Aria T'Loak says the word "patriarch" doesn't exist for her people.

Sten liked cookies. Clearly a Tal-Vashoth in the making.

Well, he is a field agent who has to mingle with other people throughout Thedas, so he wouldn't get far if he behaved like those hardline Qunari that speak in absolutes like Sten. Tallis wasn't very different from him. 

The monotone was part of his alienness.  The codex even said, few Qunari speak the common tongue, and even fewer speak it well.

Asari use the word "father" to describe the parent (regardless of gender) that doesn't give birth to their daughters.

Atheytha tells Shepard in no uncertain terms that she is Liara's father and not her "other mother" (which is the human term) and gets upset/annoyed about it and also if patriarch had no meaning for asari then how did Aria know about it or what it means? Also why would that be offensive to a krogan? I mean Drack is a pretty close to being a literal patriarch he has had at least one child (Kesh's parent), a granddaughter, and great-grandchildren by the end of ME:A. He is the eldest male of family which would make him the patriarch of said family.   

In other words your argument is easily countered and is really pointless and this whole "debate" or argument is just downright stupid.

Unless you're just being a transphobic troll. Then you can fuck yourself.
 

And the fact that Sten (and the Arishok) were members of the military, whereas Bull and Tallis are both spies. The Antaam and Ben-Hassrath are meant for fight their enemies and the other is meant to infiltrate them, so their training would probably be radically different.

Could be that members of the Antaam only appear this way because they're the most visible representation of the Qunari in Thedas, so it's drilled into them that around bas they must project a sense of order and discipline at all times.

That's why after the Arishok lost his temper and ransacked Kirkwall, the Qunari were so adamant that they would "never speak of this again", as well as another reason why Sten felt so ashamed that he lost control and slaughtered innocent farmers.

Might also explain why in Sten's Nightmare in Origins, his Qunari comrades appear far more jocular and lighthearted. Rather than the demons getting their personality "wrong" as Sten claims, this might actually be more how Qunari soldiers act when no bas are around for them to keep up the pretense for.

The Qunari would probably find it deeply embarrassing to be caught slipping up like this, especially in front of bas, since they want to pretend they're above it all.

I get that, it still doesn't make much sense to me, since he was raised in the Qun his whole life, and the story gives no hint of how he developed an actual personality. In DA2 doesn't Talis say they usually use converts like her for covert actions?

Even if the Asari don't have gender specific pronouns originally, they WILL have them after meeting species that do have gender specific pronouns. Even if just because the universal translator will be forced to teach them (unless it's programmed to be completely insensitive to what each species actually is, which I think is highly unlikely because that would lead to a lot of diplomatic shit )

edit: I pretty much blame all of this nonsense on the writers never really thinking through the effects of the universal translator. Not just in ME:A, but in the entire OT.

Liara in ME1 says that male and female have no or very little meaning to the asari but because they have material instincts that is why other races considered them "female" which is pretty flimsy reasoning when you think about it.  

The translator was always kind of weird. I remember the archive in the Citadel DLC with the captured human during the First Contact War talking to those turian dicks and wondering how humans already had translators when they weren't part of the galactic community yet. 

Not much of an alternative to calling asari "she," etc., in English. When ME1 was written the unisex "they" wasn't yet a thing.

I don't really see much of an issue here. If an alien language used different pronouns based on, say, your Meyers-Briggs type, I'd probably want to use whatever pronoun they use for an INTP when talking to one, even if I don't think that this is really a thing.

I may have gone a bit far into the deep end of blowing the "SJW" problems of this game out of proportion because of some Youtube videos I saw about the game. I didn't ever stumble into the pronoun conversation in my playthrough and I didn't get that triggered initially at the "no bigots allowed" line even though I did maybe roll my eyes because, here was an opportunity to show us what it's like to meet a new alien who wants to get to know us for the first time as he has become part of our crew and they pull the "we're all in this together" card where they shove any potential tension or racial difference under the rug to promote what is going on in the world right now which is the totally forced acceptance and tolerance of everything that's different from yourself for the sake of being politically correct. Also disregarding what respect means or IMO the beauty of cultural difference which is exactly that we're not always going to be on the same page. Andromeda disregards this so completely by labeling Javik a "bigot" (albeit in jest) for suggesting that being with "aliens" is a bit weird for him.

That harkens back to my praise of the Patriarch quest and how that was an excellent use of Mass Effect as a cornerstone for a feminist idea that showed the uniqueness and strength of this series rather than shying away from it and that harkens back to my rant where I called all of BioWare "idiots" when it comes to this game.

All the lore in ME 1 is weird when it comes to Asari because there were not created to challenged human notions of culture or an all female race. It was for fanservice and now they finally doing something with it.