Your Response When Our Designated Bestfriend This Time Is Human

I disagree.  Not everyone likes Shepard... Balak certainly doesn't.  Udina doesn't really think much of Shepard.  Even Aria can be said to be basically "all business" when it comes to Shepard... she certainly doesn't dote over him/her.  You can also wind up alienating the Virmire Survivor such that you won't have to shoot them, but they will not offer to come on board the Normandy.  In ME1, Conrad can go away professing to wish he'd never met Shepard.  At the end of ME2, the whole squad can wind up telling Shepard he/she did the wrong thing by not destroying the collector base.   If you one-night Jack, you can spend the rest of that game listening to her telling you to "F-off."

... and you've never had to just accept an overly friendly overture from someone just because the circumstances made it socially improper to react to that overture.  With Liara, couldn't you head canon that Shepard just stifled her urge because Liara's assistant was watching or just being you're in the middle of Ilium's business district and throwing her down onto the trading floor would cause a disruption and you didn't want to get thrown off Illium before you recruited Thane and Samara.  You certainly don't have to talk to her again after that 1st meeting.

So I've being saying all this time how ok I'm with forced best friends and with everyone being nice to Shepard and all, because I usually play a very friendly Shepard, and thinking about it just know I remembered how annoying was one playthrough in which I went very anti-cerberus and completely ignored Miranda and Jacob, when I get to kill Kay Leng and suddenyl Shepard says that's for Miranda you son of a bitch... WTF? She died because I didn't even bother to find out what she needed when Kelly told she wanted to talk to me it was completely immersion breaking, it's true, I regreted I hadn't have her killed in the SM yes, if that would have been my canon Shepard I'd not be happy about it, I guess

I agree... I tend to view those sort of out of the blue lines like that a bugs though... as opposed to "forcing" a friendship on the player.  There are many, many lines in the games that just don't make sense under some circumstances... yet they get uttered anyways.  Like, Shepard being able to ask Anderson about Kohoku after doing the mission Binthu.  Shepard asks where he/she can find Kohoku (totally illogical since Shepard knows Kohoku is dead) and Anderson tells him/her that he last saw Kohoku in the Citadel tower asking about Banes.  Another is that there is no way for Shepard to tell Miranda and Jacob that he/she didn't choose a councillor in ME1.  During the Citadel party, if you go back to Ashly in ME3 after having romanced Miranda (by locking in with Ashley before talking with Miranda), Miranda and Shepard will still talk about watching each other sleep.

They are bound to happen though, when you consider just how much variable dialogue there is in one of these games... and, I imagine, Mass Effect involved less of it to keep track of than Dragon Age (but I don't know for sure because I've, quite frankly, never been able to get into Dragon Age... just not my era.  I don't think people generally give the Mass Effect Trilogy credit for the character relationships being as variable as they really are.  They get locked into the idea of the binary P/R system and don't tend to experiment with making different run throughs experimenting with different parts of the character relationships because they feel it breaks with Shepard's paragon or renegade status.  They don't think about Shepard being a paragon who, for example, would one-night Jack just because he's also the sort of guy who's, say, afraid to commit to a relationship because dying is always something at his doorstep.

Anyways, ME:A is going to break away from the paragon/renegade setup; so, hopefully, more players will feel freer to explore the variious nuances within the relationships to a fuller degree than they did with the ME Trilogy.

... and how come Shepard couldn't kiss Ashley or Kaidan on Horizon like he was able to be kissed by Jack at Grissom or like he was able to optionally kiss Jack in the shuttle when leaving Grissom?  How come he/she couldn't force a passionate kiss on Liara on Illium if romanced?  The people writing the game can't possibly write in every sort of level of emotion that different players might want to playthrough showing to each and every NPC in the game.  It just makes the game too unwieldy.  I think Bioware has put more variations into Mass Effect than people generally give them credit for?... that's just my humble opinion.  Can they improve upon what they did in the Trilogy?... certainly.  Did they do it better in DA?... I don't know because I don't play DA.

Not perfectly OK... and I did say above that they could certainly improve on what they did.  However, it is neither enough reason for me to flip out about it nor enough reason, I believe, to prove that they "force" the player into universally being in a BFF relationship overall with Liara or Garrus.  In spite of the one hug with Liara (which I can decide to dismiss as I described above), if I don't talk to Liara or Garrus and talk regularly with Kaidan or Ashley instead, I will feel as though my Shepard is better friends with either of them than Liara or Garrus.  The player still has some control over who they develop their deepest friendship with.

I don't know how DA handles it.  Do you have some sort of selection menu ahead of playing the game where you can check off who among a list of the NPCs you want to like you and who you want to dislike you?  I'm starting to get that sort of impression about it.

If Thane is alive in ME3 and you talk to him in the hospital, you wind up kissing him on the cheek to thank him for in generosity in watching the Virmire Survivor.  It doesn't matter whether or not Shepard is male or female and, if female, whether she romanced Thane or not.  Wrex will also pat and greet Shepard warmly in Tuchanka in ME2 and Shepard has no choice but to stand there and allow Wrex to touch him/her.  There is also no way for Shepard to tell James to pick up the VS rather than him/her tenderly telling him/her that he/she is getting them "out of there" even if Shepard was completely angry and anal to them on Mars prior to that point.

In ME3 when you first talk to Thane at the window in the lobby of the Huerta Memorial Hospital.



At 0:49 in the above video... They did try to cut the scene a bit from what FemShep does, but you'd still have to be pretty stupid not to recognize it as a kiss on the cheek.

With Wrex, it's still a best buddy move between men that some men might object to... but Shepard doesn't have that option.  Shepard could have hated Wrex in ME1 but has no option to express that either.

With Thane - As I said above, you'd have to be pretty stupid to see that "lean in" and the set of his lips by a Male Shepard with Thane as just a pat on the shoulder... and a male Shepard can't romance Thane.  A FemShep who has not romanced Thane goes through the same motion.  IMO, it's an error on Bioware's part to have not cut the scene differently... i.e. removed the entire pat of the shoulder.  Why is any touching in that circumstance necessary?

People only flip out over Liara's hug though... and, IMO, that's just overreacting.  The hug doesn't bother me... and like you... I heavily favor romancing the humans only in my playthroughs.  I've already leveled some criticism at them - yes, they could certainly do better... and I believe I'm being fair and reasonable.  I have no intention of buying into your capital case over it... so you'll have to carry one without any further responses from me on this issue.

Its the exact same animation for Khalisah, Steve, Anderson.... there's no kiss on the cheeks

If Liam is anything like the Liam I'm thinking of, I'll be happy to have him as a designated BFF.