. I've played it both ways. I must say, that showering C-sec and Volus with harsh language, was very satisfying.

Having finished Andromeda, not once did my Ryder show this kind of forcefulness. Everyone just keeps giving him lip, and he takes it.

All I am asking for, is that in MEA2, this kind of choice be re-instated. If people wish to play their Ryder as mild-mannered Clark Kent, they should be able to. If they would rather be able to grab some obnoxious character by the scruff occasionally, and give them a piece of his/her mind, that too should be an option.

Choice - that's all I ask.